QUESTION: 1 like.

dummy writing to. you about
this ‘thing. that .{s ‘bothering |
me; but you see, I don’t want
to talk to any

being a gossip and so Tl ry
this: very anonymoys way of
finding out what someone
else thinks.

re's my story. I was
waiting for a friend in the
lobby'e of a botel. ‘We. were

QUESTION: Want to be a
referee? My husband and I
are on different sides of an
issue that has arisen. My
male cousin, who ts in his
early 40’s ‘phoned us from
the prairies, where he lives,
to ask if we had a spare bed-
room for a five or six day
visit he was planning to the
coast. We didn't mind as he's
a decent sort of fellow and it
was arranged when he'd
come. So far, so good. But,
when he arrived, he had his
lady-friend with him! I
politely muttered something
abut being surprised, but
glad that she had come too,
and that I'd prepare the
other bedroom for her. Ob-
viously, this was not what
they wanted and quite
casually let me know that

JACKSONVILLE, Fla.
(UPI) - A 63-year-old
woman, not yet a grand-

mother herself, has begun a
letter-writing service for
grandparents too busy to
write to their grandchildren.

“A generation ago most

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going to have a coffee -

together. I was sitting op-
_posiie “the: elevators and

“suddenly, I saw ‘two of our
living soul. .
about it until I know what I
want to say and do. I hate |

married friends (they are not
“married to each other) get

off the elevator together.

’ They did not see me. They

were in animated § con-
versation (as the novels say)
and seemed to be having a
very happy time of it. What
was I to think? Here it was 10
in the morning and two of

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| for appointments for individual, family or group counselling.

one bedroom would suffice.
I think perhaps I was a little
awkward about it, but I fell
in with their wishes.
However, it bothered me. I
did not like the idea of their
sleeping together under our
roof. Privately, I said so, to
my husband but he just
laughed and told me to grow
up. I still don’t like the idea.
They have gone now, but
they had a good time on
their visit and said they'd like
to do it again sometime.
Next time, I don't know what
Isshould say or do. I think It
is all wrong and that we
should not encourage it. By
the way, she seems like a
very nice person and I quite
liked her. What can I do

without offending my cousin:

and his lady and without

For grannies too busy

grandmothers stayed home
and baked pies, crocheted
and often wrote to their
grandchildren,” Marie
Dillon, whose firm is called
Granny Ree and Granny Em
Inc... said Wednesday.
“Today's grandma ts likely

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my friends.come down the
elevator of a hotel together!
I don’'t.know what to do.
Should [let their respective
spouses know what I saw?
Should I do it face to face or
should I write them
anonymous notes telling

‘them what is going on? Or

should I confront them
myself — I mean the couple
I saw? I know I should do
something, but I haven't any.
idea ‘how to. handle my

What about girlfriend?

having a confrontation with
my husband?

STEWART: Would you con-
sider lying a lot? You could
tell them your house is being
rebuilt and you are living in a
small tent. ['m afraid that
wouldn’t work though.
They'd probably bring along
their own tent. No, I think it
would be easier for you to
take your husband's advice
and grow up. Is it too dif-
ficult for you to see that
these two middle-age con-
senting adults are in charge
of their own lives and will
live, on the prairies, or at
your place, in the manner to
which they are accustomed?
Why should they change
their ways because they are
visiting their friendly cousin?

to be holding down a job and
is too busy to bother,” she
said.

For $12 a year, Mrs.
Dillon will correspond
monthly with a child. A
special birthday letter to the
child 1s a bonus.

Sothys
one of Canada’s

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responsibility.

will —

advise me?
_ STEWART: I would love to.

I could go into a lot of detail
pointing out some of the
perfectly -valid and
respectable things those two
MIGHT have been doing

upstairs in a hotel ‘together.

(like attending a seminar or
checking out an art display
or breakfasting on the roof

__ with a bunch of friends or

attending..a charismatic
Prayer- meeting or... OF...

-) IT could point out what

a 2 fool you would feel if you
said something or did
something that would
suggest you had been
foolishly and mistakenly
suspicious of the proper
behaviour of your (former)
friends. I could even point
out some of the things THEY
might have thought about
you sitting all alone in a
hotel lobby, if they had the

same sort of small-
mindedness that you seem to
be fussed about.

Isay I COULD go into all
sorts of details in answering
your odd question. But I
believe it would be far more
to the point if I just said to
you as firmly and as kindly as
possible, “For goodness sake
and your own sake and the
sake of your friends, mind
your own darn business.”

to

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