| State wear er \ gali and | Dr. Deolitt 7 honestly get the feeling she- i tiem cee ae human being out ef me. She. has mever vet asta ene 255d waa Eww - thing about me. She is full to ronning | over with - a mever . . titicism. I know che “must have some -hopes. for. me. because she’s always talking’ about what I will become if I ‘man guna tne mot to include the letter in - the columm [lest she | be . recognised] - . “but maybe. one. of these -_ ‘davs- you eonld. 7 “Freelance Counsetior Hayden Stewart may be reached at _ 261-6242 for eppointments for | individual, famliy or group counsolling. — His new office in the Plaza _international Hotel {open Tuesdays only] is for the convenience of North Shore residents... (HELCREREOLAAESOAQUUAUENAASAAEAAUEAUUAAIALL What's in a name? QUESTION: This new idea of bride’s keeping their maiden . names is utterly ridiculous. What’s the point? That’s a silly question hecause there just isn’t any point. Ridicu- lous is what It is. STEWART: Every cloud has a silver lining, (as they used to say back in the days when all brides: took their. hus- . . . @ — ‘ ‘ mu . ae I oe 7 i alee ‘ ' Pp i skate ’ is ¥, 4 ri ’ f FRED STRUCHEN _ manager | page 18, March 29, 1978 - Neth Shore News = loyally submit to her “course of. surgery”? (her own ‘phra- sel] - Thave felt that I have some - good. things going for me ‘musically, wut se is comic - jpletely wiping out my. confi- ‘@ence. In fact, I dem’t think . -ghe WANTS me to have any _ confidence im myself - fust in ~ HER.. She is so insensitive fa ‘the use of ier. blistering — - criticism that I wonder at work | work work and. if. times, if she is sick. I see. STEWART: The other day I received, a rather lengthy - letter, which, although quite | - emotional, was well thought out and presented with | vlan ota wert com ey ev: Wasews 4 ew verus then | added, —wy = ‘Her letter points out. that ihopefui- feels she couldn’t. stand being alone with herself. She signs her letter, “Lady Sings the Blues.” One clue in her letter took hold of my attention. She says she didn’t “‘lose’’ her bands’ names.) The silver lining in your cloud is that, thank goodness, you don’t — need tobe coiicerned about - what the brides are doing. ‘You don’t need to worry and fuss over it. It just isn’t your responsibility or business and so, you are relieved of that load. Getting your complaint out of you in a letter to. the paper i probably enough, don’t you agree? Your privilege is to have a good name of yourown and I hope. that is _your experience. - all-make STEWART: T have reached a three-pron- a ged momentous. decision and — oo general. piece for ‘everyone cg@he’s feeling as bad - I can’t 2 ‘be the only one. 9 ‘best to - there “is something much | “hres : ways. Le can (Gos. ps her, quit her, Teli her. you ‘that you” are not going to poison’ her and you are not. -going to quit her,but you are | going. to submit to her teaching i and work work work. “ir, six. ‘more’ ‘Months, after . could have “got straightened. out. again.”” I call. that a - ‘‘clze,”? ‘because % 80: often. the anu “at ‘denrasaed feeling. wwe & Serr 1 eee pean —) she describes seems ~ to originate im-refusal to face - head-on. something one. feels, needs doing.” ‘Ry hacking off from. facing it, ‘the ‘opportunity seems ; to fly away and is replaced | by a ; preblem.”’ ‘Then the problem starts doing its. thing. A i .imrevent months she has lost problem never likes to live A her fob, her car,: her’ iover, - ris her shape; her composure, -it,./-and her patience. She has - - Rast her ability ta. gicep, Bex - ability to cry, her. . “mess, her joyful feelings. and. even her desire to be with others. She would like to get . _ away from everyone and yet — gion may well be your best alone - and. so. it. invites in oS mew-. comers became’ secondary other probiems:; These preblems, bbnt they den ' invite in others and so on and on. An idea for “Lady Sings the Blues’’: to consider. is. this: Your feelings of depres- self saying to you, ‘Hey I resent and dislike: all. these outsiders sponging on our health and beauty and . energy. It is simply not ae enough and I’m. doing my . let you know that. better for us. Let’s face up to the thing we have been dodging and evading and postponing. Let's turn that - ; Criginal problem into oppor- . tunity, starting Now! Ready to start? Or do you . ‘ chocse to say in the dump indefinitely? “Lady Sings the Blues,”’ you have it in. you-to | change your name. Get out of. _ the chair - start on the main - thing you are evading and in: a few days, write us another . - letter signed “Lady Sings the Ode to Joy’? - or something. eAMANA °AMC “GE eKELVINATOR *COLDSPOT eVIKING FRIGIDAIRE eGIBSON «WESTINGHOUSE _ North Shore Rofrigoration has been servicing refrigeration units for many years here on the North Shore. Our journeymen, mochanics, with equipped vans, cover the North Shore each day, ropairing all types of refrigeration units Commercial & Domestic Givo us a call If you suspoct you’ ve got problems. ALL WORK GUARANTEED North Shore Refri geration 996 MARINE DRIVE, WOT VENER _9BT-B5AK x pétson. ‘or. totally . submit to her influence’ es far’ ~ gg her. tg Which’ oo fig: best for me? ‘from: an. eccentric . _ QUESTION: lover, ‘ipa sent him packing and now. wonders. if: they ; relationship. ‘with | her. Tell | “her. you" are doing — this © aa because: you. are: strong’ and. «intend to be _ person, — but you recognize ~ your ‘own. there is a good chance she -. may be. able to help you enormously...Then put up: with the hardships and do a. good job.,Keep in ‘mind _always that such a decision . allows you to remain. ‘your .. own person,. while learning - expert,.. but, in fact, in charge of your. own life. She may: be exactly _. what you need, but, if in Six: ~ months youl know shet isn’ "t= — . split! - pepe disappointed in your reply to . the mother whose 15 year old daughter wanted to be on the Pill. Who do you. think you - which: you -will reassess your —. Oscar. . “Twas _ ~ very . _ for are to decide that the mother | is “old-fashioned and square’?? And what a ‘nerve oN you have to say ina family . -mewspaper, “It’s better for . her to kave the pill than to be without it.” You hit 2 new — iow im that reply. STEWART: And you hit a new low in reading and comprehension! I did not say and. square. I. said. her. the mother was old fashioned . datighter w: wm would | Vike to ‘he . “ Four. complaint, let me goint out that I was not ‘promoting the - . pill, but merely pointing out that | if that iS year old i is = Provincial Government. | No Municipalit ? hearing. ‘able to tell the kids she'was. , Regarding’ , This long-range: plan to ease trans _ the first comprehensive stud the three North Shore muni | y has made discussion and input. 4 any doctaton ‘on , The Provincial Government and 50% tand expropriatio | An information brochure on the traffic Ancluded ‘in the April 5 edition of the No QUESTION: ‘Pm a newcomer. in the ranks of those who are ~ {eying to learn how to live our own lives and I’m finding it. hard: It’s hard because I feel so selfish about it. I. find when I have. any opposition, or iT am. going 3s bother. ‘someone by going” my own - “way, Dm: sort of. saying ‘to. ‘hell with them’? and fiat a nO. ood, How can:you live your — -_— life in ‘the. ‘style you. as a d elightful thing, accepts choose without being selfish? © {1 Bequies ‘I don’t. often. _ quote in. ‘this. column, ‘but Pd. like to pass on to:.you something that was ‘said by - living, . above alt # ‘STEWART: . . Wilde - her - people. H Here it is: “égetfish- “to live..... ‘unselfishness is_ _alone and. not: interfering - choosing your. way: If that is oe --not’ your ‘way. then there is - -’-Yanother: way: for you that IS -- yours. Keep saying * “Yes” to sexually 2 active » and intends to o vote be so, it would be a lot beiter | ce: oa fine keep: . from 7 _ becoming pregiiant by. using — ‘ness ‘is . not. living: as. one | wishes to. live; ‘it is. asking others-to live as one: ‘wishes letting’ ‘other people’ S_lives- with them. Selfishness al-_ ‘ways aims at creating around ‘it an. ‘absolute. uniformity of . type... Unselfishness: recog- - nizes infinite variety of ‘types | ‘it, acquiesces: in it and enjoys it saying, “To ‘hell. with : them’? -is: not: ‘your: way of | , take that into account as. you" vare finding . and : your t best: t-selt: the pill. Perhaps you had so. ° . - oS ves -much fire in your eyes in. reading about the pill that - you couidn’i see the print too a well. haere > Dore aSes 7s rue coronation or tHe 4 DISTRICT OF WEST VANCOUVER} 750 - ie STREET, West VANCOUVER, B.C. viv 313 | = = Roviow Of The — " "Transportation Study Will Be Held : 8 P.M. Thursday, Api6: . West Vancouver ‘Secondary School ‘Theatre The Consultants Who Did The Study : Will Present Thoir. Findings - | And Answer: Questions From The. Floor. 1 The study Is a FIRST DRAFT from the consulting company who were asked to | draw up thelr consensus of a transportation netw ork after full discussion with the participating municipalities and ‘the Indian Band, portation problems on the North Shore is y done with the full support: and, cooperation of cipalities, the Squamish indian Band and the nthe plan pending public has currently offered to pay 100% of bridge costs. n and lower level road costs. i. study Is being. prepared. It will be rth Shore News, priors to the public