C10 - Sunday, May 9, 1982 - North Shore News MAKING CHANGES QUESTION: I was told by some people that make a stady of these things that | had the wrong name for my personality and that I would be much better off to get it changed to something that would be more fitting for me. I had no interest in changing my name, in fact, | didn’t want to do ft. But these people were very convincing and seemed absolutely confident ‘that | would be better off with a different name. Well, ‘things were going badly for me and I was willing to try akhmost anything to change things around for me. As I say, I had no confidence in the idea at all, but I went ahead and had my name changed. That was almost six months ago. Since then, believe it or not, I have felt much more confident and different things have happened to my advantage that I could only have hoped for under my old name. [ don't know ff you Why t QUESTION: One of the best movies I've seen for a long, long time was On Golden Pond. It communicated effectively about youth and age and lIoeve and hopelessness and fear and death and courage and good old character. It was beautifally done, of course, by the Fondas and Hepburn and that young kid. But why, oh why, did they spoil it by swearing so much? The story was good enough on it own without using that offensive language. | felt that it was quite inappropriate and took away from the value and the entertainment of the show. To be or not to be QUESTION: As I write, the British fleet is speeding to the Falkland Islands. It scares me stiff. What will i mean? Are we heading for World War II1? STEWART: Y ou'll know by now ey Ae, oo wh — : yet Facials Pedicures Arches Lash & Brow Tints Hand & toot Mask Manicures Ear Plarcing Waxing ‘ hey ah bo Gloria ’ Exothermic Masks Jean ESTHETICIAN are acquainted with the theory behind changing names, but I'd like to have you make a comment about what you think. You see, 'm wondering ii the name change has anything to do with my improved life and situation, or if I could have brought about the changes without changing my name. STEWART: I am no expert on the theory you raise. | think it is healthy, however, for you to give thought to the matter. There is quite a The scenery was magnificent. The language uglied it. STEWART: A show like that hits different people in different ways. I am quite unaccomplished at swearing. It's something I have never really learned to do. Moreover, I feel rather awkward when swearing is used in my presence, even in Vive le QUESTION: Will you ex- plain to my wile, and perhaps a few thousand other wives, the difference between wasting hours on end watching soap operas, and watching the NHL hockey playoffs? I'm afraid ve harangued a bit in our family about the way so much time is wasted wat- ching TV. Now come the play-offs, and everything I've sald seems to be coming back to haunt me, because | watch all the play-off games 1 can. WHll you do a kind and deed tor humanity 4 HAIR DESIGN LTO. UNISEX 926-6910 1730 Marine Or West Ven | possibility that the decisiveness you exercised in going ahead with something you felt might just possibly make a difference to you, could result in your incresed confidence and in your readiness to allow things to happen, or to make things happen, that you had not hoped for previously. I am happy for you that things are going better. But | cannot feel any confidence that your betterment is because you now have a different name. Allowing this day and age, ! hardly know how to react. But I saw On Golden Pond and felt that the characters who were being portrayed said exactly the right things at the right times, even though their words were not the ones that I (another character all together) would have selected. There is the clue! They did not give yourself to feel that things could be better, may have encouraged you to live out your life a little closer to your potential. Keep that up and the day may come when you'll want to change back to your real name in order to offer yourself some evidence that you'd got what it takes whether you are called George or Jorj or Djourdg or Vorticoncyculima. A rose — or a skunk — by any other name — (depending on the wind) may turn you on, or away. ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. he ugly language? me the impression they were “selecting” their words at all. Those were the words those people would use. Can you imagine the character portrayed by Kate Hepbum, or the one who was por- trayed by Hank Fonda, Saying, in exasperation, “Dear Me!!"? 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