Page 28, March 21, 1979 - North Shore News| They're good workers buf.... ‘Impulsive’can also be’ P| ask ’ Hayden Stewart Freelance Counsellor ' Hayden Stewart may ) reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or reup counselling. ‘pot care, QUESTIONS: rm working and responsible in so many ways, but are exasperatingly uandependable and irrespon- sible in what they call ‘little ways’’. They, more times than not, are late for appointments or come on the wrong day. They say things like, ‘Sorry old man, I-must have got mixed up on when I was to meet you’’. They. say that as though it clears up everything. Then they do it again next time! 4 iy I can’t believe they just do they are not really like that. Pm -wondering if there is some His new. office in the Plaza international Hotel (open Tuesdays onty) is for the convenience of North Shore residents. particular acteristic that becomes a pattem in their behaviour. There’s no sense in me riding them if there is this something sort of ‘“‘have to do’* because of their person- alities. Have you got a comment? STEWART: As a part of my > counselling procedure, I sometimes administer a psychological temperament analysis. Time and again I am aware that people wha "score. extremely high - in “impulsive’’ are rather erratic in ‘‘little things’’ like keeping appointments, being punctual, handling money matters, etc. . r ‘A very impulsive person tends to do and be what he FEELS like during any given hour. Now, if that fellow who habitually performs in line with how he feels, is also \ socially. “|Impulsiveness in socially. Impulsiveness (in itself, beautiful) just simply costs too much in friendship and love, if and when the impulsive person has or all. of these personality (rajts mentioned abov ‘other Most of us simply cannot pay the price of being impulsive if we are also I. have The Employment Tax Credit. ic’in little things - hostile nervous. or depressed — or Such people would be doing themselves, (and their friends or associates) a big. favour if théy were to cultivate sufficient self- discipline to allow them- selves to be in charge of their lives rather than victims of their own whims, hungers; angers and mood. At least they could then CHOOSE employee.That means up to 3342% their irresponsibilities rather - than helplessly falling into them willy-nilly and being hurt by them. — quite nervous, or quite Program was introduced by the more tax credit. hearted on nite ipa tight Government cf Canada to stimulate [~ Greater eligibility. he will most eettainly employment in the private sector. We have expanded the number behave in ways that seem irresponsible to the fellow he works with or relates to y Just what is ‘kinky’? QUESTION: m= almost thirty and have been without a “man of my own” for three years. I don’t like it. I want to have s home and a man and (perhaps) 2 family, although I would like to keep working. A friend Ive had for about foar months now f just about the best person to come my way in ages. I really like him a lot and he has a lot going for him. I would like things to work out with him, but there. ts one problem that bothers me. I can’t think of a nice lady-like way of saying th’s, QUESTION: [ve got a feeling you might know the name or title of a little poem I heard In a speech not too long ago - or perhaps you kmow the author. It may be called ‘‘Ode to Serenity’ or something like that, but | can’t find it anywere. The opening line is ‘*God give me serenity”’ but I can’t get any farther with fe. ’'m afraid 1 may be too vague about It to give you the right clues, but that’s about all | can tell you. Can you help me find it? STEWART: The clue that clicked with me is the opening line you quoted. 1 think what you have heard may be what has come to be known == affectionately — by thousands of Alcoholics An- onymous members as The Serenity Prayer. | believe it was not written FOR A.A., but they have been wise enough to see its profound common sense and have used it widely. I'm quoting from memory, and so | may not get every word right, but if you want to be sure about it, simply call A.A. or Al-nonand they'll fix you up. Here it is: so I'll just jamp right in. This man is what Fd call pretty” kinky, - How can I deal with that problem? STEWART: I can un- derstand your not being more explicit, but please ‘understand I can’t say much on the basis of what you. have told me about him and about yourself. For example, if Iknew what YOU mean by “kinky”, ‘feeling that YOU are kinky and that your man is saddled with a kinky woman who God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, I might get the- feels HE is kinky! Follow me? So, in very general terms, I would say you have at the very least, three alternatives: 1. Get kinky with him and see if that is for you. 2. Get out. 3. Talk things over with him, letting him know how you feel, with .a view to understanding each other better and arriving at a mutually~rewarding relation- ship. If youfeel SURE about wanting to eliminate any one or two of those alternatives - - do it! Then give the one that is left over a real good effort. An Ode to serenity The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom difference. to know the What do you think? QUESTION: What do you think of a man who would leave me for two years and then suddenly come back asking for another chance at marriage? 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We've simplified the procedure, so vou can do the whole thing, from beyinning to end, with just two | single-page forms. For full details on the program, contact any Canada Emplovment Centre’ Canada Manpower Centit. Ee cx - - _ EMPLOYERS: CAN YOU IGNORE A POSSIBLE TAX CREDIT OF $3000 OR MORE? loyment and Empioi et imeniprauon Canada = tmmigration Canada Bud Caution, Minister Bud Cuflon, Ministre