A10 - Wednesday, May 25, 1983 - North Shore News inquiring reporter by Ellsworth Dickson There are all kinds of parents in this world. From those who abandon their children to truly dedicated and loving parents who take pains to bring their children up in the best way they know how. Today's question is: ‘‘What does it take to be a successful Sue Goyer North Vancouver It takes a lot of love and understanding. You must take the time to get to know your child and how he feels. Jeff Kirby North Vancouver Speaking as a father of three, successful paren- ting takes a deep commit- ment to the child’s well- being. love, loyalty, discipline and secunty. Elizabeth J). Beckman West Vancouver Lots of patience and love are necessary Also an understanding of your own childhood so as to relate to your child Children need discipline to respect themselves and others, a firm. but loving hand Lorraine Huggard North Vancouver Fa \ | thank cbhaldren take understanding tolerance and a total co operation onthe part of both parent and «held Lo have two children myself 1 ¢,tMande: Langley Supe ee snbaal EL lakes thoes bi lovve at wardhe ostanedinyy T tae out takes pratie tec werel crete partie src ed aT ny and a half year ots a EE : Sener ng een QE ® 2 Nes LONELINESS. It’s the biggest paradox of modern society. Today, in city and suburbs alike, the trend is for more and more people to live ever closer together. The automobile allows us to roam and visit as we wish — wherever, whenever. The phone places virtually everyone at the tip of our finger. Thanks to the communica- tions explosion, we're the best) informed people in history about our fellow humans. A majority of us en- yoy one of the world’s highest living = standards Social inhibitions restricting our parents and = grand parents have long been swept aside Physically. mentally and emotionally we're the most emancipated generavion this planet) has ever known. And - yet there nevet were more lonely oan dividuals around According to Lynn Tnbbl ing a Toronto sociologist and probably Canada’s top capert on the phenomenon one in five adults now lives alone And many if mot most of them hate it One treason for todays widespread lonchaess i un VESTERDAY'S SEAVICE Al TODAY'S PACE Peers be Cok SE Reet "AM te 1) $M ’OAYS A WEER doubtedly casy divorce Cur- rently, there are close to 60,000 divorces a year in Canada, which right away af fect 120,000 persons Breakdowns in other, non marital relationships could easily double that number “LOSERS” NO MORE Phere are other reasons that have nothing to do with failed relationships People are marrying later In the mid thirtres. with half a career behind them, many folk tend to choostcer become more discriminating Meeting the Myht partner is noe longer as easy asin the carly twentics Then come the widows and widowers the latter considerably outnumbered by the former To some cx tent the health threatening pressures oof the modern Future Calls 38 , Aung * ia ue arte - gpat yu. By NOEL WRIGHT business world are directly reflected by a = growing number of attractive middle and upper-middle class widows in their fifties Which leads to another aspect of today’s loneliness paradox In the past, lonely people sometimes tended to be sugmatized as “losers” Nowadays, the situabon ts very different Many of the lonely in dividuals of the 1980s are highly successful in terms of their career and other facets of their bfe As Financial Post magazine writer Jeremy herguson puts i. they are “people whose professional and private acts may. be sohdly together, but who are playing to an empty house Today to be alone for a while at some pot in your life iste be oan othe mainstream Al the root of the problem hes the fact that the tradi thonal wiys ol mecting peo ple with whom deeper more lasting colatiorstips might be possible mo he RET Work We’ve got a line for You at Consider the value of the following © A personalized answering service based in North Vancouver for North Vancouver businesses ° Talking to someone who knows you by name when you call in tor messages © Freedom and security to come and go. knowing your telephone will be answered by a reliable efficient, contidential receptionist service. © An answering service where you are QUR business and we are YOUR business! Because of our size we can give you & good personalized service that the larger answering services Cannot Come join us at Future Calls We'd love to have you a8 part of our family Call 980-0371 weak *wEBDe TIME THE ENEMY Families are’ smaller and often scattered. The young leave home early for their personal ‘pads’. Career mobility adds an increasingly transient ingredient to socie- ty. compared to the days when individuals would spend much — if not all — of their working lives in one settled community. Often, too, time is the enemy. Working _ singles (half of them women, a good many single parents into the bargain) frequently find the demands of their job and the running of a household leave them with all too few spare hours for regular participa: fon in community activities which might theroretically bring such people together In any case, however, social life at the communntly level inevitably tends to be couple-onented Singles in vanably pose something of a headache, especially single women hither a temporary. and usually irrelevant. part ner has to be found for them Or else they are taken along for the mde as “odd man lor CONTINUED ON PAGE All vO Vast ‘ itis UNNI yu ry ‘THOUSANDS OUT THERE TODAY ARE YEARNING FOR THE SAME THING’ 1 of the opposite sex to give hfe a deeper meaning is to realize that he or she is not alone. There are thousands out there today yearning for exactly the same thing — and equally frustrated by the apparent difficulties. FROM PAGE A10 woman) out”. So much for the problem. 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They range all the way from the Cadillac limousine to the Rent-A- Wreck class. At one end of the scale are operations like Toronto’s Entre Amis, rated as one of the best in the business by psychologists and educators who have been involved with it. Run from a luxurious of- fice by Elva Starkman, herself, the elegant widow of a distinguished neurologist, Entre Amis specializes in professionals - doctors, lawyers, senior executives and the like - at a reputed $500 a shot. » At the bottom end of the scale are “clubs”, more than a few in the fly-by-night category. offering free memberships for women and all the introductions men can handle for $5-$10. As with all other things, you get what you pay for — and caviar never comes cheap. PERSONAL ADS BOOM A disadvantage shared by most dating services, even the best, is the great predominance of women on their books. 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