UNCONVENTIONAL CEREMONY ~~
Meaningful marriage is what counts ~

UESTION: I am
about a

certain wedding that’

is coming up next
month. I have been asked to
be one of the bride’s atten-
dants. Ordinarily that would

delight me because I have
been friends with her for a
long time. But some things
about the wedding bother
me.

First I should tell you the
bride is 67 years old. She was
divorced four years ago. She

has always been quite un-
traditional, but after all, she
is 67 and this is a wedding not
a picnic. You see the wedding
is going to be outdoors in-
Stead of in charch! She is go-
ing to have a secular song

ones. Can they do that? And
another thing, it says right in
the invitation to wear
anything! (They don’t actual-
ly say wear anything bat
that’s what is meant).

My friend has always been

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sang during the ceremony
and the accompaniment is to
be a guitar and a finte.

*-~Khke thing that bothers me
most Of all-is that the bride
and groom are going to write
the vows instead of using the

AT N.VAN LIBRARIES
Trivia reading catching on

HANG UP the skateboards
and put the slicker books in
mothbalis — the hottest craze
among Lynn Valley kids so
far this summer seems to

Over 200 youngsters have
already signed up for Lynn
Valley Library’s Trivial Pur-
suit Reading Club, and the
pace is fast and furious.

Children’s
kept

hbranans are
hopping as a steady

Stream of kids come to report
on the books they have read
and try them luck on a tnvia
question.

The Club, brainchild of
Children’s Services co-
ordinator Sarah Ellis, 1s bas-
ed on the popular game, but
children must read a book in-
stead of throwing dice to
qualify for a question.

Two special categories
have been added to the usual

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a member of our church and
has been very active in it. Do
you think that the groom has
taftnenced ber into doing a?
these questionable things?

jost con't understand bee and
I feel very awkward about
sharing in seach a marriage.

six: children may also choose
a question from ‘‘Characters
in Books’ — for the real
bookworms — or from the
“*Silly Section’’ (e.g. Why are
writers so funny-looking?
Because their tales grow out
of their heads). There are two
levels of play, so even the
youngest readers are able to

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What should I do?
STEWART: Don’t worry
about what to do. They’] go
over that with you at the
rehearsal.

1 really feel that you have
no good reason to be
‘*chagrined”’. Not any of the
procedures they have chosen
which you call ‘‘questionable

things’’, fall short of the legal —

requirements for a wedding,
nor do they seem to me to be
in bad taste. Moreover, it is
their wedding, not yours and
they are ,probably doing
everything they can think of
to make meaningful and
beautiful.

More than once I have
witnessed a perfectly awful
wedding that was quite pro-
per in every way; the music
was ‘“‘nght”’ the vows were
“*mght’’, the locale was
““ight’’, the minister was
*“right’’. The only thing that
seemed lacking was a pro-
found, sincere and mean-

couver District Library also
have Trivial Pursuit Reading
Clubs. There are no formal
meetings: children can par-
ticipate each ume they visit
the library and progress at
their own speed, so there is
still plenty of time to sign up
and join in the fun.

C7 - Wednesday, July 11, 1984 - North Shore News

ingful quality to the ex-

Your friends may have that
certain quality that will make
ther marriage a joy and an
mspiranon. You can help
them in that by contnbuting
a positive and loving attitude
based on your trusting them
more than you trust what
you’ve been used to.

The ‘“‘proper’’ ceremony
that you would like might
well be something far shon

of what they plan. So enter
into it with abundant expec-
tancy rather than with
negative expectations.
QUESTION: Now that a
federal election has been call-
ed for September, would you
care to go out on a limb and
tell as who you think will
win?

STEWART: No, I wouldn’t.
My hopes though are clear to
me. I hope — oh how I hope
— that ALL OF US will win.

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