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QUESTION: Re the letter
under the headline, ‘“Mother

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News of Nov. 24th, 1976: i
feel somewhat in the same
predicament as the young
woman writing the letter. I
am 31 and also appareniiy
cut off from my fellow men,
although not wishing to live a
life of solitude. .

Please pass on my mame
and address to your corres-
pondent. If she feels thai
someone who has the same
problem can be of help, I
would appreciate a communi-
cation from her. If not, may I
exhort her to ‘“‘keep the
faith’’; there is someone out
there who really cares. There
always is you know!

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Freelance Counsellor Hayden
Stewart does private counsel-
ling as well as a great deal of
group work. He can be
contacted at 261-6242 _ for
information and appointments.
Letters are always welcome.
Mail them to HAYDEN
STEWART, c/o the North
Shore News, #202-1139 Lons-
dale, North Van.

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STEWART: Passing on your
name and address is out.
However, passing on your
message seems’ a_ nice
Christmasy thing to do. So
here goes - ‘‘KEEP THE
FAITH! THERE IS SOME-
OXE OUT THERE WHO
CARES. THERE ALWAYS
IS YOU KNOW!’’.

_ There ‘are times when a
person, is, in fact, cut off
from his fellow man. But I

would venture the opinion

that it happens very, very
rarely. ‘My fellow man”’ is a
lot of people. They don’t
reaily all get together and cut
you off. What happens is you
get scared of one or two of
them, or angry at them, or
envious or hurtful and then

QUESTION: In my_ busi-
ness, [ travel very extensiv-

ely; in the many cities I visit I

find the people much more
Ariendly. I’ve lived here now

for five years [formerly from

Los Angeles] and I’m con-
sidering moving to San Diego
because of this problem.

I thought it was probably
my attitude, but I’ve heard
many peon'te complain about
this problem. Like to hear
your comments. |

STEWART: Don't go to
San Diego. I had an aunt who
visited there one weekend
and she says it is unfriendly.

QUESTION: Do you make
New Year Resolutions? And
whether your answer is ‘yes’
or ‘no’ - why?

STEWART: No.

Why? Oh, ['m just not too
keen about — resolutions.
When I make a resolution |
feel controlled. | feel i am
blackmailing myself into
some sort of behaviour. | feel
happier discovering what
changes Lam hungry for in
my life and then offering

them to myself as a gift, or

and power of iove

QUESTION: Would you
care to express a Season's
wish for me—and for all your
readers? If you were to wish
something really Important
in your eyes for all your
readers, what would you
wish?

STEWART: I'm a sucker
for that) sort of question.
Right away | think, ‘‘This
person is serious and really
wants a serious answer’
Then there follows a pause
(unhurried) to arrive at
something I really want to

say. Here it is: | have twin
wishes for you. | wish for you
two all important discover-
ies. The first is the discovery
of an enlarging awareness of
the all-out beauty and power
and worth of love. The
second wish is for an
increased awareness — that
love is already yours. It is
within you living as the
Authentic Resident of your
being. it is your Centre, it is
You, it is God.

Pretty heavy  stuff—but
heck—it Is that Season!

start feeling that you deserve
to be cut off. You then
announce to the world “*] AM
cut off’’ and proceed to
blame your fellow man for
what has happened. You
then wa Be a subtle campaign
to convince people you have
been unjustly treated by ‘‘my
fellow. man’’ and that you
need help. You don’t really
NEED help, you just WANT
help. Unfortunately, the only
help you want is for a few
people to buy your dirge and
respond with ‘the poor guy -
he is all alone’’. You’ve been
cut off? Then uncut yourself.
Be a friend. Give! There will

be many of your ‘‘fellow

men’’ who will welcome you
back to humanity.

Portland is bad that way too,
I'm told. On the other hand,
I've heard it said that Plum
Coulee in © Manitoba is
friendly. Why not go there?
Or heaven?

Another idea, (perhaps
you will consider it) is for you
to help us make Vancouver
more friendly. Why not get
together with all the people
who are complaining to you
about Vancouverites | being.

‘unfriendly and = distant’’

and have a real friendly time
of it. You'd make a lot of
friends and have the sort of
fun vou want. Good luck—
and don’t leave us.

perhaps even ‘‘working at
them.”’ But I don't promise
myself anything. Come to
think of it, I don’t. promise
other people anything cither.
It would be phoney for me to
say, ‘'l promise to love you
forever—I've made that res-
olution.” IT) would = much
rather say, ‘‘The way I feel
about you, | can't imagine
ever: not loving yvou."’ I
should add that resolutions
turn me off because so often
they seem to depend on
“will-power.”’ Anything im-
portant enough for me_ to
make a resolution about,
deserves, for the assurance
of its continuance, something
warmer than will-power, It
deserves good-will toward
himself by the fellow who
makes the resolution, but
will-POWER = makes — the
whole procedure a bit too
grim for me.

In weighing the validity of
this philosophy of mine, you
would do well to keep in

‘mind that Lam a bit of a nut.

COMMENT from Hayden:
I'm amazed! So far Ive
managed to keep up with
requests for copies cf The
Love Principles, but please,
from now on, will you just get
a copy of the News for
December Ist and read them
there.

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