Tr - Stewart - “may be - ‘reached -at a QUESTIONS Fve Jo finish: * 261-6242, for. ‘appointments for ~ individual, familly. or counselling. - _ Hotel onty] are Tussdays. _wesidents. _ Just like my husband! We've “group - ganventence, of North: ‘shore ee 3. He “sounds ee : - close to retirement: age which — ..Pvebeen ‘waiting: for through: . ‘all those. years,'sa i could be , close: to my husband more. — * Well, I find now that I really - don’t: truly . want to 1 epee © time with I ; os ""Throagh the y years I ‘made 8 a life of my. own and became: more. self-sufficient. ‘Now he © _ resenting it. Iam. outgoing | - and enjoy people and-lots of ; , ,aetivities and have: done so, Bi always: hoping. my ‘husband . would see che. was _ missing something precious. _ Well, now he ts.all hep to “anloosen all his. ties of work : and ©. just can’t’ get the His. new. office. in: the. ‘Plaza’ : feeling - ihe hope . for or: . + international: | expected me to have. ans vn : x married and true ..to. my husband | but there is some- thing bothering me that 1 _tave not wanted to talk about. whi anyone cise -—— Hike my. _ friends. This is the thing. i'm ‘not. doing ‘anything . wrong. bat [feel sort of guilty about™ how. I_am attracted by. men other than: my husband. I'm attracted by hhim ‘too,: don’t. get me wrong, but is-there _ _ something ‘wrong with me- that | am interested ins _ “ooking” ‘at other men? ested in getting better - aequainted with him, it’s just ~ hear of men being turned on by just watching a girl walk by, but you don’t hear about | -~women being that way. Am I into ‘something ‘a little off beat? STEWART: 1 can think of no reason for. you to feel guilty. about the good feelings you man = is. attractive: to. you. Are you. ‘“‘kinky’’ or ‘‘off-beat’'? Not. because of those feelings. If — have’ when. a you were to let those feelings steer you into a direction you - don’t really want to travel, then you might feel kinky. Tf ; the’ truth were known’ (and — you have helped us get closer: to come of it) I would suspect that women are. every bit as attracted to men as men are to women. Accept ° your ‘feelings, be. grateful for them and enjoy them, but sec to it that you are in complete charge of | what you do with, those § If on the one’ extreme you withdrew from all men because you feel it is these feelings. ‘‘wrong’’ to have feelings of attraction — then you would be kinky. At the _ other extreme, if you popped into bed with every man you were attracted to — then you would be kinky. You seem to | be working out a middle road for yourself and you can make that road. beautiful and ‘free of guilt. Best wishes! © - gneppzeciative — edd outright self-centered iii noi put in writing my opinion of | . -. their alley-cat ‘morals and _ . their complete. ‘untrustworth- " iness. os . ‘QuEstion:. ‘Young: people - | today are sure a. weird. lot. | e _ ‘They . certainly don’t have ~ QUESTION: I am “happily - any idea in the ‘world what life is. aii about. You. ‘can’ - even do: something for them: ~ - without ending up with a slap | tothe face. “They are.so darn - pials and they just For~ instance, we built a wonderful rec room for them. in the basement and farnish- | ed it for. them. We got the musical set they wanted and did everyting we could to make them like their home — and bring thelr friends to it. Pll admit that part of the. -weason we did it Is because - we know we can’t trust them when they get away: from home. But the point is, we did everything for them and ~ now what happens to the rec a room? Nothing. - None of the: ids come to. our house. There's that great room for the |, all. furnished ‘and they have no use for ‘it. Their friends, so called, stay away In droves. What's the use of trying to do things for - kids these days? . Our own two daughters 7 haven't the common decency i ‘ “for” ‘my ‘husband | ‘and , it . in’ saying: ° Goa: - 80 very very long a time but, ~ completely baffles me. ‘Why . doctor. But d ) oe ee toaine eee would” ‘any ‘woman feel like wed _ mot. there. anymore. That . os a doctor will surely be the loser -.- some day. and. nothing on - pie God's earth will change him: ~ toaing ia more. money ‘than we How: unbelievably. | blind:and- will ever’ need?.- ‘Something - stupid some men‘ are. I jest - don’t know: what I will do. have that old feeling for my husband and I.don’t ‘think I want te have it. It’s:been too tong. if keep busy, but Ihave -amempty hopeless feeling. in’. the pit of my stomach. .1. guess I was feolish - all ‘Wants me to become depen- through those years to think ~ dent. again’ and. I. am... that when the time. eame for — gs. to have. “more. time © ‘together. that my feelings | EAP ce ele - day-to-day . problems _ happenings have worm my ; feelings down to nothing. L. ~ and I have not tessed-in the. “sponge easily. I just. don’t -': have: any respect 0 or Jove. left” days. ‘What: do: you make © of MR ‘daughters, and: then.. their’ friends, have found out what. . you built the rec. room. That . _ them talking. “Hey, I know a: _ place where . they’ ve. got th ; --neatest.. rec - room! - ~My wife and I have. , dene ‘everything in the world .for — ‘our two kids give us the cold shoulder. ’ ‘Whenever I see a fellow who | sae me want to sneak a second look, I feel so guilty! I am not the least bit inter- | sight. They thiak we .are a° - weird’ lot. _ support. | loved that : nian ‘dearly for ‘has got lost in the shufifle and , “T: feel an. ‘empty coldness . ‘toward him. Any ‘sugges-” _ tions? Ged help t Ghat, doctor ane his wife! _ - STEWART: - Don’t t “waste energy trying to find the old, 7 "feelings. ‘you used to. have way, back when ‘Now is. the : But I DO know. I just don’t what: ‘he’s Ss ‘lost.: Give: to fin . real good chance. Perhaps, just possibly : your, best times. All the. ionely. litde could be ahead! and * . = He. ‘is. ” recovering from B - blindness and. needs. a” 2 supportive, loving guide. See 4 . if he Can find itin you.. At last. needs: you. F jc vi ami a very determined person ‘We’ ve e now settled in our new to thank US and use what We've” given them. I just™ don’t understand kids these - STEWART: . ‘Perhaps - “you you think of them and wiy~ should do. it. I can just hear | These: ‘people built. it specially fo their daughters ‘because they. don’t trust them out. of their: They say we:. haven’t any idea about life and are unappreciative and ©. out-right self-centred.. They: say we have alley-cat. morals | a and are completely untrust- worthy and that they can’t understand us. Sounds like a. | swell couple. Let’s allgoover § there and have fun!’’ . oe - ‘stereo FM cassettes: Power play boosters ‘PRICES ARELOW- EVEN LOWER bird soun a 1246 Lynn Valley Rd. 1 Tm sure you love your daughters and want to guide © § and protect them, but you'd | better get it.into your head | that. they will live down to: § your estimate of them, even | if you try: to keep ‘your’ estimate secret. They have very littie need for your ' @- labelling them and judging — them, But, like all kids, they Jj have a vast need for love and |: trust’ and acceptance and ‘ . Perhaps you are @ ° ready for some new choices, |. and perhaps some help. LTD. Just oft Min. 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