QUESTION: Ine one of your.

. letters. you... ingationed:
- “leaving * “2. tip’ a.
7 restaurant. I can't. belleve |
that. you approve ‘of the»
owe system. Why do you.

: STEWART: ‘You are “right |
about me not feeling good’
-- about ‘the tipping. system. I
think ‘it is degrading and -
tacky. Waiters. and.
waitresses have a. very,”
| important job and are in a
position to contribute, vastly -
- to the comfort and happiness
of their customer, and,. by -
‘their manner and attitude, to.
contribute ‘vastly to, the.
‘popularity of the restaurant,
and thus, to the income of
the owners.

Ag group |

“For these § services, oa feel:
‘they. should, ‘be adequately _
paid .and © ot | forced

depend on “tips” from” their

customers. . _

“Why then “ao 1 seem to.

give my. approval of the —
-system. by taking ‘part in it?.

” Because, if I.don't do so, I

‘will ‘be -hurting ‘the’ ‘people
who .are depending on the»
system, no: matter, how:

demeaning the: system may
seem to them. By refusing [

tips, I hurt the waitress not

the person who ‘is. in’ a
position to put an end to the
Shameful ‘procedure: I don't :

like it, but I don’t know what
to do about it. What do YOU

. do?

ofa question!

QUESTION: Is it acceptable
to you for a small group of

people to get together and
write g letter to your column —

as a group? A few of us often
discuss your column, but as
far as I know, none of us

have written in to it. But the |

other night, we wondered if

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it would be. all right to write |

a. group question.

STEWART: Sure! Do that.

. You may: either let me know .

it is a group letter or keep
that information to your-

selves. I'll be happy to hear.

from you. |

Pa ae i
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i relationship so

"means: as. § much ‘to-him as it.
does. Assure: him that: he ©
need have “no fear of. your.”

clinging to him. You’ ‘may
“lose him, but you are far less.
- Tikely to.lose, him if you let.
shim sense you are not ‘going —
‘to try to manipulate him. Try -

not to ask him. why: he-is.. J
taking this way. -And try. not - |

to.ask him, “What’ S wrong?”

Tell him you just: hate the . - _

-idea,, but you'll go along with .
it, against your will, in order.
to respect your love. for. him,
asa free person.

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