36 - Sunday, March 1, 1990 - North Shore News

LIFESTYLES

Widow thinks women
should share their men

DEAR MISS MANNERS — TP have been ua widow for a little
over a year. Although Tam 64 years old. [ keep active in
religious and political circles, and E now feel that I'd like to
begin atlending the banquets, dances and parties that re-

quire a lady to have an escort.

A celationship is out of the
question. Several of my friends’
husbands have made passes at me,
but | turned them down. I want to
keep my friendships, even if I've
half pulled away from them siace I
became unattached.

What I would like is to be able
to ‘‘borrow’’ the husband of a
friend when I need an escort. I'm
willing to take care of ail expenses.
I just don't know how to go about
this in the proper way, or how to
be sure it does not harm the
friendships that my late husband
and I had with these couples over
the years.

Should I ask the wife's permis-
sion to ask her husband, or ask her
to ask him? Should { ask the hus-
band first and then ask the wife?
Should I ask the husband and not
mention it at all to the wife?

With women outnumbering men
the way they do, don't you think
it’s unfair, as well as unrealistic,
for any woman to expect to keep a
man for herself exclusively?
Should we have some rules for
sharing men? There must be a civi-
lized, peaceful way to do this,
especially among friends of long
standing.

GENTLE READER — If you
really want Miss Manners to help
you — and she does sympathize
with the unattached lady who is
barred from attending interesting
events because of the barbarous
custom of demanding that every
lady come equipped with a gen-
tleman — you are going to have to
do a lot of work on this question.

No, there is no polite way of
saying to a married lady, ‘You re-
ally shouldn’t expect to have your
husband all to yourself — you’re
going to have to learn to share him
with me.”’

And yet there are circles in

Kids go to camp

IF YOU are looking for spring
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Eagle Harbour Community Centre
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The centre is offering day-camps
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The camps run frorn 9 a.m. to 3
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which people go out with one
another's spouses and nobody
minds, because it is all obviously
done in perfect innocence — witn
no social, tet alone romantic,

miss
manners
Judith Martin

usurpations intended or suspected.
The evil-minded will find this hard
to believe, having always gone on
the supposition that anyone given
the opportunity will behave as sin-
fully as possible, but it is never-
theless true.

The difference is that divisions
are made on the basis of interests,
not gender. ‘‘You know I hate
basketball; would you take my
ticket and go keep Sam com-
pany?”’ ‘‘I have an extra concert
ticket, but unfortunately not two
— would one of you care to go?"
“If Caleb is going to one of those
geology lectures again, I wish he’d
let me go along.’”’ ‘*Tell Tom that
if he’s looking for someone to go
to the movies with when you work
Jate, I’m always game; we could

pick you up for ai late
afterward.**

Notice that cach of these quiisi-
invitations is addressed to the cou-
ple or the wife. The presumption is
that you are all friends, but
availability and inclination have
you forming different subgroups
on different occasions,

DEAR MISS MANNERS — My
husband conducts a good amount
of business from home on the
phone. I work for him but am also
employed elsewhere.

Over many years I! have been in-
terrupted in mid-sentence many
times. When it’s business, our bive-
lihood, I understand. However,
when the cali is from a friend or
relative with whom my husband
chats frequently, 1 feel he is rude
to engage in 2 long, entirely social,
call while [ stand around waiting
to finish our conversation. He has
offered to let the answering
machine take cails while we talk,
but I don't like to do this, because
many of his calls need to be handl-
ed promptly.

Could my husband not politely
inform a friend that he’s in the
middle of something, e.g., say:
“My wife is jabbering away just
now. Could I call you back?*’ Or
could he not keep his social call
brief instead of rambling from
subject to subject while I cool my
heels?

supper

GENTLE READER — Miss
Manners supposes he could, out
wonders why you must run him
through the task of putting people
off with an excuse, which he ab-
viously finds embarrassing, when
the mechanical device is there for
doing so automatically.

The reason for answering
machines with screening devices is
exactly that one may take urgent
calls at once without having to
take all calls as they arrive. While
there is nothing wrong with ex-
plaining that one is too busy to
talk, a caller may be forgiven for
wondering, given the available
technology, why, in that case, one
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