‘Page C6, el - ly 25. 19791 . Noith Shore News want » lot im my man; and I have. ay great deal patience. ,Wilwalt. - But my: problem hes to do with. “meanwhile.” somewhat . confused. about ~what: I. “ghould ‘be getting _ from ‘men and. what I should * be giving “to: them when | r ‘know, with certainty, they: are. not the one; pp am. waiting for. ~ "To be more specific, Tam wavering ‘about whether I have any right to be friezidly with a man simply because I - Want to enjoy some par- ” ticular quality in him that is-- pleasing to me, when I know Pm willl find an‘ - Hey tents ““grtends” with a man, simply.” _ for companionship, or sex, 08 good conversation about. d, . spiritual matters, or to make | up.a foursome, or to dance or any one. ofa hundred I. . things. that different - “men ‘may offer? _ ve . See what Tancan? fest how ~ ' much. should I “take” from a mai, when T know that goes for’ “elving” tobi) 7. > fo STEWART: You ‘are free to “give” whatever you:wish, or to “receive” whatever you.. wish from any: man, -woman ‘or child. ‘When you use the - word “should” (as you did :. several times) " you eliminate“ me from giving ‘you a tesponse. The - whole~ business - of what you~ “should” do, in, this regard. eon Stewart: ma eo appoin individ ‘emt - ”. counselling. ee iy, on group Thesdave Seyi is for the opewenience of f North's a Hotel (Open. effects that ; are apt to come ‘your way in. regard to taking from, or- giving to, a man in most of the. areas you mention, like com- . --panionship, « -good...con-- _versation, ‘making | Mp a foursome, dancing, eic., etc. ? ae | "find myself rather " squeamish ‘about. including your idea: of being friendly Wwith‘a man “simply: for sex.” . Even ‘if the “should” em- - phasis you- make is eliminated, or, to put’ it ’ another way, even if we forget -the moral aspect of your’ questioning, t most people. soon: find it quite : unrewarding to. continue a relationstip” simply for sex.” of counselling, xbat <2 A friendship “simply £ for — nship” : ont a ol mae ad I have | been- led. to-feel,. after years The other day -at. Cates. Park I. saw..a: grown man wearing a T-shirt that had one four letter word on it in- ' big letters all across . his: _ chest. And I saw two girls whose T-shirts had on them” openly. suggestive come-ons wy There were a. ; couple of ethers that didn't get into the rotten-.category «simply because they were. rather clever and quite hamorous—. however, they were fraaidy While I'm at li, iow abou the rash of crude greeting cards that seem to be in- . creasing - ‘im numbers? I suppose because ‘they ‘lay claims to being funny, their ~ 4 creators can 1 get away ‘with it. What do you think? “STEWART: 1 ‘think you just wanted to write a letter to the paper. You don't seem‘to be. taking any ‘detectable — stand; you. hardly. sound like “may. even: be poking. fun: at people who want censorship and trying to goad them into ‘waging a war on T-shirts and: greeting cards. Or. perhaps ._you are promoting. at- tendance for Cates Park! Did - -you say what you Started out to say?” oeN s Her husband went . to’ improve’ her — . QUESTION: What “would _ you do if you knew that someone you really love was trying to change -you over © and make you into a dif- ferent person? - That's what's happening to me. My husband wants to ‘improve’ me. Now I want to- -‘jm prove’ ,’ and some of his - ideas for me are real good and I am grateful for them, - BUT, BUT!!! What should I do? No, FI stick to “would YOu do? , ‘STEWART: a bay. het VG wal a Play Now for "only $250 Goodness: knows what" Pa. ‘do if that situation, in fact, became my situation. I expect I would do something other than what I am about to say, but, while I am untouched by . that set of circumstances, I will try to take a stab at. t answering you. I think rd say something like this: “I want you to know I love you and that I am grateful for your love. © But you are sufficiently dissatisfied with me: to ac- and I want you to know. that is almost intolerable. to me, ° it. is ‘probably. too heavy” a... burden” for-me to carry ~ me? I need. your rhelp.” allowing you'to ‘work’ « on i my improvement. “7 want you to know that I _am going to try to figure out. some way of putting an end to it. But I also want you to know that it is a good thing I am going to try to do and with all my heart I want to ‘enlist you in giving me_your Joving help-~. “There are changes I want ia own. 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