QUESTION: I know that some women would like to be men and some men would like to be women. Being in either of those = situations would not contribute much to a joyful contentment with life. So, I'm grateful I don't have that particular sort of desire. However, | do have a desire | would like to ask you about. I'm OK about my sex- ual identity, but I nave a strong desire to bring about a change in my personality. 1 long to be a vibrant, dynamic, enthusiastic, bub- bly sort of person. In reality, lam not quite the opposite of that, but I do lean heavily in the opposite direction. lama bore. I am almost stolid. People must surely not know what I enjoy or what I want or what I am interested in. I don’t show any enthusiasm about a show I've been to or a dinner I've eaten, or a man I’ve met or a sermon I’ve heard. I don’t let people know if I enjoyed the swim or the book or the new acquain- tance. [I suppose, come to think of it, my husband is quite in the dark about whether or not I have en- joyed making fove or having a baby or celebrating his pro- motion. I am very inept at sharing my feelings. In fact, all too often, I suppose I don't even recognize them! Cyciorama, an event to educate young cyclists on road safety and give them an opportunity to participate in skill testing events, will be held Sunday, October 16. From lteft to right, W.V. Police Constable Dave Marskell, North Shore Optimist Club member Jim Russell, W.V. Rec. Centre Program Superintendent Colin Campbell and W.V. Fire Department Captain Glen Pedersen. Front row, Brock Norwich, left, Caelen Bright, centre, and Ashley Bright. Rain or shine, and there will be a new bike for draw. EVERYDAY IS SENIORS DAY 15% OFF All drycleaning done on the premises (bulk cleaning not included) CAROUSEL CLEANERS Park Royal North 922-4811 ask hayden stewart freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may he reached at 201-6242 forappamiment foritdividual family or group. counselling I’ve just read over what I have written so far. Perhaps I have exaggerated some, but I'm sure you get what I'm talking about. I want to come alive in a way that I feel good about and in a way that doesn’t appear to be an act. Any hope? Any suggestions? STEWART: Two. observa- tions: 1. | have a strong feeling you would not ‘have these desires for change and TAKE A RIDE C27 - Wednesday, October 12, 1983 - North Shoré News Men and women would like to switch rolls growth without having the resources to bring them into actualization. 2. Start making your move - but gradually. It would be counterproductive for you to try, quickly to become an ex- treme opposite to the self you are used to. A person who has been on a fast should not end it with a huge oink-out of prime rib, baked potato and Yorkshire pudding. Perhaps a bit of juice would be a bet- ter starter. Got 1t? Make your move by first of all declaring a moratorium on putting yourself down. Be as honest as you possibly can be about your strengths and about the qualities in yourself that you feel good about. Even your ‘‘stolidity’’ has its values. See that you are pro- bably a person with a strong foundation on which you can build. Be grateful for that stability of yours and allow it to become even more valuable to you. Finally - make your own choices and act on them. Rather than try to be like someone else, pay committed attention to what YOU want in yourself and allow it to come alive. Rather than mak- ing resolutions to be Itke someone else things you **should”’ be or are ‘‘suppos- ed’* to be, MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES AND ACT ON THEM. The thing that makes ex- citing your hunger to allow transformation in yourself is that itis YOUR hunger. Feed it! And when you are pleased about the results, don’t (please!) say, ‘‘that is very in- teresting.”” How would you like to go for wooopeecee! INTO THE FUTURE. The advertisers below entitle any senior citizen to a minimum 10% discount on advertised merchan- GIFTS OF ALL DESCRIPTIONS COLLECTORS ITEMS 1 O% discount to senior citizens Bi Diamond and (sems tone Specialists 1598 Lonsdale Ave N V 988-4717 THE STORE THAT KEEPS NOR I} VANCOUVER TICKING AND TAL KING, The future ts here. Ride our 1.1 kilometre (7Aoths of a mile) Rapid Transit demonstration section and experience the future for yourself A yoInt prorect Of alll levels of government Canad *Supporting Our Seniors dise in their stores. show pharmacare card. See it Ride it Main and Terminal Open daily’ wWam tosSom "Except Oct 218& 22 Nov 4 5 18 & 19 BCA Transit The tion (rae e Mec artny Mirwustet WMeesparisaitoie Seniors must 20% OFF ALL ITEMS ATO a AS vier babes bry AVE Cot Att MIFTBAG Fa) “DEIAT ERE POE fy =n olal Grass sogrese “bene deny 0 Bar pre 152 Pemberton Ave. N.V To HES tenet trenews Hleveg grecastagaity 980-4804 Items in this feature are discounted 10% for seniors.