QUESTION: My husband is getting restless and frustrat- ed and baffled and concerned . about me - and so am I! Im the last eight months or so, I- have been getting less and . less interested in going out of | the house. I dread going to parties, although I used to enjoy them; 1 simply. hate going - shopping. for. the groceries: Tih, : let's face ff, 1. ‘just don’t want to go out..A | _ couple of times when I had to. go shopping, [i did not -WANT to go, but I didn’t feel | terrible about. it] 1. was- suddenly | overtaken with a. strange kind of fear. I wanted - te be home and quick. This. life ‘thing. is. ruining my . because it ‘seems :to be | getting worse. Now Pm not. ‘only. afraid, but I'm afraid of » ‘becoming afraid! When this. comes on, my hands and feet -go icy cold, my heart seems a ae ae Meanwhile, don’t . decide © . Lbelieve’ you can get. good help and | to pound and I am: terrified. . What ¢ can I do about ft? ‘srewaiers As you snow, 1 I am not a medical man, . but. the’ ‘symptoms ‘you describe | suggest to me that a doctor. ‘might tell you that you_are -agorophobic...Which means, | | “as I understand it, a fear of the market piace, or a fear of where people are gathered together. The biggest burden on you © is what Doctor Claire Weeks | _calls ‘second fears’’, that is _ fears of other things that you think MIGHT happen be- cause of your primary -fear: I am told by a couple of doctors who have given a lot . of attention to problems: like yours, that some rewarding. progress . has» ‘been - made." recently . ‘in. - handling | your.’ > condition. 1 would like to. chat with -. you sometime about your fears, but in the meantime, I “Suggest you study a recent . book by Doctor Claire Weeks, ‘ING: In an assuringly profes- entitled | PEACE _ FROM NERVOUS SUFFER- - rrr : —_ rs woe : Swe, .Sional ‘manner, Dr. Weeks 9 2.7734. discusses clearly the pro- | 7% VARs blems of the agoropliobic and 3 ; other related topics such as: oe i “loneliness, depression, ‘etc. ~, The . good doctor -has. also” authored. HOPE AND. HELP. FOR: YOUR NERVES. | you are ‘‘in for it”’ learn to handle your pro- blem, perhaps even frning it. into : an. n opportunity! _ QUESTION: will you a give u us. “a: criticism of TV’s new. ‘programme called ‘SOAP’? | Pd.-like to hear what, you think of it. | ’ STEWART: 1 disqualify “my- ‘self because I’ve only seen. one small ‘bit of the’ first I was a bit_ Programme. Shopping. Centre On The. North Shore - * 44 mplnngninie on pease aye Aa a mena Yap: TEE (HeAaLaa AAHfAlme mip peaks eRretE IMME Leo Rim fey 8 teen ot ort ened ~ counselling. 7 Ais: new. office’ in- the: Plaza - - Freelance: Counsellor sina Stewart: ‘may: be. ‘reached: at 261-6242. for: appointments | for: family” or ‘group _ individual,” International - Hotel [open Tuesdays only} is: fer the convenience: fof North: Shore - residents. a ‘ * underwhelmed with - “What: L DID.:see, but that i is. saying | -fothing really. _ ae With - ‘the. Lions. in’ “first ‘place “and.” the: baseball play-offs. and World. Series, the amount of time I graciously allow myself ‘for - TV is pretty weil taken up. 4 This j is a rare opportunity to bring family or friends. for a ‘visit to _. B.C. The Air Canada Reunion includes return transportation fora - een ~ family of four from any Air Canada departure point in Europe or Ne ~” Canada to Vancouver. Plus two weeks. accommodation at the . oe DS laza International Hotel = in. North Vancouver. Be sure to enter for your chan e to win! “ft _ Holidays. | "QUESTION: SKI HOLIDAY | Fly via Pacific ‘Western Airlines, . 4 _ glorious skiing for two for one week at Heavenly Valley, Lake : ‘Tahoe, courtesy of: Silver wing months or so have been. rather: ‘unsettling — for. me. e. beeause every little while’ rt - ‘find myself questioning | some. ~ ofthe. things: that. 1 think - should he solid: ‘foundations — im my life. rH give y yout three. examples. I wonder if I should be with ° . the woman I’ve been with for four. years: I wonder if. Ef should be in a different kind — of work; 1 wonder if I. am living in the right place. | See what I mean? The last 18 paige 15, October 19, 1977 - North Shere News | eally quest! on all of them. Do’. -you think: that | is abnormal: or Ranta? a “STEWART: ta “fself, . your. questioning’ ‘(and even doubt- ing) attitude in- "regard. ‘to - - important areas of your life is “neither abnormal nor harm- ful. How you. handle it may ’ become harmful for you, but the questioning itself if healthy. The harm may come through = your indecision, ~ your fear, your procrastina- tion and even from your morbid wondering . : a your possible abnormality. q would like 1 my love. and _my work-and my home to feel. solid to me, but the truth of - _ the matter fis hat q perlodl. QUESTION: . About. “that” ' question and answer a ‘couple of -weeks back - concerning « freedom and. responsibility. | still think accepting respon- . _ sibility. wipes out freedom. If » everyone refused .to accept responsibility for anyone else ~ we. would all be free and better off. lam tryingio teach ‘that to my kids because, as.2 _ parent I feel I owe it to them - ‘to kelp them find - fall .. - freedom, and to know. what — ‘imdependence is all. about. They. should be: self-suffic “‘fent. Right? a STEWART: If you believe . that, why bother. teaching — Cariboo Cross-Country oe | SKI HOLIDAY . ¥ 2 Ride ‘B.C. Railway to the ne _ FEYING: U Ranch at 70 Mile a House; onto the Red CoachiInn= | at 100 Mile House; and then to. A the 108 Ranch., All meals in- ‘cluded. Return on Pacific Wes- tern Airlines. Trip’ courtesy of | . the Cariboo-Chilcotin “Tourist 7 Association. | : ~ Royal Hudson — Special‘Excursion! - 350 couples will win a “Ride on the Royal: Hudson’”. to Squamish, Saturday, October 29th. 50'winners will be drawn daily at the Tourism B. C. Booth on. the South Mall. - 7 suggest you do ‘not just "ponder over these. matters, — , i but. rather, face: ‘them | and Sep your kids? If you: ‘believe that, how come you feel you ‘‘owe it to them’’?:It’s.a good “thing you didn’t believe your ‘theory when your kids were » born, because without your | sense of responsibility, your . kids would have died. ‘about deal with them. You may - want to talk them over with a friend, (notice I did not say, , ‘‘with. several -of © your. friends’) or even seek:out some professional ’ counsel- ling. . Give yourself permission to deal with these matters as . wisely as _ possible rather ‘than just worrying about them. What’s probably hap- pening is your Higher Self is simply needling you to rise to greater heights, to find new dimensions of _ self-respect ‘and to avoid taking your lif = for granted. You may be ‘ready for some new steps. into a. more rewarding’ maturity. and creatively. Irresponsibil- ‘ity ensiaves the guy who so sincerely wants to be free! It - seems to be against tie universal flow of love-energy for a human being | to say *‘to hell with you’ . L-go. along - with you in -your ‘expressed _. feeling’ of responsibility for i aspects. of mature freedom lies in-your. self-given right to your - The | trick . be - selective - . responsibilities. _ lies in learning. how to be free about. enough to accept appropriate '- responsibility’ and to. be . responsible enough to handle “your: ‘Freedom: constructively. ski _ fabulous Silver Star at Vernon, plus accommodation Village Green Inn, courtesy of Pnaelfic « Western Airlines. “Raggedy Ann and Andy Adventure! _ -.. 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