C2 - Wednesday, July 22, 1981 - North Shore News RUNNING isn't the best exercise for women, says Maggie Lettvin. The average bride and groom have one big ad- vantage over celebrity couples such as _ Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer. When the royal couple sets out on their honeymoon July 29, theyll! have less privacy than newlyweds and they'll have to work hard to get and keep their privacy. “IT think the pressures on them to be an ideal couple are much higher,” says the director of the National Center for Family Studies at the Catholic University of America, in Washington, D.C. “All couples have to disagree sometimes — if not on the outside’ their stomachs may growl,” the Rev. Steven Preister said ina telephone interview. “There's no way couples living together can have all the same likes and dislikes, needs and desires. They may have to negotiate, to compromise on this and that.” People have unrealistic expectations of honcymoaons, Preister said Wedding trps can be splendid eed bul never perfects * “TL wish honeymoons were portrayed differently.” he the average | said. “They are made such a big deal that, if a couple fights or one partner becomes ill, they feel it is a forecast of doom.” He has several suggestions for avoiding trouble on the honeymoon, as well as the post-honeymoon blues: First, it helps to stay home a few days to unwind instead of leaving immediately on the trip. This gives a couple time to adjust, to get over the excitement of the wedding festivities, to relax and be alone together. “It's almost universal that the couple calls home while honeymooning because they miss everyone when _ the shock of suddenly being alone hits them.” One way to head off potential arguments, he said, is a pre-honeymoon discussion of their schedule. As much as possible they should plan activities that both enjoy and try to avoid those that) one partner dishkes intensely A schedule filled con stantly with = sightseeing, romantic candlelight dinners and dancing 1s not good, he said Couples should have a neutral time, for such things as reading or watching IV “ames when they are together but not necessarily {Oo, earing "See us for good hearing aid service — sales, repairs, batteries and advice northwestem hearing centre 1910 Lonsdale north vancouver Open Tues Fri 8 30 5 985-5552 Sat 9 30 1 Closed Mon interacting with each other.” Just being alone together 24 hours a day in a strange place can produce tensions for most couples — whether newly wed or long-time married, he said. One solution Preister suggests is a private time daily when the partners go separate ways for a little while. This doesn't work for every couple, he added, because in a strange place one partner might feel uncomfortable being alone. As the honeymoon comes to an end, Preister said, couples should try to make the return tmp enjoyable and. if possible, set aside a quiet time before returning to work, a quiet time for unpacking, getting settled and setting up their household He said post-honeymoon blues are common because partners have to get down to real issues with each other canon \ Le Wy A be Mai Nhe DIMNE phahy AWPL EFT t “S27 bomedinle avomwe * we FROM PAGE C1 own creation, a 395-calorie health “brew,” which she said she has drunk faithfully for 10 years. “Some very high-quality foods eaten every. day can give you all the elements and compounds we know, so tar, g@that you need.” She wrote in her latest book, “Maggie's Woman's Book” (Houghton Mifflin, $6.95 paperback. $12.95 hardcover). The “brew” does not taste good. She likes to call it “snake oil,” =probably because of its fishy flavor (from the cod liver oil). It combines such health food store acquisitions as desiccated liver powder, kelp, wheat germ oil and acidophilus capsules, to moon trials for Diana and _ settle routine. into a daily They should build special times into routine for doing things both enjoy, he said. Many think this an un- necessary luxury, Preister added, “especially when their finances have been depleted by wedding and honeymoon expenses and setting up housekeeping.” To him, it’s a necessary investment that should be budgeted. Preister said many couples complain they don't see old friends after their marriage. The old fmends think they're doing the couple a favor by giving them their privacy. Not so, he said. “Newlyweds should make every effort to maintain old fmendships — both = in- dividually and, as a couple. 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