Should husband have

QUESTION: Do you

think it’s possible to

have a happy mar-

riage in which the
busband is the final authori-
ty, the one who is always
right, the one who makes all
the important decisions,
while the wife is a willing co-
operator in the arrangement
and accepts her status as a se-
cond rate human being? I'm
not asking a theoretical ques-
tion. I’ve described our own
Situation, and would like to
know what you think our
chances are.

STEWART: Under some
circumstances (which I'll

describe in a moment) your
chances of a happy marriage
might

have been hopeful.

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planet of love, creativity,

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Do not hesitate to break

away from the past, embark
on journey to long planned
changes. Luck and love ts
with vou

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April 21
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deeper sympathy for others
and you will have learned to
love yourself better

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But the fact that you have
been moved to ask the
question shows you are do-
ing some thinking and are
questioning the quality of
your relationship. For peo-
ple like you, as described in
your quesuion, thinking and
questioning combine to blow
your chances.

For a happy pairing of
you two people, there are a
couple of prerequisites.
First, the husband will have
to be so insecure in himself,
that he thinks he needs to be
the boss. He must do more
than just like it that way. It
has to be (in his way of
thinking) an absolute
necessity, in order to meet
his needs.

The wife, in turn, will
have to be so insecure in
herself that she really thinks
it is worth it to deny her
identily as a person in order
to avoid rocking the boat
and risk the ending of her
being cared for and perhaps
even being loved.

In other words, only two
real losers could make such a
marriage a winner, because
neither of them would sense
that theirs was a non-profit
arrangement. They might
just meander through life
hardly knowing they were
unfulfilled.

If ether one of them, but
only one of them, develops
some interest in personal
enrichment, or even

you and your stars

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GEMINI
- May 22
to June 2]

Recognition by superiors,
promotion hkely to crop up;
socialize, circulate, have con-
fidence in all your dealings
with others.

CANCER
June 22
to July 23

A very demanding period
jyobwise and in business; face
the challenges and see that
you rise above them, reason
with your emotions

LEO
July 24
to August 23

Shun the authoritarian air
about yourself and your do-
ings. Channel excess energy
to advance your educational
goals, travel

VIRGO

August 24
to September 23

Much activity in your
partnership affairs, business,
legal transactions
display of temper, passions

LIBRA
September 24
to October 23

Put your chin up and com
bat adverse vibes from mate,
friends, publics Be
diplomatiy so that your
‘scales’ do not dip too deep
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then the difficulties could be
immense.

If, however, both of them
develop such an interest in
growing and in upgrading
the quality of thetr
relationship, then there is a

SCORPIO

October 24
to November 22

A hectic pace at work and
in business; allow time for
recreation, attend to health

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SAGITTARIUS

November 23
to December 21

Temptation to gamble and
speculate may pan out hand-
somely; romantic pursuits on
the upswing, Opposite sex will
keep you hopping.

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good chance. Two people,
each committed to growing,
make a very dynamic team.
Anything could happen.

You ask if it’s possible to
have a happy marriage for
two people lke you. Sure, if
both of you agree to go on
unaware and stunted in your
growth. The danger is that
one of you might become
aware enough to want

AQUARIUS

January 21
to February 19

Would do best to carefully
preplan§ activities ahead;
abundant energy may find
you confusing issues at stake,
wasting resources.

UTIFU

transformation and the other
remain unable or unwilling
to recognize the value in the
surring of the spirit of the
restive one who is eager to
get on with his evolving.

Perhaps your husband is
Quesuoning the status quo
too. Why not find out? It
really could be great you
know. | wish nothing less for
you.

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February 20

5 to March 20
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planning, investment mat-

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plans.

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