Concerned husband is probably over-reacting about behavior rashly enbarking on a campaign to Q. PE CANE vet rid of a suspicion about my wife and ber father. This isa’ta case of a wife being more family-bound than her husband. Sohave the idea that there has been cuore than ibere sould hive been between oi father-in-law and his daughter, cathouph | hase ao proof that would stunt up in help psschotherapise or court. Should 2 try to get from it counsellor? A. te your letter you add to the above a number of events and hints and clues that hive distuebed you, although they are very far from: being convicting evidence of incestuous behavior, On what you present, you are in a position between overtly suspicious and without solid evi- dence. By that £ mean vou could have misread various things, and on the other hand you could be right but just have nothing substantial to go on. You have read a lot about child abuse in all kinds of families, and ways for the family members to recover from the experience and have your marriage stay intact. Perhaps you would want to do that — if only you really knew the truth. But this is not a truth to be pursued if you have nothing but your own intense suspiciousness to cause your concern. I see no reason to go for psychotherapy. Maybe you could use some marital counselling at this point. There is something, I dudging will take place at 2 Gardens. 5 Years and under 6 Years - 10 Years Over 10 Years 1) All eggs must be hardboiled 2) Allentires must be submitted to th in Park & Tilford Gardens, opposi 12tk, S pm. 3) All decorations must be Corporation management of the judges shall be fi contest is subject to tegulations. PARK % TILTORD § BB: CENTRES iy BESS vat) ae Dr. Ruth feel sure, thats botherme you in your marriage cdlationshap and this suspicion of incest is a way ol channeling your discontent. [Hf you were largely pleased with the tela fionship, you would brush) these suspiciods aside. Refore you po to a aiiriage Ruth Westheimer couesellor, do same orginized setf-examination, Make two lists — one fer things in your marriage that you dike, one for the things that bother vou. 1 don’t mean things that would stand up in court, but those little things that you ire ashamed to mention to people: ‘Fo much in- terest in others; nov thrilled enough to see Me come home; isn't fisten- ing when f talk, then interrupts to say what's on her mind: on the phone all the time; doesn’: care how the place tooks.”’ When you have identified some reasons for heing disgruntled, you may feel you can cope better, talk to fier better, improve things by your own efforts without that marriage counseling. Or you may feel that you have enough to ask her to go for counselling with you. Q. I watched the Roseanne TV show the night she and her hus- band went nuts and started to diet to lose some of that weight that made them famous and popular. They portrayed a typical couple J“ EGG-STRA | EGG-STRA! + EAD ALL ABOUT IT! This Easter Park & Tilford Shopping Centre is holding an oo” EGG COLOURING CONTEST ON SATURDAY, APRIL 14th, 1990 pm. at the SOUTHSIDE OF SAVE-ON-FOODS, NEXT TO THE NORTH SHORE WINE CELLAR. In case of inclement weather the judging will be held at the ROSEROOM in Park & Tilford There will be three age categories in this contest: The winning entries in each category will receive $200 in gift certificates which can be used at any merchant in the Park & Tilferd Centre. RULES & REGULATIONS he Park & Tilford Administration Olfice (@ te Lumberland, by Thursday, April + original, ie NO STENCILS, NO APPLIQUES. 4) All eggs become property of Park & Tilford Centre. 5) No substitute or transfer of prize wall be i by ean Conte a ida ith the exception oO! 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