No simple answers about living together QUESTION: Do you think it's a good idea to live together for a period of time before marriage? That is not just a theoretical question. We are trying to reach a decision about it and want your opinion. STEWART: It used to be that there was a good, clear- cut, no-nomsense answer to your question. But them days is gone forever. At least them days is gone for now. There is no handy-daady all- purpose answer anymore. Everything depends on who you are and where you're at in regard to your morality, your religion, your family traditions, your physical, mental and spiritual heaith, Those political ads and cheap childis QUESTION: I think the political ads on TV and radio that are whipped off every few minutes are absolutely unforgiveable. They are childish and cheap and have nothing to do with the issues. I am ashamed of ail three leaders and aJl three parties. I must say that one party i net quite as bad as the other The uncertainty of a July marriage QUESTION: ['m to be married In July. I feel tur- moi] about it because I cannot feel sure ft is right for me. I want to feel more certain. I want to feel ab- solutely certain. Have you any advice for me about how I can get to feel certain about it before July? STEWART: Your un- certainty may simply be the natural lookin DID YOU KNOW ? We are now pteased to offer YOU complete case trom head to toe Specializing in skin treatments trom mini facials to total body teat ments Manicures to hand treatments, pedicures to foot treat ment Let us remove beauty blemishing hair trom your tace,. arms & legs permanently by electroty sts And as always we offer you the very best in Hair Design & Braiding, permanent waves & all phases of hair coloring. 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It seenis to me all three parties got suckered into a low-grade procedure and that those of us who are disgusted by it should try to be heard. Who knows, there sort of jittemness that so many bndes and grooms experience. As the big date gets nearer, it may handle itself beautifully But, if your uncertainty has aémore profound base than that, you would do well to chminate the date-line Before you send out invitations and enter into all sorts of wedding arrangements, give yourself an unhurried RON CS-Wednesday, February 20, 1980 - North Shore News directions you want to move in life”. The second suggestion may sound a little vague to you, or it may speak very clearly to you, (again depending on who you are and where you're at in your evolvement). It is this: Get used to paying gracious and respectful attention to your own Higher Self. You really have all the answers (not just the one you asked about) within your best self. 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