50 - Wednesday, October 25, 1989 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Problem puts damper on couple’s lovemaking anything that can be done about (Lis? A. I hope this first part of this Q. BEFORE HAVING my first sexual encounter with my lover E had a pelvic examination and was told that the ex- amination could not be completed because I had a very . tough hymen which would have to be dealt with surgically _ before intercourse was possible. Prenor Tnust's tiered-rate T-Bill Savings Account offers you great rates, no matter how much is always something that can be you deposit. Enjoy investment-level interest rates done. The first thing for you is to Nevertheless, we attempted in- tercourse and overcame this first obstacle. However, I remain un- able to have intercourse; my boyfriend simply cannot effcct en- try. The doctor says F am of nor- mal size, but I am not large enough for my lover. 7 understand that surgical enlargement would be cosiiy. A. And very likely unnecessary. 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(Recent daytime sightings have been reported also) The proper authorities have been advised of this problem but because of The West Vancouver S.PC.A. wish to advise that there are large numbers of the numbers involved in the area, it will tale a considerable time before the danger has passed. PS The use of poisons, baits or traps is strictly prohibited because of the high possibility that F neighbourhood pets or small children may be poisoned or injured. We therefore advise residents : not to take any action themselves against the coyotes except keeping your pets indoors. 0 4 ¥ of “Oholina . Le a - If you have any further questions please contact Ministry of the Environment. Anirnal Control Officer at 584-8822. This ad has been paid for by the West Vancouver Branch of the BC. SPC.A. as part of our continuing public service to the people of the North Shore and for the protection of animais