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Look good not for
hubby but for you

Q. In my early 20s, with one child, I weigh 140 and feel like
it’s 200. I really don't look so fat but can’t help feeling
ashamed and ugly. When my husband locks at other
women, I feet sure it is because I am not nice to look at. It
doesn’t help when he calls me a horse or says, ‘“Go get me a
drink. You need the exercise.”’

I have left him in the past and he =I have developed too fast, which
always chases me dowa to get me rans in my family. I am developed
back. It isn’t that I really think he more than my friends aud have
will leave me. I just feel unatirac- thick body heir. This causes jeai-
tive, he doesn’t help, and Iam sick ousy. And guys think this would
of feeling this way about myseif. make me goed with women

A. 1 don’t know what 140 whereas I am backward with them.
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have seen gorgeous women who 15-year-old boy is to be worried
weighed that much. On me, 140 about if he is normai.
would be a small whale, not neces- Take it from me, mother of a
grown man, a boy and his friends
will never be developing at the
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make time pass as pleasantly for
yourself and your friends as ycu
can. Don’t try to rush your feel-
ask ings to match your chest hair.

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sarily on you. i think you have to
look at yourself and how you dress
and groom yourself, and every day
you get yourself together so that in iim
your own eyes you look nice. Do |
this for you, not your husband.

if you need to lower your
cholesterol and fat intake, if your
doctor says change eating habits,
mind the doctor and do that — for
your own health and self-respect.
But remember, weight does not
mean attractive or unattractive. If
you get stuck with the idea that
thinner is always better, you can
siarve yourself to death without
ever feeling pleased with your
body.

When you please yourself, other
people can’t help being impressed
and attracted. Including your hus-
band. And he will ask for a drink
politely, and knock off the teasing
if you tell him to.

Tell him husband-wife teasing
like on ‘Roseanne’ is OK when
both partners know they are really
understood, loved and respected.

Q. Lam concerned abcut normal
bady growth for a 15-year-old boy.

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