‘ _. bage 32, January 10, 1979 - N Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, famity or group counselling. oe His new office in the Plaza international Hote! [open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore ‘residents. Still « football widow QUESTION: Well, my husband’s back and. everything is just dandy again. I missed him. You see there were 24 scheduled hours of TV football last Saturday, Sunday and Monday. He got in on most - of it, I chink he felt a little, or _a lot guilty about all this football binge because he has been extra nice and attentive ant affectionate ever since Monday. Great! I've started a new life again. Ie’s almost worth it being a football widow because after it’s over he's swell. STEWART: Are you ready for this? What are the chances he’s just getting you buttered up for the “bowls” that are still to be played? How about the Super Bowl and the others that go at least until the end of January? Look forward to the time you'll have when the season is REALLY over! Address it correctly Have you ever sent a letter off to a friend or business associate without being entirely certain of the correct address? Last year some 25 million picces of mail had to be diverted to the Directory Service section of Post Offices in an attempt to find the correct mailing address. ‘Using city, telephono, trade directories, and other similar publications, Directory Service staff were able to find and correctly re- address only nine million of those items. The cost for supplying this totalled $2.8 million. Because the success rate for this service is so low (38 service ‘deliverable mail , Discretionisthe _ better part of Valium a) QUESTION: My doctor has me on Valium and I hate the idea of depending on AN¥* drag. I know there are times when tranquilizers, etc., make sense, but what I'm worried about is my doctor. Although he has not said so, che gives me.the impression tht he expects me ‘to con- tinue on Valium indefinitely. He never says anything to me about getting over whatever it is in me that makes Valium necessary. I think PH just quit taking them. What do you say? STEWART: Well, first I say, ' “Fm not a doctor.” Please ’ keep that in mind as I answer your letter. You would do well to let your doctor know how you feel. He may feel he can ease your difficulties (with Valium) but that getting at “what ails you” could better be done by a doctor who specializes in that area. If your doctor thinks that way, request a referral. If, for some reason gshat I can't imagine, he-does not want to refer you, then get a satisfactory ex- planation or a new doctor. Meanwhile, “what ails you” may be something you can. learn to handle by calling on some of your own resources that you have not yet learned to trust. If you are blue, or tense, or anxious, or fearful, admit to yourself why that is, and be - open to changing your way of livng. a "Take these Valium regularly” may be _ the doctor's way of saying, “Hey young lady, it’s time you _ took a good look at your- self.” Tranquilizers are not forever. “Discretion is the better part cf Valium” and finding your way into in- tentional living is the way to find out when you don’t need them any more. If eternity assured why try now? QUESTION: I have given my heart to the Lord, but everything seems to go wrong in my life. I suppose I am being disciplined or perhaps punished. But what I want to tell you is that I believe In eternal salvation and. know that everything will be beautiful in the life beyond. So, ff that's the case (and there are scriptures to prove it), why should I bother struggling and trying here in this life? If eternity is assured, why try so hard in this life? STEWART: You have a lot of faith about after you die, but not much for these days while you are still breathing. Right? If the scriptures offer you so much for the after- life, I have a hunch they have something for you in the here and now. per cent) and the cost so high (40 cents per item), starting January 2, 1979, Canada Post's Directory Service will be applied only to mail of international origin, domestic first class items of value and special services, This includes registered and Certified Mail, C.O.D.'s, Post Pak, Telepost, special delivery and domestic parcel type Ist, 3rd, and 4th class items of valuc. When ai correct’ for- warding address for these and all other first class items cannot be found the mail will be returned to. the sender, or sent to the un- office if Sitting around waiting for the after-life is one great big beautiful cop-out. Probably you are being challenged by life to do some growing and changing and are either too lazy or frightened. If you believe in the author of the eternity-idea, ivite him to let you know what he wants to offer you now. I am sure you would be concerned about a friend who was doing nothing to earn a living these days, because when she’s 40 she'll inherit some money. Come on friend, end the cop-out. Now is the time. Here is the place. The above is not necessarily a “religious” reply. Anyone who is sitting around and waiting for pie in the sky, when they die, is missing a heck of a lot of pie right now. It’s all baked and ready and within reach. But life won't force feed us. We have to arrive at our choices. there is no return address available. ’ The growth in the amount of mail being diverted to Directory Services coupled with the fact that the various directories, which are the basic sources of information, are six to twelve months out of date when received, means that the rate of success in effecting a delivery will remain relatively low. The best way to ensure that) your mail will be delivered, advises Canada Post, is to keep all your correspondents advised of your current address and to make sure that your address book or mailing list is kept up-dated. mendous success | Over 30 tons of Christmas _{*rees were processed into i chips last Sunday at the fifth . ‘ annual. Christmas tree “Chip-_ Tree People for the. fifth | | up” organized by the North i Shore Safety Council and the ‘three North Shore received fifty percent more donations than last year — a total of $1,278 — which they have tagge’ to rrovide a At Westlynn Mall, one ‘«mall boy of seven or eight, “who :anartment, .ceontribution to the com- ™unity by being on hand to carry a collecting bucket — \he says he always helps. Thanks to Professional Wei Clinics. achancetoreally — be me. to compete where | never could.? to really feel good about myself. ‘Chip-up’ a tree- al Special thanks go for the - voluntary services and equipment provided by The oS consecutive year and by | | QUE ; yy Pacific Tree Services, a new-|° | QUESTION: How do! company which includes the | -| 8° bout ‘consulting with: fire departments, assisted at North Shore in its area of | you? 7 each of the four shopping operations. -_ mm wo mall locations. They STEWART: sust” Thanks also are due to the fire departments and schools for distributing posters and leaflets) concerning the phone . 261-6242 for an . appointment. “bunny bi lor tran- event, and to the local press, = : sportation of North Shore radio and. 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