i lonogamy isn’t everything Q. I RUINED a very good sexual relationship by pushing ed about the health snd safety the man for a commitment. After he said he wasn't ready for a monogamous agreement, J began sleeping with someone else in addition to him. Wow the irony is I don’t want a monogamous agreement either. The second man is a tot of fun and a fairly good lover too. But I would like to get the sex back on track with the first guy. It isa’t as great as it was before I opened my big mouth. What can 1 do to get it back the way it was? A. You must have a talk with him. Say, ‘I tried to get a com- mitment from you, but when you said no, I decided that’s OK with me.’’ Then make love to him as passionately as you know how. It still may not work. Be prepared for that. He might worry ‘that you will vant a commitment again if the sex is super. You might ‘not be able to convince him you want to continue the relation- ship under his terms at this point. OF. course, it is also possible you will change your mind even if you do get the sex back on track with him. You might decide good v-sex_isn’t enough without commit- ment..:Or you might even decide to. ty fora commitment with man Nos 2. Vie. Dr. Ruth Westheimer ASK DR. AUTH Q. Why has oral sex become so prevalent in tke last several years? V’ve recently begun dating again after my divorce. For 20 vears 1 was faithfully married, so the sexual changes in the world have come as a shock to me. i use condoms during inter- course. But I don’t know what to do about oral sex. Women expect me to perform. I like’ pleasing them this way, but I am concern- Love’ 's Auctioneers has been instructed to auction to the highest bidder, the entire remaining inventory of “- Reyal City Antiques And Fine Furnishings. Sale Times: Fri. 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If you are particularly worried about a woman, you will have to say, ‘‘We can’t do anything that can’t be done without a condom because [ want to protect both of us.”? Never let her think you are more concerned about her than your other partners — even if you are. Q. My wife says I have an ex- cessive sex drive. I know it’s ,, A Wonderful Place unrealistic to expect her to want sex every day as I do, even though she did want it that often during the early months of our marriage. We've been together four years now, and her drive has diminish- ed. IF understand that. isut is four times a week really too much to expect? I am a healthy, active 27-year- old male, and I don’t think four times a week is too much for a guy like me. She says twice is enough for anyone — with maybe some weeks three times. is she right? Or am I? She keeps quoting these statistics from magazine surveys to back her position. I am counting on you to be on my side. A. 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