C8 - Sunday, April 11, 1982 - North Shore News

Devastated by a friends ' departure

QUESTION: Once in a
while, one or other of your
correspondents tells you he
is devastated over
something. That's the way I
feel right now — devastated.
I feel empty and alone and
even a little bit frithtened.
The event that has brought
about my condition is the
decision of a dear and
valuable friend to move
away to another part of the
world. He has been like a
mentor to me. Through my
friendship with him, I have
come to know a lot more
about life as it can be. He
has been an inspiration and a
teacher and an advisor to me
and now, suddenly, | am
going to be without him. |

How would the

QUESTION: In your March
24 issue, Elsworth Dickson's
INQUIRING REPORTER,
asked the question, “What
do you think of chemical
warfare?” four of the five
people interrogated replied
by registering their op-
position to chemical war-
fare. The only one who gave
it a reluctant approval and,
only then as a last resort) was
“a former chaplain”.

1. What would the good

The risk of using

QUESTION: About one of
your columns of a few weeks
back in which you plugged
for parents not to say “Be
Careful!” to thelr kids, but to
say something like “Use your
brains and take some risks.”
Two of our friends thought
you had given terrific ad-
vice. The rest of us all
thought you had been quite
irresponsible. We could not
stomach you having = the
nerve to ADVISE kids to
deliberately take risks. Don't
you think you screwed up
that time?

STEWART: Let me put i
this way I'm glad all the
parents in the world have not
taught = all the kids in the
world that they should be
careful and never do
anything for the first me
Come to think of (1t.
perhaps To did screw up |
guess to encourage kids to
use thei brains makes
redundant the business of

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feel like a babe in the
wilderness. I was just
beginning to see what it's all
about and now I'm to be
without my guide and
strength. How does a person
handle such a loss of one so
important to him?

STEWART: Many who read
your letter will know how
you feel. At first you feel so
alone, don’t you? It has been
great for you that you two
have shared so usefully. Can
you see, however, that in
fact he has not given you
anything more than help in
your own uncovering of
what you already had even
before he came into your
life? What he has helped you

chaplain consider to be a
“last resort” and what would
his argument be for using
chemical warfare even as a
last resort when he thinks it
wrong to use it before the
last resort comes along?
2.9f the Inquiring
Reporter is handed a score
of about 4% out of 5 op-
posing chemical warfare,
what is your guess the world-
wide score would be? How
would “THE PEOPLE” of

jJelling them to take risks. All
other things being equal, if
they use their brains they
will take risks. Surely we are

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discover you need not be
without, simply because he
has moved. It is valid and
natural for you to miss him,
but he would be chagrined to
hear you say that have lost
your guide and strength and
inspiration. You HAVE

what he helped you come to
know.

Who knows — he may
have left town because he
felt he was not sharing with
you in a way that left you in
charge of your own life.
Perhaps he felt that you (and

too many of the others) were
“leaning” on him and too
dependent on him. Here 1s
your chance to know (right
in the midst of missing him)

that everything he shared
with you is YOURS,
everything he gave of

ask hayden stewart

people vote?

the world vote?

STEWART: 1 God only
knows the answers to your
double-barreled first
question. And, perhaps, the
chaplain.

I wonder if either of them
could help us decide what
“last resort” (if any) would
justify our turning our backs
on a firmly held principle of
life and switching to a policy
(that your five readers
describe as “illegal”,

“madness”, “insane”) that
everyone disapproves of.”

2 My guess is that the
people of the world would
also vote about 4% our of 5
against the use of chemical
warfare. With that sort of
majority we are quite
capable of peace. Of course
we'll need a majority that
does not switch policies too
easily and one that is not at
all sure that there is any such
things as a last resort.

your brains

born with the “knowing” that
without risk-taking, nothing
will be accomplished.

Leave us not throttle that

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