QUESTION: Several months
age, you received a letter
emplaining ‘about surly,
impolite checkers In super:
hnarhets, You repiled to the
letter in your column, Last
night at a party an argument
developed over that column,
I clatm that you bached the
person who wrote in the
question and added some of
your own flack tn critielim of
the check-out glrls, Some of
the others at the party wuld
you defended the ately and
ave the questioner hell, Am
ryht or wrong’?

STEWART: Weonty. He:
caine that partleular letter
brought the most reaction of
any this volun fas ree
evived, | ant repeating the
question and iny answer!

Freelance Counsellor, Hayden
Gtewart does private counsel:
ling ae well as a great deal of
group work, Ho ean be
contacisd at 204-6942 for

Ma

STEWART, e/e the North
Shore News, 4202-1130 Lene:
dale, North Van,

Sexual frigidity can usually be
overcome if properly diagnosed

QUEATION: i “mn 45 and

r @ ren he uy.
We have one child, Goh
vot question but I'l hope for
the best,

:

My probiten, wo 1 have
hoon mofy that § am
frigid, Two dovtors have told
me that without any explan-
ation of what 14 means and

omidyin o
abous , They burn me up,
Vor some vont disease thoy'll
hospitalize me or give mo
inedivation oy advise, but for
thiv troutio, they just pro-

nounee in mw voles of doom

Griyidll vorme, tut 1
Pha know why, hor do
know what enuses it, nor van
6 find help in sombautiing Mt,
What tw trigidily and what
oan he done for mot

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UESTION: Dm ev slek and
tired of the checkers tn
supermarkets, ‘They are sO
muller and rude. When I
nian tn line waltlng sy turn
to bo chachod out I see them
belng nasty and cold and b
the the F get to the cash
ronlniar Din sirondy fastens,
in going to speak to the
managers of (he (wo stores |
use most of the tlie and let
them hnow how § feel about
the serview and the attlude
of the checkers. What olse
ean I do?

STEWART: What else?
Well, let's start with YOU. it
Is people ke you who have
gradually worn down the

checkers until thoy Guat ike
you) are expecting a belllg:
erant attitude from the tent
customer it tine, How would
YOU fike to be 6 checker and

QUMBTION: This mey sour
stupid, but 1 keep hearin
‘tgoft drugs’ and “har
druge” and i don’t know the
difference, | have net tried
any drugs, but if i did, what
would be the difference TO

E iff emeke pot or use
heroin?

STEWART: Hero's ono bly
Aifference: If you had been
smosing pot and for some
reason important to you had
devided to quit, it Is quite
likely that you would be able
to make it, On the other
hand, if you were hooked on
herein (and, by the way, you
et hooked very quickly) and,
or sume extromely impor.
tant reason decided yuu
warted to quit, It is very
iikely that you would fot
make it, ft is as slnple as
that, Hardly anyone ever
walks away from heroin,
Shore are hundreds more
ox -pot-sinokurs in Vancouver
than thors are ox-heroln

STEWART: Ieee no reason
why this paper should not
tint your question, but
hore is wu rathor practival
rouson why it could not print
my roply, There iw fuse
slnply nol enough space
available to this column for
ino to truly answer you In any
worlhwhite manner, § will
have to contont mysolf with a
brief commont and # sueH
ostlon, The word ‘‘frigid’” tw
not much more than a slang
expression for a large variety
of voxel inadequacies, en-
poulally in women, You vould
Uv, for onumple, Unselect:
ively and eagerly promis
uous on the one hand, or
totally repolled by any sonuul
autivity onthe other, and still
be fabolled “frigid.” In
beiweon these apparent ox.
trumen ave many other sorts
of sunual activity or Inactivity
that could be bulked together
under the heading of “frig:
tay. Nt is wo whore thud
seh at tiNclontific sung
oxpronsion Is uned an widely

have one person ater anoth:
er coming to you all day long
in the frame of mind you are
deseriblng? Have you ever
approached the cheeker with
a bit of understanding about
how she feels about the
Aithtudes of customer after
Vustomer? Have you ever
approached the loheokor with
o onmile and) oa warn
understanding addliuede?
Forget about complaining to
the managers and, Instead,
change the situation your:
self, BE the change you want
brought about, Spread a litte
youd will, Let the checker
now that you understand
what a hard job she tas,
deallig interminatly with
grouchy selfish people Ike
OU. Come on Men,
Serovge, loosen up, spread a
Iitle love, It works!

users oven though heroln has
been around for a long long
time and pot only for a
relatively short tle,

Another lmportant diff.
erence has to do with one's
life style, There are very few
heroin addicts who can afford
to support thelr habits for
many weoks without having
to resort (ao stealing of
prostitution and then going
hat route day after duy, year
after your and feaving sot
one square inch of thine oF
space for joy und love and a
sense of worth, Being add.
feted to heroin Is not fun, 1
have known personally ale
most a hundred addicts in a
rotty intimate way and I've

EVER known a happy one,
Onee addiction forces out
joy, it rarely over finds tts
way back,

Heroin Is hell, f you want
a hell of 4 iifoshoot heroin,

as it Is, oven by medical mon,
It mounn practloally nothing,

Now, two suggestions, 1.
There is a very strong
itihood that your unhappy
situation can be changed for
the better, (1 say this because
5 know from my own
oxporionce with women who
have discussed this matter
with mo, that most of the
time thore oun bo aw the by
rosvlution of the problem, '
Arrange tu seo wo marriage
vounsellor, paychologist or
(another) mudivul dovtor and
anh for specific holp, nut a
halt-truked diugnonis, § won
dor {f one of the ductors you
wont to sau could have boon
the on why sald to o woman
wih tater became o cllont of
min, “Never mind my dour,
won in not overything you
know,’ Some doctors are
able and willing to offer
unetul holy on this subject,
tut you, up wruntly piehed w
couple of duds, Don't give
up. Now joy iy awalthing you,

Houseboats

vontinued from page t

that the NHB would consider
tuking stronger action If the
loval counell formally deelar
ed them to be “oblectlonable
and therefore constitute a
nulwanee,”

Oveupants of the hottse:
bouts pay no municipal

tures, Ald, John Lakes
wondered where thelr water
supply came from, and Ald,
Gordon Rose wanted to know
how they disposed of thelr
newage,

The letter to courrell from
the ‘Tiltons asked "Who
wants a bunek of shacks In
thelr area? if this ts
allowed...others will surely
follow,

Moored at the

Our buffet has over 54 varieties of trash
delisiuus seatoed dishes, the majority of
whioh are caught iy loual waters,
To nate a few, oysters on the
Half sietl, touthwatering
prawns, Alaska King Orab,
dollsiaus rainbow trout, de-
lighttul surrled shrithpe and
vurried prawns, We also serve
the landlubber delisigus tender
stoake and a ohicken spedially,
Huvervations suggested,

foot of Lonadale

In that case we have no
recourse but to apply for a
reduetion in our taxes on the

rounds that the aren is
depressed and polluted,”

The committee decided a
atatf member should attend a
meeting with the NHB to
express the district’s specific
vomplalnts and report back
on what NHB action may be
tuken,

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