CB - Wednesday, April 6, 1983 - North Shore News

the growing edge Hub

by Hayden Stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242
for appomrnments for individual. family or group counselling

They want fulfillment

QUESTION: week if
was owse bound for four
days and one of the things |
did was read, one right after
the other, your best five ASK
HAYDEN STEWART
cobumss.

I was imtrigned by the fact
that there is sach a wide
variety of questions asked
yoa. The variety is seen, not
only in the subject matter of
the questions, buat im the
sorts of people who ask them
and the age-range of the
questioners.

bene Moniered @ you have

aware of any thread

If you

QUESTION: My

ens saying to coe ther I
loved him, I would do thus
and so for him. Or, if 1 don't
do exactly what he wants,
even 7 I don’t know what it
is, be says it’s because | do
mot love him. This is his

don't love him. A thousand

that ram throaph all, or
most of your questions. In
other words, is there, in your
opinion any one question
that seems to be on people's
minds?

STEWART: On reading
your question, I was aware
that I had an answer to it,
night at the top of my mind.
Ill give it to you, but I
should, first of all, point out
that I have not done any
serious searching for an
answer. Indeed the quesnon
has never ansen in my mind
before now.

oved

times Fve heard him start
sentences with “If you loved
me, you would....” Am |!
extra dumb or can he be
right?

STEWART: It ts inconcetv-
able that 1 would know the
answer to your question
better than you do. Do YOU
get the feeling he is ac-
curate?

While you are thinking it

The answer is this: 1 am
aware that people are asking
questions about improving
the quality and/or the enjoy-
ment of their lives. Everyone
wants to be better off, in one

way or another. Growth
towards some _ kind of
fulfillment seems to be

rather generally important to
us. It seems to be im the
scheme of things that we all
reach out for ways by which
we Cap co-operate with and
coatnibute to our evolution
as human beings. How can |
live more adequately?
THAT 1s the queshion.

through, keep in mind that
by your doing what he wants
may not necessarily be the
loving thing to do. Respect
the nature ef your own love.
If one of your httle boys
cred and screamed and
coaxed you not to take him
to the dentist, would the
loving thing be for you not to
take care of his teeth? If he
whimpered to you, “If you
loved me you would not
make me go to the dentist” -
would he be accurate?

QUESTION: As an inthe-
closet amateor, [ve always
enjoyed painting and have a
few pieces that are not had
at ali. The other day I was
sarprised to be invited to
show some of my art al a
small show coming up soon.
My husband says for me to
forget it because # it went
well, ['d pet too ded up in it
and woald negiect hin! |
don't think 1 would, but he
seems to be quite serious in
his objections. I hate to give
op the chance, and yet I
don’t want to go flat out in
defying him, [ve pgot to
decide very soon. Whar do
you think?

STEWART: Its all hap
pening too quickly. Would
you cousider letting this
particular opportunity sip
by while you pet yourself
more ready for the next one?
Get some more pamungs
ready that you are happy
with. but also. get yourself
ready to deal with your
husband's appreheosivencss
in the most Constructive and
loving way possible. You
might even “practise” doing
a lot more art than usual at
the same tme as you
practise how to do i without
shpping into the negiect that
he is afratd your am en-

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out of your interests and
concern?

thusiasm would bring about.
Altogether apart from
your painting, does he have

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NOTICE OF PUBLIC HEARINGS
ZONING BYLAW

The Council for The Corporation of the District of North
Vancouver will hold Public Hearings under provisions of
the Municipal Act in the Council Chamber, 355 West
Queens Road, North Vancouver, B.C. on Monday,
Apni 11th, 1983 commencing at 7:30 p.m. to consider
the following.

BYLAW 5579 Appticant Lynnmour Glass and Mirror

Location Lot 7, Block 23.DL 204, Plan 1340

(1455 Rupert Street)

Rezoning trom Single: tamily
Residental GOOO Zone (RS4) to Light
industnal Zone (13) and establishment
ot a siting area

to permit constructon of an industnal
butiding

BYLAW 5581 Apphcam Lambton Steel

Location porhon of Blocks 4 to 16 under
National Harbours Board lease V
169B8(5) Dt 204 Man 1340

(1350 Rainbow Dive)

establishment of a satiny arta

to permit Consttucton of a roof ex
tension onto an eusting warehouse
prowding fom a covered sail foading
tacibty

BYLAW 5582 aApphcant Mr and Mrs Milhgan on
behalf of afl the Owners on the 1600
block Page Hoad

Locabon lots A HB / BY 10 24 GaACept south

SW (RP 908) Lot 25 except south 5
nh (RP 908) and tot 26 except south
Sf (HOP 9O8) al of Block HH OL
27088 Plan 25862?
(1600 Block Page Road)

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Anrvesrcirienit frezoning Of 9 parcets from: Sangle tamity

Resvdiential 7200  /one (FtS55) to

angle family Hesidental G000 0 Zone
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