The first is rejection. Not
many of us delight in having
someone let us know that
they are walking away from
us, or that they would like it
if we walked away from
them. Rejection by a loved
one is particulary painful.

The loved one may be a
spouse, or parent, or child,
or dear friend. And when
such a one rejects us, we are
devastated. We experience a
variety of feelings. We may
feel angry or afraid or
bewildered or cheated. We
may feel a lot of self-criticism

Job o

CORRECTION
VOLUNTEER to supervise
court order visits or become a
Corrections volunteer for
adults or teens. North Van-
couver location.

PROGRAM AIDE -
CHILDREN. Do you have
two or three hours to spare
one day a week? Help is
needed at a daycare centre tn
Lynn Valley which is open
11:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. Assist
with field trips, snacks,
games or outdoor activities.
Open during the summer.

FUNDRAISERS for a
cultural organization during
June are needed.

Join the North Shore com-
mittee planning a November
**radiothon’’.

HANDICAPPED AIDE

for a visually impaired

Senior

FROM NOW until June 15,
semors in your community
will be asking you to support
them by pledging money for
their participation in the First
Annual Vancouver Semor
Strut. The event has been
created to promote and raise
funds for sentors’ organiza-
vons throughout the city

Participation in the Strutis
open to anyone who is con
cerned about the seniors in
ther Community, to all
seniors and all seniors’
Organizations Strutters wall
collect pledges trom frends.
telatives, neighbors and local
businesses for thei participa
hon in the Strut

Pledges are for participa

tion and not for distance
donc So, steutters may walk
yom, roll of stroll the cate
route, or begin at one of the
tein pomts along the route
The toute selected atfords
easy access. trigh visibility

or self-pity. We may feel
spite or even vengefulness.

Often our pride is so hurt
there seems tO grow in its
place a pitiful feeling of in-
adequacy or failure. Rejec-
tion is not fun.

Another experience, (so
different!) that some of us
hate to get into is a deep in-
volvement with another
human being. We like friend-
ships and we like being loved
and giving love, but many of
us are fearful of ‘‘letting go”’
to the point of risking the all-

portunit

woman who would love a
visit or a walk once a week.
Uses wheelchair.

NUCLEAR WEAPONS
FREE ZONE volunteer need-
ed in West Vancouver area to
petition for signatures.
Hours flexible.

COORDINATOR for a
Parents program at a Mom 'n
Tot drop-in centre for one or
two days a week. There are
several locations on The
North Shore and mothers
and their young children can
drop-in. The mothers partici-
pate in the program and the
children can play with others.
Help also needed in the
playroom.

For these and other in-
teresting volunteer oppor-
tunities, please phone Joan at
985-7138, the Volunteer
Centre.

strut

and does not include any
steep halls or difficult terrain.
Monies raised will go to the
participating seniors’
organizauion in the strutter’s
community Three per cent
of the money raised will be
held aside for the operating
cosu of the 2nd Annual Van
couver Senior Strut 85

The Strut ts oa. fetsurely
route, Jess than a mile in
length through downtown

Vancouver Strutters 9 wall
assemble at Terry Fox Plaza,
BC Place at 10 amon
June 1S) From there, it will
proceed down Beatty St to
West Creorgia St. along
Georgia (oO Granville St and
south on Granville to Robson

Street The Strut wall finish at
Robson Square where Mayor
Harcourt wall offfmrally pro

claim Sento: Strut Day 1984
Praises and cnitct

complete the

displays
tarnment will

Gay s events

Retired studies

UBC, ANNE AL Sumnce
study program for retired
people siaty andiover begins
June 4 and Continucs for fous
weeks on campus

There are minimal «harges
for Courses in the program

which ois funded by the
Sentors Lottery Assocation
of Ho and there are oe
vaeademic prerequisites Pat
Vacbpants can register fo cave
week atoa time on all tear
and accommodation os as art
able on canipus

Phas suse: s prcgrann an
clades a Week oof Deans
June TH 22 in whah five
1 BO department: heads gis
costphtsoanto there field anedia

tour to the Seattle Scicnec
Centre where an catibit of
"OOO years of © himese tech
nology oi oon display The

four mast be registered for

separately

Microcomputers lawn
bowling great Canadian
Shakespeare hitehen
chemustry and the golden age
of Russian

tetats

literature are
ameotge (he Course subyeets
Post More roformation
phone 604) 2722 S270 of write
foo a brochure to) Summer
Program foe Retired People
U BO Centre for

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out giving of ourselves to
another person in a close
relationship. There is a fear
of losing control, a fear of
weakening our sense of self
identity.

So what happens when a
person avoids the experience
of an open, deep relation-
ship? Such a person, even
though he yearns for love
(and therefore would not
dream of ‘‘walking out’’ on
another) is quite apt to bring
about his own rejection, by
engineering it deliberately or
subconsciously. In other
words that person would br-
ing about his own rejection to

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save him from the risk of giv-
ing himself in love.
Counselling clients tell me,
all too often, that they get
close to a beautiful relation-
ship and then ‘‘something

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Month Is Dedicated To All Senior

Zellers Offers A 10%*

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On This Special Day
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The Afternoon Bonus

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Cll - Sunday, June 3, 1984 - North Shore News

Don’t be afraid of involvement

his piece is about two experiences that lots of
people don’t want to go through.

the growing edge

by Hayden Stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242

Jor appoiniments for individual, family or group counselling.

happens’’ to spoil it.

And again, all too often, it
18 obviously because they
choose to be rejected rather
than choosing the risk of in-
volvement. The _ benefits?

Well, they can blame so-

meone else rather than accept

responsibility, and they can

say ‘‘poor me’’ loud enough

to win support and pity.
Loving ts better.

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bright and tidy stores and receive a 10%* discount on your
purchases! This Monday, and the first Monday of every
month, Zellers invites all senior citizens to shop and save
10%* off the already low prices at your local Zellers store.
Our helpful and courteous staff will be pleased to assist in
every way. 10%* Off Discount Day for Seniors this Monday

Senior Citizens will receive

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