Rav Pray, ar) g . gs vo Uf ' ae ss ' . ers * 7 ~*~ “ y wt | ' “a a ae , - ¢ tL : . 4 ‘ f ney PR XY TA ki . H a o 3 . t ” t od Ry 34 - Sanday, July 23, 1909 Petals Ma tees 9 A, ee ~ North Shore News. Fl ea WEDDING SEASON SNAPPINESS _ Bride makes suggestions DEAR MISS MANNERS — As a bride-to-be, I’ve noticed excellent lesson, just as soon as she a little bit of something resembling Open Season on Brides, even in your own lovely column. Brides all over are being chastised for being selfish, petty, insensitive, ete., these days... In response, i'd like tc make a few to the friends and family, and friends-and-family-in- law of the bride: 3. Gat-of-towners: No, I did not schedule my wedding on your bir- thday or anniversary just to annoy you. I picked it Secause it was the oaly day available in my church in the next calendar year. If you can’t eome, I'm sorry. If you do come, please don’t complain to me about your accommodations, the food at the reception or how much all this nonsense Is costing you. 1 already. know how much it costs. I'm help- img to pay for it. 2. Close friends: Don’t ask me, “Why wasn’t I asked to be a bridesmaid?"’ Please be careful not to re-wrap and give me the gift 1 gave you for your wedding. 3. Attendants: If you can’t af- ford the expense, tell me when I ask you to be an attendant. Then I can offer to pay or you can bow out gracefully. 3f you said you want some say in how the dresses look, keep your eyes peeled and help me shop. Please keep in mind that I’:> dealing with a group of women of very different tastes and sizes, and I'd lke to please you all as much as possible. When invited to “preview” a dress before the decision, either go and look at it and give me your opinion, or don‘t complain sbout the choice zaade. Please don’t fuss about the relative size or attractiveness of the other ladies or the groomsmen. They're also my friends. . 4. Greomsmen and the best man: I spent months plannicg for this day. I would appreciate it if you would deliver the groom to the chucch on time, ot noticeably suffering from tke effects of too much alcohol. 5. In-towners: if you can stand the thought, offer to put up some out-of-towners. You will claim my undying devotion. Offers to drive these people to the reception, to the uirport, or wherever, will also be greatly appreciated. Some day I may be able to return the favor for your child. 6. Family: Talk about the * ¢other" family quietly, preferably somewhere else, after the recep- - tion. 7. Everyone: Please answer my invitation promptly. And don’t do it with a phone call, either. If you dow’t want to get me 4 present or throw me a party, fine. There’s no obligation. Just don’t try to ex- plain it to me. Correction Notice § Million Dollar Inventory Clearance Wednesday, July 19, 1989 issue, page 36 Selected Typewriters ; $50-200 off . should have read $50-60 off Please don’t criticize my choice of china, crystal or silver — or husband. Don’t ask me how much anything, or all of it, cost. Make an effort to socialize with anyone who looks lonely at the reception. miss manners Judith Martin Don’t ask if yoo can bring a friend. If ;ou could make an attempt to do the above, Ud appreciate it more than aii the presents or prr- tles in the world, And please —- no more spoiled-bride anecdotes. I may snap and run efter you, screaming, waving my Bridal Or- ganizer. GENTLE READER — Miss Manners will thank you for this ' :| Dervis Quinlan Martha Konig r @ LIFrestyLes Derek Cave can control the blush suffusing her delicate cheeks. For indeed, you are quite right thet Miss Manners has allowed herself to become snappish during wedding season, when she has been overexposed to brides whose credo . : is After-Ail-It’s-My-Day. - DEAR MISS MANNERS -— I work on siage and in the niotion- picture business in a technical position. Invariably people I meet - a socially will hear about this and ask, “How do they do such-and- suck?”’ er, even worse, “Oh, have you worked with any famous peo- ple — what are they like?"’ How does one cut off peaple seek- ing professional advice in social settings? GENTLE READER — If people were stopping you at parties to” say, “I’ve always felt I would make a ‘errific movie star — can you put in a good word for me?’ ED you ‘vould be justified in replying, “Excuse me — 1 think my drink| needs freshening.’’ If they were asking you for help with their home movies, you ccuid say, ‘Oh, i come to parties to escape work.”’ But what you describe — over- interest in. one’s profession, prompting questions cne has heard too often already -- is, while a nuisance, not the serious etiquette - transgression of requesting profes- sional advice when out socially. N NSTE Veronica M. Howard Notary Public’ is pleased to announce the opening of her office ut ° 2nd level, 1500 Marine Drive North Vancouver, British Columbia fo assist vou with Statutory Declarations Adwmirtstrative Work Name Changes Notarizing Documents _ and much more Wills Conveyancing Morigages Builders Liens Power of Attorney Fax: (604) 986-7653 Office: (604) 985-9663