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STEWART, clo the. North -

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QUESTION: I'm 16. How can”

’ real Boe at school. ee

-Fchange my. image? You.see,”

for about : three: “years. now

‘smart. I’m no gentus,, but I

“instead,
oa would | like . to. -keep —. your reasons for feeling. that —

you've. listened to- “or. read
about. some of the. men-
Catching schemes | that are
offered.’ and, - instead of |

let" me. give —

at I want to be back |-you ‘something different to
but sure ponder.

“ suggest y you stop thinking. -
-about “*catching’’ a: man and -
“think: more: about

you are a good ‘catch! If: you
_ don't feel you:are‘a. very: good...

catch, decide’ new ‘to become -
: so delightfully. together,.

that
you, yourself, ‘KNOW. -that-

-,men- who: miss seeing your”
: . good qualities. are’ probably ~

. too ‘dull’ to be ~ very” ‘good —
"catches, anyway!

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“and here women are. too,. but ©

st be ‘sick~-“go with the idea of enjoying _

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people: ‘who are there, n
just to latch: on. to. a man.

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. down-grading of using sex to
earn yourself advantages. 1
> think” this - attitude. is ‘an
“‘filogical: ‘carry-over from old.
/_ Feligious taboos ‘Living 1

next.

“ “purposes 5 of the question: you"
raise’ in: your’ letter), to’-set_
“aside °* iiorals and ‘religious _
teachings" “Yet - you,
naturally credit God for your
neighbour's: braininess and

7 had a neat ‘aummer and.
did: some thinking-about who
1 am and: where. rm heading —
I’ve known that I was pretty: with my life’ and now ‘want

to really learn and prepare

know I've got a ‘good head myself for a successful life.
_gnd ff | worked at itl could do | The problem? It’s just this.’

im afraid tt willbe: a little

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ing: it what a I've. Mone ‘Is’. ‘hard and getting good grades
pretend Pm. just: ‘average ‘or . when all my. friends know nie -

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dof-off. ‘They'll,
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know you. USED! TO. BE a.
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But if someone is. with me
who is going to. drop dead if 1

use the wrong spoon, then it =
doesn't bother me a. bit ‘to.

contribute to their comfort,

- remember, | have’ 364 other

the proper. spoon, | ‘and the: : days this year: ‘to use the

thoughtless ‘boorishness: of
utter distegard for others’
feelings. re!

spoon of my. choice.” I'm
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‘into -activitie ae
events: that will be. pleasing .
to YOU.. Perhaps. you -will
swim, or go to: church, ‘Or
Wreck - Beach, or. ‘mountain.
climbing, or college, or. a
discussion group.. .

But. whatever it. ‘is. ‘make
“sure - it is. something -YOU
want to do. And, (if you want.
a negative comment;) don’t
go anyplace where you think
some’ unattached male will.
be sitting on a stool” ‘waiting
for you, Remember - you
might 1 find him there, but the ~
odds “‘are™. “heavily ‘stacked |
' against his being the Person
you want and need. »

Forget about. ‘catching up:
’ with some: ‘man, but. instead, .

“have the fun of-catching up to. _ a : at | a Oe ea” | a Ss ee ao re i

- yourself. In the process, the
person -you-iet = yourself —
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oa you ‘can Set’ aside your.
own. morals, and are able to.
“turn your’ back’ on. your -
religious teachings, perhaps ©

you will feel you are: home

‘free. to do as ‘you choose. _
Yet, 1 expect you would -be ©
resentful. ‘if. your . piny

for purposes of using you. tin :
_some_ manner “that”: would.

“or ‘muscles’ ‘or vocal chords or
sexuality. is'not the big thing
. in life.:How you use them to-
tnake you deeply: happy. ‘and-
content and) aware’ of: your
’ self-worth. is: of. _paramount -
importance to. you and to all
- of us. >

to. ‘portray: a manufactuted.
image of semi- -dumbness. but:
NOW you are going to. be
. yourself= good head and all. -
Some of the: guys will think of ”
you~ ‘as.a_. deserter, - but.
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like your real self: better: than
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