Parenting teens in the "90s

A clinical psychologist specializ-
ing in children and adelescents
will be speaking about his book
on teens later this month on the
North Shore.

On Thursday, Feb. 26, Family Services
of the North Shore and Royal Bank pre-
sent Dr. Anthony Wolf. He will be speak-
ing about his book, Get Onur Of My Lift
bese first could vou drive me and Cheryl to
the mall? A Parent’s Guide to the New
Teenager.

In private practice for the past 20
vears, Wolf received his undergraduate
training at Columbia, and his PhD from
the University of New York. He is the
father of two former teenagers.

A frequent contributor to Parents
magazine and Family Circle, Wolf also has
a monthly column in Child magazine and
is the best-selling author of two other
books: ll be Home Before Midnight and |
Won’ Get Preqnant: Stories of Adolescence
and It’s not fair, Jeremy Spencer’s parents
let him stay up all night! A Guide to the
Tougher Parts of Parenting. Ger Out Of
My Lifcis in its 20th prinung.

No stranger to public speaking, Wolf
has also appeared on numerous television
shows such as Taday and Donate.

Parents of all backgrounds are able to
easily relate to Wolf's examples.

Following one seminar. Stephanie
Wagman of The Association of Parent
Support Groups of Ontario said: “The
overwhelming response was ‘More Dr.
Wolf?”

Said Wolf! “It’s a new age of parent-
ing. It’s absolutely scary out there.~

Yet, “Kids hear just as much and as
well as they used to, and parents have just
as much of an influence as they always
did.” :

Reaching his audience through humor
and a nonjudgmental approach, Wolf
shows parents how to use their influence
to help their children become effective
adults,

“Teenagers do not want to overthrow
the system of parental control, they just
want to get around it,” advises Wolf.

He has peppered Get Out Of My Life
with many such statements.

The words strike a chord with any par-
ent of teenagers.

The book doesn’t tell parents what to
do, or offer a set of hard and fast parent-
ing rules.

Rather, Wolf touches on common-
place issues, offering options for coping,
leaving parents free to make up their own
minds based upon their own values and
beliets.

Wolf explains why teenagers respond
as they do, how thev perceive simple
requests made of them and how parents
can avoid getting pulled into the emo-
tional no-win fights at which adolescents
seem to excel.

As Wolf explains: “No” is a loss to
teenagers.

And “no” in the framework of cach
teen’s desire to become a separate individ-
ual is a challenge perceived through “...
the unique, unfocused passion of adolcs-
cence.”

Get Out Of My Life addresses the time-
proven difficulties common to adolescents
throughout history, while also acknowl-
edging that life has become more com-
plex, confusing and dangerous for

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