- te “7 ae -« Sn eS Sled _page 4 - March 10, 1976 - North Shore News oo QUESTION: Pm in the - middle. My folks gave all us kids the notion that anything that had to do with sex was bad and sinful and dirty. Then in my [ate teens I got acquainted with seme people who were just not like that at all. They seemed to me to be the others? Find out which.” natural and easy and “‘good”’ in the way they. talked, and yet I was shocked and almost horrified. rm really in the middle. I don’t like my folks attitude at all and I can’t feel comfort- able with my friends who are’ so different from my folks. I. feel out of it. Which ones should I throw in my lot with? QUESTION: My husband and I, once a month or so have dinner with another couple who have been our friends fer years. Sometimes ‘they come to our home and* sometimes we go to theirs. On occasicn so te. RB: restaurant. earey Wwe We have had many ‘good times together and we like them. But in recent months. | _ Something has come.up. that ° _ pours cold water on the ‘get-togethers. Our friends | you do. Why. not. tell them .. you... feel. embarr: have had some sort of religious experience and they * always want to: “ony. ‘grace’. * as they bat i it. My husband. and Ti are not : religious and we resent them . pushing us into something we don’t really believe in. I don’t ‘think we'd mind it. much if they just did it at their house, but why should they insist at our house or when we are out at a restaurant? Don’t you think | their behaviour {is Im bad -: taste? How should-we handle ‘it? cost? - of 12.,. Pop Shoppe 1260 Lynn Vallay Road, | _ North Vancouver ently — want _ ‘ them? Giving a party can be a bit nerve-racking. So of course, the last thing you want to be worrying about * are your mixes. Weill you have enought? Are they the. right kinds? How much Is it. goingto -— Relax. Just use mixes from The PoP Shoppes. © You see, our mixes know how to be subtle. They never. try to overpower your spirits. Pick te mixes => .» you like best. The PoP Shoppe’s got’em all'- cola, . | _ ginger ale, Plus-4, lime-rickey, grapefruit, tonic and - soda water. You.can buy them in 10-92, bottles in cases of 24 or big 30-07. family size bottles In cases All are’ returnable. And just think. ot whe “The monoy you: save ‘buying our mixes can be used: to. loaded more opt to the party! Rob ” STEWART: You. sound like “-you don’t want to “throw in your lot”’ with either. - don’t. Slow down. There’s no big fat hurry. What is there in your folks attitude that has something rewarding for you? .What is rewarding in the attitude of way you are leaning and go in that. direction only the distance you want to £0, and no further. ‘There’s another thing to do too, and it is so important: - Get to understand and respect yourself more and more so that you will do -better at arriving at your own - decisions and feeling good: about them. Don’t try to be: _ like someone else. But give’ yourself permission to be like youl . STEWART: Yes, I think their behaviour is in bad taste. However, that is the way. they want to behave, they are. your friends, and you appar- to continue enjoying - their company. ‘So; instead of making an = ‘issue ‘of it, why not go along ~ . With them: at their house at least?: At- -your house, it would be gracious of you to respect. their wishes and invite one of. them to say grace. It.certainly won’t be a difficult thing for you to grant them. | In a restaurant? I feel as sed and © suggest that if they want to -do'so they might say a silent "grace and, let you off the — 7 hook? - Is it my | breath ? QUESTION: : Women, ‘today are a funny lot. They are so: flighty and undependable. Three different women have . left me in the past four years. They start off just fine and then’ after,.a few. months bingo! They up and leave. ‘What’s the matter with Mixed company. Ooo plus depesit ae 1 ‘a401 Marine, West Vancouver ' Sy ee So . “appointments. - Shoppe -Stongs | " HollyburnE Esso Freelance Counsellor Hayden “Stewart does private counselling as well as a great Ceal of group _work. He can be contacted at ' 261-6242 for information and Letters: are ~. always“wetcome: Malt: them to HAYDEN ‘STEWART,,. c/o the . North Shore News, - Lonsdale, North: Van... | a Games get. 5.1] . QUESTION: Pm browned of about all the negativity in connection with the Olympic — - Games. Why don’t Canad- fans: have: more enthusiasm ‘ about © the - ‘Games? ~ -The. | Olympics. are the’: most. important. world event of the ._ “decade. Don’t you saree? : ‘STEWART: ‘Nos wee po gy STEWART: I'll reply. against my better judgement, just in casé you ate serious and not: putting me.on. 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