C12-Wednesday, November 19, 1980 - North Shore News QUESTION: Your picture in the paper shows me that you are pretty old. So how is it that you seem to understand STEWART: It’s easier for me because I don’t LIVE with any stupid kids of 16 who have not even learned yet how to be over 10. You see, I don't have any responsibility for you. I don’t have to worry about you because you said you'd be home at mid-night and now it’s 2:30 am and no word from you. I don't have to figure out what to do about your obviously thinking that ANYTHING I say is dumb and wrong. I don't have to worry about you getting pregnant or getting a dirty ncedle or getting such good grades (in some subjects) that I'm afraid [ll seem even dumber to you than you have already made me feel. | don’t need to worry about failing you as a father when | am trying my best to show you I love you. I don’t need to walk the floor all night for the sixth night in a row because you have taken off and are holed up someplace that I can't even imagine. I don’t have to wonder what in the world your needs are that prompt you to swipe money from me and pretend you haven't done it. I don't need to worry myself sick about not understanding you even while you are pointing out to me that you don't understand me at all. I don’t have to be sick because you seem unable to believe that | have deep love for you. | don’t have to deal with your sneering at me and using language with me that I have never got used to. It is so much easier for me. Like your parents, I just KNOW that you have Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. His office in the International Piaza Hotei (Open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents. trememdous potential and that deep down in you is great quality. | know that, just like your parents know it, but I don’t live with your day-in, day-out efforts to behave as though you don’t know it yourself. Your parents have it harder than I do. The best way to make it easier for them and a heck of a lot easier for yourself is to let them have evidences once in a while of the real girl, or the real guy that seems so frightened of being their true selves. You are O.K. and it won't do you or your parents any harm for you to admit it more often. You are O.K. Come on now — admit it. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Be conditioned to opportunities QUESTION: I chink F've been con- ditioned to be overly careful about fe. Is that possible? My parents, aad indeed my whole coanection § with relatives have exposed me to be very carefal about Where to find hypnosis QUESTION: I heard a lecture the other day on hypnosis and its valuc. Can you te me why M.D.s are all opposed to hypnosis? STEWART: They aren’. There is even a Medical Hypnosis Association to which many highly respected and = well-traincd medical men belong. I am not sure, but I believe if you were to call the BC Medical Association, they would more than likely give you the names of several doctors and psychiatrists and = ofber qualified persons who regularly practise hypnosis DOWN COMFORTERS when, in the judgement, such a procedure seems appropnate. True, doctors tend to be pretty careful about new methods that are still questionable or not sufficiently documented to satisfy them, but that is not a bad thing. Some doctors seem to be dead stuck and ughtly closing their cyes to new methods, but there are not as many like that as you would guess. 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