40 - Sunday, September 1, 1991 — North Shore News LIFESTYLES Snobs ferreting out family connections DEAR MISS MANNERS — A very wealthy and socially prominent local family, whom I shail call the Doozits, has a third-generation family business here, manufacturing aad selling products internationally under the Doozit name. My sursame is also Doozit. People often ask me, ‘Are you related to THE Doozits?"' Usually this appears to be inoffensive cu- riosity, but there have been occa- sions when I was snubbed after the questioner determined that I was not related to the other Doozit family. My usual answer is a simple “No”’ or perhaps a Mippant ‘No, but I wish I were.’’ But I feel a more assertive response is needed for the obvious snob ferreting out connections to the other Doozits. © GENTLE READER — All right, but Miss Manners trusts you to use this in a good-natured way, to tease your questioners rather to denounce them, The answer is ‘‘THE Doozits? Why yes, we are THE Doozits. Are there others? Oh, you mean the company. Why, no, we have nothing to do with that. Did they try to suggest that? Oh, dear. Sometimes people tend to think they’re related to us who are not, at least as far as we know.” DEAR MISS MANNERS — 1 used to be a nurse, but I suffered a back injury on the job. I cannot stand up for long, and I cannot sit. I must lie down. I am forced to remain in bed 90% of the time. When I am able to get out to a doctor’s office, I must find a cor- Judith Martin | MISS MANNERS ner somewhere in the waiting room or wherever, and lie down as unobirusively as possible. You can imagine how embarrassing this is. I always bring needlework with me, to have something to pay attention to. The problem is the inordinate number of times people walk by me with a kind a sneer and say, ‘*Well, you look comfortable.”” It is usually clear from the tone of voice that they are not con- cerned with my being comfortable at all. OPTIONS FOR VOLUNTEERS THE FOLLOWING is a selection of many volunteer opportunities available from North Shore Community Services (NSCS). A recycling depot needs a vol- unteer, preferably a gardener, who enjoys talking with people, to assist at demonstrations on com- post sites. Training will be pro- vided. The hours are flexible. A CHAMBER music society needs a sociable person to take tickets, handle cash, assist with refreshments and clean-up at con- certs, from 6 to 10 p.m. on various evenings from October to December and again in February and March. Volunteers will attend the concerts for free. A GOOD driver who owns a vehicle and a valid B.C. driver's licence is needed to pick up con- gregate meals in containers from Kiwanis Lynn Manor and deliver them to Kiwanis Towers on Mon- days. Pick up time is 4:15 p.m. and it takes approximately 15 minutes to deliver the meals. Remuneration of $2.50 per trip is provided. me Yay All New!! FISH FRYDAY Treat yourself and your wallet to our delicious golden battered Fish & Chips. Tpe. 279 2 pe. 379 3 pc. 479 All served with coleslaw and French Fries. Available Fridays. A WELL-GROOMED, outgo- ing person is needed by a local Museum {0 operate a small book and card sales ccunter, to wel- come visitors to a local museum, and to provide information about the exhibits. Training and orienta- tion will be provided. A GARDENER is needed to assist physically handicapped adults with gardening chores at various homes on the North Shore. The hours are flexible. A THEATRE group needs an imaginative person to help sew costumes for various plays. Costumes can be sewn at home. The hours are flexible and free tickets to the shows will be pro- vided. A volunteer is also needed to bake tarts for a Sunday after- noon outdoor production called The Mad Hatter’s Tea Party. The volunteer may also help with the production. If you are interested in volun- teering call Dru at 985-7138. NSCS is a member agency of the United Way. THRIFTY THURSDAY Our Roast Beef dinner with all the trimmings for only Available all day, Thursday Great Food, Great Value! E kave, on occasion, tried to say something brief about the fact that I would dearly love to be able (o sit along with everyone else, but I have this injury. However, | don't really want to tell a (total stranger my medical problems. It's not as if they asked me if J was all right and whether there was any- thing they could do to help. What do you suggest? ! {ry to avoid going out because I know it looks .funny to other people, but at times I must. Also I feel lonely being by myself all day in bed. GENTLE READER — Miss Manners would hardly counsel you to stay home to avoid rude people — then we'd all have to lock ourselves in. She agrees that this is a par- Bowen Island Community School Caulfeild Elementary School Chartwell Elementary School Gleneagles Elementary School Hollyburn Efementary School Irwin Park Elementary School Lions Bay Elementary School Ridgeview Elementary School West Bay Elementary Schoo! Westcot Elementary School HILLSIDE MIDDLE SCHOOL Student Fee: $30.00 leave the building by 11:00. Student Fee: $30.00 SWAP. Students: Lunch is provided; Student Fee: $30.00 Secondary School Rovtes more details. day on September 3rd. Pauline Johnson Elementary School SENTINEL SECONDARY SCHOOL As available, student timetables will be mailed home in late August. Homeroom lists will be posted on the front windows of the school. ; Students in grades 10-12 are asked to report to homerooms at 9:30 A.M. on September 3rd, and will ticularly galling case of making unwarranted assumptions. She agrees that you needn't ex- plain, but the only other choices are to ignore the remark or to fail to deny the erroneous assertion. Miss Manners suggests the latter. A terse smile and the neutral remark ‘‘Indeed’’ should cut off further inquiry. DEAR MISS MANNERS — People sometimes want to borrow my audio tapes. I am willing to fet good friends listen to these tape, but I don’t want them to make copies for their own use. Musicians make part of their money from the sale of tapes. They are entitled to get this money. Some people do not consider it “SCHOOL DISTRICT #45 (WEST VANCOUVER) | BACK TO SCHOOL - TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 3RD ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS Opening and closing times on September 3rd are listed below: 947-9337 926-3241 922-3928 921-7421 922-9348 926-3244 921-8311 922-7814 922-0125 926-3248 922-0185 SECONDARY SCHOOLS 926-7534 Students are asked to report to auxiliary gym at 9:30 a.m. Students in grade 8 and 9 should report directly § to their advisor/advisee location at 10:00 a.m. on Tuesday, September 3rd. Regular classes will be held for the rest of the day and the cafeteria will be open. Students wil! be dismissed at 2:15 p.m. 922-3291 Students in grades 7-9 should report to homerooms at 11:00, and will be dismissed at 12:30. The Cafeteria will not be open. 922-3116 Students are asked to report at 10:30 A.M. on Tuesday, September 3rd — Inglewood Building. WEST VANCOUVER SECONDARY SCHOGL ; Students new to the school should report for enrolment between 8:00 A.M. and 3:00 P.M. on September 3rd. Students requiring timetable changes should report to the Theatre as follows: 922-3931 Grade 11 9:00 A.M. Grade 12 10:00 A.M. Grade 10 11:00 A.M. All Grade 10 There will be a required orientation session — 12:30 to 2:30 on September 3rd. report to assigned room. Wednesday, Septernber 4th will be a full day in session for all students with regular classes starting at 8:30 A.M. Homerooms will be posted on front wind: ALL WEST VANCOUVER SCHOOLS ARE OPEN FOR REGISTRATION FROM 8:00 A.M. TO 12:30 NOON — AUGUST 28TH TO AUGUST 30TH FOR FURTHER INFORMATION, PLEASE CONTACT THE SCHOOL PRINCIPAL BUS INFORMATION SEPTEMBER 3RD Elementary School Routes - Buses will bring students to school at regular times on September 3rd and will leave immediately after the dismissal times shown above. Sentinel Secondary School — Separate buses will be running in the early morning for seniors and in the late morning for juniors. See the August school newsletter for details. Hillside Middle School — On September 3rd, morning buses pick up for Hillside 1% hours later than usual. Afternoon buses leave the school at 2:00 on regular runs. Please telephone the school for Wesi Vancouver Secondary School — Sentinel and Hillside buses may be used anytime during the Regular schedules will operate effective September 4th. E For routes west of 3600 block Marine Drrive and in the Southridge-Westridge-Cypress Park area, look for B yeliow and black conventional schoo! buses. Municipal (Blue) buses will continue to serve regular fare routes and information may be obtained by telephone 985-7777. jows. The cafeteria will be open. stealing to copy tapes, as long as they are not planning to sell them. But I think it is wrong to obtain tapes without buying them. How can I tell people, without sounding too self-rightcous, that I do not wish to participate in this practice of stealing from musi- cians? GENTLE READER — While commending you for your stand, Miss Manners cannot encourage you to go about teaching ethics to your friends. It sounds self- tighteous to monitor other peo- ple’s consciences, because it is. She therefore suggests that you politely refrain from lending your tapes. The easiest way is an unex- plained general policy — ‘Oh, I'm sorry, but I neverlend tapes ’” 8:45 - 10:00 8:40 - 10:00 8:40 - 10:25 8:40 - 2:35 9:00 - 12:00 9:00 - 10:00 9:00 - 10:30 9:00 - 12:00 9:00 - 9:45 9:00 - 3:00 8:45 - 2:50 eo) “i