LIFESTYLES Thank absent h host, too DEAR MISS MANNERS —~ When my sister retired from a large corporation, one of her contacts, a gen- tleman who had become a good friend to her and her husband, invited her to stay in the family’s summer house in Paris. He had visited her home on occa- sion and had stayed at a rental she owns. The Paris home is in a very ex- clusive neighborhood and consists of six bedrooms and five and a half baths, plus. With her only son being unavailable and far away, she in- vited my husband and me to go along on a two-week vacation. She then said that I could invite my iwo sons and daughter-in-law. My husband decided that we would buy all the plane tickets for their birthday gifts. What I need to know is to whom each of us should address the thank-yous. My daughter-in-law is nagging for the owner’s address to write to him. I say he doesn’t even know her and she is out of line. She owes her thanks to me and my sister and should not attempt a personal note to the gentleman who was so kind as to allow us to share his beautiful home in Paris. We all had a wonderful time, and only this questionable rule of eti- quette has us stumped. GENTLE READER — After an outing like that, is there any reason to be stingy with the letters of thanks? Certainly your daugh- ter-in-law owes her thanks to you and your sister, but why not to the absent host as well? Cap College head to speak THE PRESIDENT of Capilano College will address the West Vancouver School Board Monday night during the Committee of the Whole Meeting. . Douglas Jardine’s presentation will be on Capilano College as an institution of first choice. The meeting is open to anyone with an interest in education, al- though Jardine will be targetting parents of students in Grades 10 to 12. Following Jardine’s pres- entation, Westcot Elementary School primary staff will provide an update on the new primary program which will include color slides illustrating the implementa- tion of the Year 2000 proposals at the schools. The Committee of the Whole Meeting will be held at 7 p.m. on Oct. 29 in the library of Westcot Elementary School, 760 Westcot Road. LIQUIDATION! XMS WRAPPING PAPER. NEW FOIL DESIGN, su 50% | _See our ad on page 11 | our | See our ad on page 11 | on page 1 LIQUIDATION WORLD: 1331, CLARK DR. VAN. 255-1222 15357 104TH AVE. SURREY 589-7111 MISS MANNERS Miss Manners wonders if you role of ‘‘best man,’’ but not of suspect that she will attempt to brides selecting their mothers. use the occasion to extraci a direct invitation from someone she has Judith not met. Let us hope not. Miss B Martin rE v Manners doesn’t know your daughter-in-iaw and you do, but she tends (o trust people who are eager to write letters of thanks. 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