50 - Sunday, January 17, 1988 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES NEW ETIQUETTE RULE CREATED DEAR MISS MANNERS — I grew up in Calgary and went to school in Winnipeg. I have recently moved to Toronto, and my new job is such - that I .am_= always meeting new people. In trying to get to know me, these people ask me where I am from. When I tell ‘them, quite often they assume a superior air and respond, ‘Weil, f°!) bet you're glad to get out of there!’’ or “Calgary -— why, I hear it snows there in July!’ A hearty laugh usually follows. Others whose hometowns have negative images receive similar treatment. Having travelled exten- sively, I find this happens all over. Apparently the people who make these remarks find it preposterous that one can live — and actually be happy — beyond the borders of their little Garden of Eden. They are implicitly saying, ‘“‘“How can you be so stupid as to live in such a dumpy town?”’ I suppose you could cite as just one advantage the fact that my hometown folks are well-man- nered. But of course this irony would be lest on the. big-city sophisticate. I have therefore devised a rule of etiquette Gf Miss Manners would allow me to be so Presumptuous): Do not denigrate a person's hometown. If a-friend hails from manners by Judith Martin Devil's Island, praise i it for its soti- tude. You'd be surprised the affec- tion people hold for their oid cit- ies. _Untl everyone learns this im- A special care residence for seniors Here's what the residents say: “T love the staff here ~ they really care.’ “Park Royal is so close..." _ ~“T like playing bridge... and the big TV screen... and the outings..." “The meals and snacks are terrific.” - Inglewood - more than 25 years of special care for the elderty. Now Inglewood Manor, a brand-new facility providing short or. long term care, all the amenities, — including a beauty parlour and the finest in round-the- clock care. A wooded, private setting yet minutes from _ Park Royal and downtown. Call today for information or come in for a visit. Contact Mrs. Lydia Stym at (604) 922-9394. For long distance, call collect. portant rule, what is the proper response? GENTLE READER — You should hear what people say to natives of the Capital of the Free World about our dear little village. Miss Manners particularly dislikes this habit in politicians who are in the very act of trying to move there. The rule you propose is an ex- cellent ane, and Miss Manners en- dorses it heartily. In the meantime, you should reply as one always does to an insult delivered to one’s face: “Why, thank you. How kind of you to say sa."" DEAR MISS MANNERS — My wife says that the man should order all food for his party in a restaurant. Tht sounds very awkward to me. Can you explain? GENTLE READER oe is hawing : January awkward now, because both patrons and restaurant staff have forgotten how to do it. Most waiters seem to worry that a gentieman who says, ‘‘Madam will have the pheasant’’ may be unauthorized to represent her, and that there will be a terrible fuss and perhaps a lawsuit unless she confirms the order. This has discouraged gentlemen from performing what was once considered a polite ritual of assum- ing the role of host. Miss Manners prefers that one person collect and give the orders, rather than having a‘cross fire of changed orders announced as peo- ple change their minds (‘‘No, no, that sounds good — give me that instead’). But she does not carry this preference to the point of making a greater fuss by insisting on it with a waiter who uses the round-the-clock method. DEAR MISS MANNERS — My but then so are a lot of other stores And The Time is Now. To Purchase Fine Quality Furnishings From Our Gallery During Our January Clearance boyfriend received a wedding in- vitation from a friend for ‘“‘Bob & Guest.’’ We have been dating for two years and living together for the past year. f am upset because ‘‘she’’ did not put my name on the invitation. Bob says ‘‘she’* is probably too busy getting ready for the wed- ding, etc., to worry about that. Bob says ‘‘she’’ is 2 very good friend he has known since high school. Bob's been to dinner par- ties the past couple of months (I couldn't attend because of work? and ‘‘she’s’’ been there when J’ve picked him up. Bob went to in- troduce me to ‘ther,”* and ‘‘she”’ made some flip remark and kept on walking. How rude! Should I be upset because of the invitation, or is the way she addressed it pro- ‘per? See Address Page 51 . but they aren't sell ig 9 Piece Dining Room Set Reg. $17,999.00 Sale *8,999.00 Sofa - Reg. $1,999.00 Sale $999.00 Everything in the Gallery is on Sale. | \ 4 4 4 | f : | £ Ett Ra ED RE AS ETT CRT UTES 3 Piece Wall Unit - Reg. $9,995.00 Sale *4,999.00 INGLEWOOD | MANO 725 Inglewood at Taylor Way West Vancouver, B.C. V7T 1X5 4240 Manor St., Burnaby, B.C, | HOUkS: Monday ro Saturday 9-5 p.m., Sunday Noon to 5 p.m. (4 block West of Villa Sheraton Hotel)