a 48 - Sunday, December 17, 1989 - North Shore News CHRISTMAS ENTERTAINING Holiday guests can earn points for good behavior ARE THERE party guests out there willing to do extra du- ty? They are sure to be treasured by their hosts, and Miss Manners offers them a speciai commendation for services above the minimum requirements. Let us first assume that everyone else who has been invited out does perform the basic routines expected of a party guesi. Let us assume that Miss Manners got into the Madeira and is pictur- ing a better world than has existed for some time. Here are the oppor- tunities for extra points: If you arrive at a large party 10 minutes after the actually stated hour, just when the hosts have forgotten that they themselves, when guests, always come a good half-hour into such partics, and they are sensing disaster (not to mention dreading having to eat party food well into the next month), you get one extra point. If you begin eating when first asked to, rather than thinking that it is more chic te stand around ig- noring the attempts of the hosts to get you to help yourself or go to the dinner table, you get two extra points. If another guest says, **This looks too good to cut into,”’ when presented with a prettily made offering, you get double for saying, “Yes, it looks marvelous — I'll have some.”’ Asking ‘‘May I help?’’? does not count in itself, but asking and then actually following the instructions, whether they are to perform a small task or not to help, merits three points. Seeking out guests who seem rnomentarily isoiated is worth eight "Feather Pillows points; doing that to siranded members of the hosis’ family who are not of the same generation as the other guests — their children or parents — is the same, but only miss manners Judith Martin if you succeed in engaging them in conversation, A mere ‘‘What grade are you in?’? or ‘How long are you in town for?’ doesn’t count unless you use it to get to conver- sation. The grand prize, 20 points, goes to the guest who is the first to real- ize that the party is over and to go priced to let you sleep at night Soft and comfy genuine duck and goose feather pillows. 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DEAR MISS MANNERS —- My acquaintances are of the opinion that during the holidays, it is per- missible to accept more than one invitation for the ssme evening. They go ‘‘cocktgil hopping,”’ im- bibiog here and there, and leaving halfway through each festivity, in- forming the unfortunate hostess, upon accepting, that they wor’: bc staying long because of snother engagement. My real complaint deals specifically with dinner partics. I recently was hostess of a simple weekend affair with a limited guest list. I was flabbergasted when one couple calmly informed me _ that they coulda’t stay for drinks afterward because they were going on to a cocktail party. . GENTLE READER — You have apples and oranges here, as well as game birds and penguins. A cocktail party is designed to be dropped into and out of; a dinner party is not. The custem of dropping into many large holiday parties is a sanctioned one. 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