16 - Sunday, June 17, 1990 ~ North Shore News ‘SPIRITUALLY SPEAKING Church explores what moves men From page 15 Haysom, who discussed the influ- ences on his life as he moved from adolescence to manhood. According to Rosen, there are several reasons why Western men may have lost contact with their true inner masculine qualities. Whereas women are initiated bio- logically into womanhood through menstruation and childbirth, males must prove their manhood through performance. But unlike tribal societies in which boys are given specific in- itiation rituals, males in our culiure are not guided through this period and often end up “‘frantically attempting to validate themseltves’’ by being a workaholic or by chasing various status symbols. Compounding the problem is the fact that a boy’s primary caregiver is usually his mother and he often lacks the consistent pzesence of a male role model. Bly, whose popular ‘‘A Gather- ing of Men” television show was re-aired on KCTS 9 last week, claims that sons lost the vital, ongoing contact with their fathers when fathers began to distance physically and emotionally from their families during the Industrial Revolution, when they started to work in the city instead of staying on the family farm. Reconnecting with other males is one of the goals of the ‘*mythopoetic’” movement Ied by Bly and others like him. To date, almost 50,000 men across North America have taken part in their male-only workshops in which participants may engage + in drumming, music and myth to reawaken their masculine energies. Bly also encourages men to find the ‘‘Wild Man’’ within themselves — a source of creative energy that is not brutal. Since the feminist movement, Bly notes that men have become ‘‘soft males’? — repressing all their strength to avoid oppressing women. Now, says Rosen, it's time for men to find a new model — one by which they can feel comforia- ble living out both their masculine and feminine qualities. He quotes the author Starhawk, who writes that she envisions a man who is “‘wild without being cruel, and spiritual without being unsexed.*’ Men are at the stage where they are embarking on a journey of self-understanding similar to that undertaken by women over the past few decades, Rosen says. He points to a line of a song in the Sunday service that read **Our women sees visions, our men clear their eyes,"’ and asserts that it is not a sexist statement, but an ac- curate portrayal of the stage men are at in this psycho-spiritual movement. The next step, he says, is for men and women to ‘join hands and create a better world." Rosen is involved in planning a gathering of Lower Mainland Unitarian men modelled along the lines of Robert Bly’s workshops. For information, call the North Shore Unitarian Church at 926- 1621. The Unitarian Church is located at 370 Mathers Ave. in West Van- vouver, Services will not be held on the North Shore over the summer, but will start again in the fall at 10:30 a.m. on Sunday mornings. Get your car READY for Summer Holidays with our Pre-Vacation Service includes ¢ 56 pt. Car Care Inspection ° Lube, Oii, Filter. Change ° Up to § litres of Protec I1@W30 moter oil © New oil filter ua © Metric filters extra’ ¢ Most cars / light trucks ¢ Ask for details LESS! most cars © Vans & A/C cars extra. - © Vehicles with point & . condensers extra. ee as ‘Ask for ‘details. INCLUDES: © Labour to install news) ark lugs © Perform c inder balance test.» Check timing ¢ Check and test HT. wirin =p utor cap, rotor, coil out dt hee and wat ° Check and adjust idle speeds fume) ¢ Check operation of E zn valves. s most cars ; applicable filters « Final ignition systems analysis « Road test. Expires June’ "4990." ALL ATLAS PARTS, TIRES & BATTERIES CARRY A NATIONAL GUARANTEE MILO VANEALST AMBLESIDE ESSO 3707 DELBROOK 1801 CAPILANO RD. 3089 EDGEMONT BiVD. 1890 MARINE OR NORTH VANCOUVER NORTH VANCOUVER NORTH VANCOUVER WEST VANCOUVER 987-2515 988-5288 922.3925 GLENN HUNTER VILLAGE ESSO DAN KROGH CAP TEX ESSO GERRY GRACA DELBROOK ESSO CROZIER (CRO) Lu LUCAS & IAN WILSON WEST VAN ESSO 1392 Marine Dr. West Vancouver 922-0138 TONY HORVATH & PETER WILLONER MOUNTAIN HWY. ESSO 2747 Mountain Hwy. North Vancouver 985-5712 imperial Oil You can make us better.