26 - Sunday, May 13, 1990 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES EE Should bankers wear pointed-toed moccasins? DEAR MISS MANNERS — Our son is a banker and dresses appropriately in single-breasted suits with vest, oxford button-down shirts, and a regimental striped silk tie, but he insists on wearing, for work and leisure activities, black tasseled moccasins with pointed toes. Are we incor- rect to be offended by this? GENTLE READER — Your son is obviously a rebel and an anarchist. Who brought him up? Will he ever be able to live at peace in decent society? Miss Manners rather thinks so. A banker who tolerates his parents’ criticizing his shoes, without either giving in to them or giving in to the natural feelings such an invasion would inspire, is a gentleman after Miss Manners’ own heart. DEAR MISS MANNERS — A friend came to visit me for 10 days to get over the breakup of a romance. She offered no assistance at al! with the cooking and after- meal cleanup. In fact, she resented being asked to help, saying ‘that she felt ‘‘too sad” to work and that I seemed anapproachable. Options DEVELOP NEW skills, explore your community and find fulfill- ment by becoming a volunteer. The following is a list of some of the volunteer opportunities avail- able to you through the North Shore Information and Volunteer Centre, PROGRAM assistants to help staff with organizing and running programs for small groups or indi- vidual youths. Volunteer should be over 19 years, energetic and willing to lean. Hours are Monday to Friday, 3 to 9 p.m. and Saturday and Sunday 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. A volunteer over 14 years is also needed to assist staff with organiz- ing and running programs for small groups of children. Hours are Monday to Friday, 8 a.m. to 6 p.m, PUBLIC relations person is needed to write press releases and Pleated Shade Sale. Special savingsnow Only on Abbey Pleated Shades—custom 6 ¢ made to your order. Wide variety of fabrics and colors to fit any square room. Any mood. inch BAN: ABBEY 7 - 5 Capilano Draperies 444A West 15th St. N. Vancouver 988-5621 Judith Martin EE ee I tried many times to encourage her to talk, hoping that [I would understand her moodiness, which I felt was burdensome to my family as well as self-centred. We quarreled about the proper role of a self-invited house guest. I have always felt that when I em a guest, I should assist my host or hostess with the extra burden. GENTLE READER — Let us see if Miss Manners understands this situation correctly. Your friend invited herself to your house because she was miserable. She then did everything a house guest can do to make you and your family miserable. Now she declares that you were callous not to bear your misery in order to allow her to indulge undisturbed in her misery. Miss Manners hopes you are not falling for such an argument. While it is possible to be so distraught from a broken love af- fair that one is incapable of going through the ordinary motions of life, such a person should not be under the strain of being a guest, unless in a psychiatric hospital. DEAR MISS MANNERS — I am the designated fashion arbiter for our office. Many of our employees, particularly younger females, are completely unaware of the basic feshion rule of ‘‘no white before Victoria Day or after Labour Day.”’ I believe this is codified some- where in British Columbia law, but I am unable to find it. Would you please restate the no-white law for me to reinforce my position? GENTLE READER — This is not provincial law; it is Miss Man- ners law. Unfortunately, another Miss Manners law, against criti- cizing other people’s habits and clothes, tzkes precedence over it. for volunteers short articles for a health organization. Volunteer should have writing skills and an interest in health. Hours are flexible, occa- - sional werk as need arises. OFFICE and typing skills are needed for the position of secre- tary for a community service group. Duties include answering phones, light typing, filing and general office duties. If you enjoy seniors, come and join this dynam- ic centre. Hours are Monday to Friday, one to two times per week. ENTHUSIASTIC fun loving recreation assistant is wanted to assist an instructor with a variety of children’s programs including aquatic lessons, tumbling, dance, art, indoor-outdoor sports and special events for ages two to 20. Hours are very flexible, training provided. Volunteer will have ac- cess to pool, gym and studio. 3043 Woodbine Drive North Vancouver Edgemont Village featuring The Stan “Cuddles” Johnson Quartet Opening Friday, May 18 8:30pm - Join us Friday and Saturday nites The New Woodbine Inn PHONE monitor and installers are needed to phone the users of a home emergency response system on a monthly basis to ensure the system is working properly. Vol- unteer will also answer questions and test equipment for the elderly or chronically ill users. Hours are two shifts Monday to Friday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Training and orien- tation provided. FRIENDLY home visitor is needed to visit a genial elderly woman who is very isolated, and to take-her shopping to Edgemont Village. Flexible hours once per week. If you are interested in these or any other volunteer opportunities call Dru at 985-7138. The Volun- teer Centre is a_ participating member agency of the United Way. xLive Profile J —?_ » ae 12:30pm reservations recommended 985-8115 Bring your taste buds to life with an exatic blend of spices. Enjoy Indonesian lunch weekdays at Vistas on the Bay or in The Lobby Lounge. Or, savour oriental menus with subtle spices for lunch and dinner in Dynasty, Come to our Indonesian festival at New World Harbourside Hotel. May 15 - 25 Lunch Specials weekdays at Vistas on the Bay and The Lobby Lounge buffet May 15 - 25 Lunch and dinner daily at Dynasty Restaurant Q NEW WORLD HARBOURSIDE 1133 West Hastings Street Vancouver. B.C., Canada VGE 3T3 Telephone: (604) 689-9211 Fax: (604) 689-4358 Toll free: 1-800-663-8882 ‘A MEMBER OF NEW WOHLO HOTELS INTERNATIONAL Aquaculture Technician Program Dedicated, trained technicians are needed to work in all aspects of B.C.’s fast growing aquaculture industry. Our 34-week program is designed to prepare individuals for immediate employment. It covers the theoretical and practical skills needed for successful culturing of salmonids and includes a 10-day work practicum. The ideal candidate will be a motivated 2 individual who can work under often rigourous and isolated conditions. For more details, come to an information ’ meeting Wednesday, May 16 at 7 p.m. in re Room M101. Call 987-1535 to reserve a seat. CAPILANO COLLEGE 2055 Purcell Way * North Vancouver ¢ B.C. HOW TO PROTECT YOUR RIGHTS FOLLOWING A MOTOR VEHICLE ACCIDENT Derek Cave A car accident is a traumatic event for anyone, especially if injuries result. There are, however, some very important things to do following a col- lision which may preserve your right of recovery for damages against the other driver. Some basic points to remember are as follows: . If location of impact appears important, do not let the other driver move his vehicle before the Poiice arrive. If he does not move it, diagram, or have someone else diagram, its location on the roadway. 2. Note and diagram the location of any debris on the roadway, if possible. 3. Do not apologize or admit fault for the accident to anyone including the Police. 4. Do not argue or discuss the accident with anyone, particularly the other driver. 5. Secure the other driver’s full name, the make of his vehicle and license plate number. 6. If the other vehicle is from out-of-Province, insist on full details of insurance. . Obtain the names, addresses and telephone numbers of any possible witnesses. 8. You are not obliged to give any statement to the Police concerning the accident except to identify the owner and driver of your vehicle and to produce your license and insurance particulars. 9. In case of a serious accident, retain competent legal counsel before making any statement to the Police or [.C.B.C. In the next column, J will discuss how to deal with 1.C.B.C. following an accident. For advice concerning major injury claims please call our personal injury group at: Derek Cave Dennis Quinian Martha Konig 687-3216 Ferguson Gifford Barristers & Solicitors Suite 500-Park Place 666 Burrard Street Vancouver, B.C. V6C 3H3