38 - Sunday, October 27, 1991~ North Shore News at Giving advice about friend’s appearance DEAR MISS MANNERS — I have an urge to make a suggestion to a good friend of mine, but I wonder whether this would offend her. She is a beautiful person, both inside and out. However, I would love to see her wear some make- tp, even if it is just a small amount of lipstick, an@ perhaps style her iong hair. She is a very shy person about cher looks and tends to hide them. I think she should stop this nonsense and show peopie how beautiful she really is. With a slight change, she might eel more confident shout her im- ‘age. Should I keep my comments to myself? ‘ GENTLE READER — Proba- bly. If you have noticed how veautiful your friend is, Miss Manners imagines that others have, too. That her beauty would be enhanced by cosmetics and hair styling is merely your. opinion, wit’ which others may not con- cur. And one of those others is your friend. it is hardly imaginable that in this day and age, she is not aware that artificial beauty aids are available to those who want them. . Telling someone she needs them is hardly likely to add to her con- fidence. This cannot help but ‘make her realize that you, for one, find her appearance un- satisfactory. . However, you notice that Miss Manners. hedged a. bit by saying “probably’* rather than ‘‘abso- lutely.”” She is not totally opposed to the exchange of advice, provid- ed it is done among close friends, Judith Martin MISS MANNERS which you say you are, with some humility and tact. She will therefore allow you to ask your friend, apparently idly, if she has ever tried playing around with makeup and hair styles, and whether she would enjoy deing so with you. If she shows interest, you might then offer suggestions, always for her judgment; now if she doesn’t, you must let it pass. if you want to enhance her con- fidence, you might try telling her that you find her beautiful. / DEAR MISS MANNERS -—~ What do you think of parents of the bride and groom having breakfast in the hotel where the -wedding reception took place, and ‘where ithe newly married couple spent their wedding night before leaving on their honeymoon? The breakfast was held on Mother's Day, and the bride and groom ini- tiated it. Don’t you think that newlyweds should be alone to start their honeymoon, right after the wed- . ding reception? GENTLE READER Miss Manners was mightily puzzled about who might object to such a breakfast, if the newlyweds themselves suggested it and the bride’s mother did not squelch the project by declining. The hotel staff? Wedding guests who were tired of congratulating them? Then an astute lady of Miss Manners’ acquaintance suggested that it might be the bride’s father. ’ Weill, sir, if it is you, Miss Manners can understand that parents of the bride might want to be alone at last after the strain of wedding festivities. Of course you want to enjoy a bit of relaxation and perhaps silence, after all the fuss. But it isn’t the couple themselves who claim to need the privacy, nor the Mother’s day guest of honor who is protesting. Miss Manners therefore joins the rest of the family in asking you to hang on just one mea! longer. Dd MISS MANNERS ~— While handing me a cup of coffee during; a recent flight, the flight attendant inadvertently slipped — or shall I say dunked — ‘her thumb into my coffee. oy Hot realizing that I had szen what occurred, she left the cup standing in front of me, although she did take care of her own needs by quickiy wiping her finger against her apron. Being a milquetoast (or shall I say coffee-toast?), I did nothing. After about 15 minutes, I asked for another cup of coffee to replace the full one standing be- fore me. . ‘Hf this had happened to Miss Manners (that is if she were the traveler, not the attendant), what would she have done? GENTLE READER -— Miss New system allows immediate response NEW TELEPHONE technology available on‘ the North, Shore puts people facing home emergencies in immediate voice contact with help. The Tunstall Home Emergency Response Systems is a full- featured phone that is linked to the response centre of the North Shore Home Suppozt Services Society (NSHSSS) during the week and Lions Gate Hospital on. off- hours and weekends. ‘As with other emergency tesporse phone systems, the Tunstall unit provides clients with a.“help’? button on the unit as well as a pendant with the button, But the unit’s special feature enables the person in trouble to speak directly to NSHSSS staff at the other end of the line from as far away as 200 to 360 feet. “The big advantage is having immediate contact with them through the microphone,’’ says Hilary King, NSHSSS program coordinator. Response centre op- erators will also have access to the client’s name and address on a computer. Clients who find it difficult to teach, or are unable to answer, the phone will be able to ‘“‘talk’’ to the phone from where they are to explain what has happened and what type of help they need. Some calls may be emergencies, others may simply be a client who needs a neighbor or friend’s help getting back to bed. According to King, the Tunstall units will complement the 281 home emergency response units the society already has. While the older units will still be available to clients, they don’t provide voice contact. “Some of them might find voice contact confusing — they don’t have that kind of techno- logy at home,”’ King says. AS a non-profit group, NSHSSS relies on donations from individu- ais, community groups and cor- porations to provide the phone units to clients at an affordable price. King says the society offers the ise ows a nee Se Oe ee = ee ee ee yee r emergency service for under a $1 per day, or even less if a client can’t afford the fee. For more information,. call NSHSSS at 984-9511. -Elizabeth Collings Manners would have done what you did, only 15 minutes sooner. 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