44 - Sunday, June 23, 1985 - North Shore News

Bathing attire not accidental

DEAR MISS MANNERS —
Frequently, young women
appear naked at the sapart-
ment pool where I like to
have a daily swim. Oh,
thece’s wisp of fabric here
and there, but essentially,
they are naked.

Though I am a man of
msture — some would be
unkind enough to say
post-mature —- years, I con-
fess to a residual interest in
what is exposed. But chiefly,
J am embarrassed by and for
the young women.

lam puzzted as to proper
behavior. Consider the foi-
lowing:

A friend and I, entering a
downtown office building,
were startled to observe im-
mediately ahead of us a
youag woman with her
backside exposed from the
waist down. I was dumb-
founded and could only
imagine that the split-skirt
tactic has reached a -uw
level of daring.

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Now, shobf foitrcesy
apprise the young -. omen: at
‘the pool of their nakedness,
assuming they don’t know
and would appreciate being
told?

My mind quavers and
numbs at the thought that
the nakecness is intentional.
But assuming that it is, whe
is the proper response?

A studied indifference,
pretending that there is no-
- body there? (Pun un-
premeditated, but not bad,
don’t you agree?) A
pretence, *‘the emperor has
no clothes”’ style. that there is
no breach of decoru:n?

GENTLE READER
Please sir. Miss Manners
sympathizes with your state
of shock, but get a grip on
yourself. It is convention,
not yardage, that determines
decency in clothing, and the
ladies at the pool, who are

technically wearing bathing
suits, are not indecent.

When you calm down,
you will acknowledge that
there is a difference between
accident and fashion, and
that the poolside ladies,
unlike .k2 unwrapped one in
the wraparound § skirt, are
not dressed as they are
because they failed to notice
that their muumuus fell off
in the elevator.

There is nothing for vou
to do except the one task
that a gentleman must per-
form, no matter how dif-
ficult he finds it: pretending
that he does not notice.

by Judith
Martin

DEAR MJSS MANNERS —
What should one do with the
napkin if one must leave the
table during a meal, but will
be returning?

I heard that you put your
napkin on the table, left of
the dinner plate, if you are
returning. And you put your
napkin on the table, right of

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the dinner plate, if you are
not returning. My brother
believes you should put your
napkin in your chair if you
will be returning to the table.

What is the proper thing
to do? This topic comes up
in my family al every
birthday and holiday dinner,
and it would he fun to have
the answer for next time.

GENTLE READER

Next time, take your napkin
and wave it frantically above
your head. This has nothing
to do with whether or not
you are leaving or returning
to the table, or any other
kind of manners. Miss
Manners is only suggesting it
is the signal of surrender to
your brother, to whom you
have lost the argument. He
is correct.
DEAR MISS MANNERS —
My daughter is almost 14
years old, and some of her
friends have been wearing
lipstick, rouge, powder, eye
shadow and dark fingernail
polish since third or fourth
grade.

For a little over a year, I
have allowed her to wear
very light pink polish on her
nails, although I do not real-
ly approve. I have adamant-
ly drawn the line there, and
am vehemently opposed to
the lovely, fresh, natural
look of young girls being
despoiled by artificialities.

I have told her thai at 14
she may wear a very light
pink lipstick if she desires.
She yearns instead to
discolor her face, especially
the area around her eyes,
with a potpourri of color

‘and cannot understand why
{1 am aghast at this or at
purple nail polish.

It is true, Miss Manners,
that many of her friends do
have colorfully adorned
faces, although others have,
for one reason or another,
restrained themselves. My

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contention is, however, Chat
some things never change: to
wit, the proper usage of
makeup by young girls,

GENTLE READER
Oh, everything changes
slightly, if you look long
enough. There was a time
when a young girl anxious to
shock her mother had only
to pinch her cheeks to
achieve a slight pinkness.

An appropriate com-
promise would be to allow
wild) makeup, which she
must pay for out of her
allowance, to be worn only
when she is entirely among
her peers, which eliminates
school, home and public.

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