32 - Sunday, February 22, 1987 - North Shore News

Lifestyles —

DEAR MISS MANNERS — There seems to be an unstated
tule now that when something is borrowed, the borrower is

entitled to keep the item.

Further, when the owner re-

quests thal the item be returned, he
or she is made ‘to feel rude or
greedy.
GENTLE READER — Miss
Manners often wonders how peo-
ple who have not mastered the art
of politely saying no manage to get
through life with their virtue in-
tact, let alone their possessions.

You have made the serious (and
common) mistake of assuming that
the onus in such a situation is on
the victim of demands or of
subsequent insults. Politeness sim-
ply does not require you to lend

; SSS Phone for your

‘next appointment or

come in soon

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your belongings. It certainly does
not require you to feel bad about
wanting them back.

miss
manners
by Judith Martin

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A polite refusal to a request to
borrow something is ‘‘Oh no, I’m
sorry — I simply can’t.’’ Repeat

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this as often as necessary, but do
not elaborate or you will find
yourself admitting that there is
room for debate in something that
is strictly your choice.

A polite request to get some-
thing back is ‘I hate to inconve-
nience you, but I’m afraid I will
need my widget back immediately;
perhaps you forgot you had it.”
Any insulting replies are to be met
with a cold ‘‘Oh, | certainly didn’t
mean to inconvenience you by len-
ding it to you — please forgive me
for having been so thoughtless —
I'd tike it right away.

Woto

Correction Notice

RE: The Woolco flyer
appearing Feb, 22, 1987

Page 1, Due to Shipping Pro-
§ blems the “‘LAIDY PLUS” Bowl-
[ ing Shirt will not arrive on time,
orders will be taken. .

Page 2, Picture #1 (CONTROL
TOP PANTY HOSE) and Picture
43 (SECRET ALL SHEAR) have
been transposed. Ad capy and
price are correct.

WOOLCO sincerely regrets any
inconvenience that this may
cause its customers.

Wolo

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