+44 Weddesday; April 5,.1989- North Skore News LIFESTYLES If you don’t trust him, leave him Q. HOW CAN I get past the hurt and distrust and anger when I can’t forget that my lover went around seriously with another woman while supposedly devoted to me? He kas asked forgiveness and says it is over, but I question everything because of ail the lies he told me so convincingly. A. If you want to keep on with this relationship, you have to believe what he is telling you. If you can’t, you don’t want to, OK — then break off with him. ask Dr. Ruth Dr. Ruth Westheimer But if you want to go on with this man, tell yourself that other men have confessed to infidelity, to sinning against trust confided in them, and have promised to be faithful and have lived up to the promise. This is not outside human expe- rience. It has happened many times. Trusting him again will benefit both of you. If this rela- ticnship is worth something to you, if you have any regard for Q. In the interest of being frank and honest with my new lover, and behaving responsibly in the health crisis, shcald I open a complcte exchange of sexual histories with him? And how do I know he is be- ing as straight as I am in his con- fessions? A. Whoops! When you ask that last question, already my answer is “Don’t.’” Don’t bother having the talk with anyone unless you have a Strong feeling, based on good sense, that this person will be honest and responsible with you. With someone new who seems trustworthy, it may be best to discuss fantasy situations instead of conducting an inquiry with mutual confessions or declara- tions. You can find out a !ot about a person’s attitudes just talking about hypothetical cases, things that have been discussed on talk shows or in newspaper and maga- zine articles or fictional situations from films or TV dramas. Later, when this kind of discus- sion has opened the way, when mutual confidence is established, more factual exchanges of infor- this man, you have to give him a ~ mation can take place. THE CORPORATION OF THE CITY OF NORTH VANCOUVER NOTICE OF COURT OF REVISION TAKE NOTICE THAT a Court of Revision will be held on Monday, the 24th day of April, 1989, at 7:15 p.m. in the Council Chamber, City Hall, 141 West 14th Street, in the City of North Vancouver, on a parcel tax assessment roll prepared under the authority of Sections 482 and 612(b) of the Municipal Act. The proposed parcel! tax will be imposed upon the owners of land or real property capable of being drained into a sewer, whether or not the land is connected with, or whether or not the land is drained into the sewer, for the opportunity to use the sewer. The said Court shall hear complaints and may review and correct the parcel tax assessment roll as to the names of the owners of parcels of land. The said Court shall consider and deal with the said parcel tax roll for sewer facilities made available by the Corporation to properties which have been subdivided or consolidated since the subdivision or consolidation of those properties included in the Parcel Tax Assessment Roll certified by the Court of Revision held on May 16, 1888, and up to and including December 31, 1988. The Pesce! Tax Assessment Roil, or the Parcel Tax Assessment Roll as revised, shall be kept open for inspection at the office of the Land Agent/Assessor for at least ten days immediately preceding the day appointed for the first sitting of the Court of Revision. A complaint shall not be heard by the Court of Revision unless notice of the complaint has been made to the office of the Land Agent/Assessor, 141 West 14th Street, North Vancouver, BC., at least forty-eight hours prior to the time appointed for the first sitting of the Court of Revision. April 5, 1989 B. HAWKSHAW, CITY CLERK Q. 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