page 4. - Feri 18, 1976 - ‘QUESTION: We have been married seven years now and both of us feel that perhaps’ we ought to get a separation. We just don’t seem to click very well and are wondering if we should ever have got. married at all. I guess I love Ed [nat his real name] and he says he loves me, but we are not communicating well and are not having much plea- sure in our marriage. We think there’s a possi- bility that if we get a - separation we may be able to - get to know ourselves, what | awe want in life and what we _ are willing to give. We are both sort of bored with each other and frustrated about our situation. “What do you think about - ’ our. getting a separation? | This letter is for the paper, _ but I am enclosing another one giving you more infor- mation. .—- ‘STEWART: A separation may help you accomplish all . _ those things. If a separation. did that it would be well worth while. But I am wondering. why you want to ‘‘get a separa- tion’’, rather than just making sensible plans to be _ apart for a little while. The letter you sent me personally says you have never been’ QUESTION: I am one who has done a lot of quiet thinking about living well and- being the good sort of person I want to be. Iam not a crusader or a revolutionary. - T am just living my life as well as I can and on the whole I am profoundly happy about it. My husband and daughter’ and I'use pet on occasion and _ the other night my daughter was picked up and charged with possession. She was - asked by the police where she got her joint and she told them she had got it from her. mother. The police came to our house and found that we | had some marijuana there. As a result, our daughter will no doubt be charged with possession, but I will per- haps be charged with poss- ession, trafficking, and con- Letters con't Save Seymour ‘ To the Mayor and North Vancouver Council Gentlemen: The Burrard View Assoc- jation would like to express our heartfelt disappointment ‘in your decision of Feb. 9 1976, on the Seymour Sec- ondary School complex. We are pleased to sec that, you agree with our philos- “ophy but sorry that there is.a lack of foresight to future development, We would like to thank those aldermen who did support the project for their lime and = effort. It regrettable that although the t pe | District” is. _ North Shore News. apart during the seven years of your marriage. Why. don’t you and Ed plan for you (or - for Ed) to go off by yourself for a week-end or.a week or a * month? I'd suggest that whoever leaves for a while should net go-running to mama, but should arrange to do a lot of thinking about’ the very things’ you' mention up above. If you, together, can work out some guide-lines on how to use your separated . time, so much the better. Why not each of. you agree to have a serious confidential _ talk with your minister or a. counsellor or some good ~ friend? Talk. about yourself, not about your partner. Talk about how yeu can’ bring more to your relationship, how you can change in ways that will allow you to feel you are a better person, a better husband or wife and‘a ‘more; - giving lover. Then come back. together and tell each other ~ what... you have already started doing to bring more to the marriage. Don’: make . even “one suggestion about how the other fellow should change. Each of you do your own. thing and have abundant expectancy in regard to your lover, but no specific expec- tations. tributing ‘to the delinquency of a minor. . i do not feel ‘about marijuana the same as the . law feels. I’m not pushing for it being legalized or anything of the sort, but I feel very badly about anyone being in ‘a position to explore our home and make a judgement about the quality of life we care sharing In our family. Our daughter fs a delight to us and a fine person and I cannot feel anything but resentment about ‘what the law: calls her delinquency. . . I feel It is unfatr, STEWART: 1- believe 1 - understand why you feel your treatment has: been majority of the ‘aldermen. were in favor of the complex, -a two-thirds majority was not ' received, thereby. making it f impossible for~. _ council ~ commit funds. | ' ‘We trust that in the not too | _ distant future another coun- . cil, will see the wisdom of . providing services to people © in an integrated facility. 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