wt ico 44 - Sunday, January 21, 1990 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES There’s no need to cry DEAR MISS MANNERS — What do you think about somebody who doesn’t cry at a funeral? This man lost his wife after a long illness. I saw him cry before she died — it hurt him to see her suffer — but at the funezal he didn’t cry. I'm wondering why. I know he loved her. He says he'll never marry again. Why no tears at the funeral? GENTLE READER — Miss Manners prefers to say what she thinks of someone who monitors a BY miss manners Judith Martin widower at his wife’s funeral, in (disappointed) expectation of a dramatic manifestation of his deepest emotions. The kindest thing she can manage is that you do not under- stand grief. Perhaps you are lucky enough never to have suffered a loss. It is not uncommon for people to be temporarily sustained by the formalities of a funeral, so that their emotions are subdued, some- Relieve stress PARTICIPATE IN a meditation workshop or course at Eagle Har- bour Community Centre and learn that dealing with the stresses and anxieties of everyday life is easier through meditation. Meditation — A One-Day Workshop takes place on Satur- day, Jan. 27 from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. and costs $25. The workshop covers basic meditative techniques and creative visualization. A. six-week Meditation For Relaxation and Personal Direction course covers simple meditative techniques, creating an inner quiet space, tapping the intuition, cre- ative visualization, goal setting and personal direction. This course takes place Wednesdays, Feb. 7 to March 14, from 7 to 9 p.m. and costs $39. The instructor for both medita- tion courses, Caroline Sutherland, is actively involved in presenting educational lectures to colleges, universities, schools, business groups and community organiza- tions. She is also a certified relaxa- tion therapist, a licensed stress consultant and a registered clinical counsellor, For further information contact Eagle Harbour Community Cen- tre, 5575 Marine Dr., West Van- couver, 921-7425. Pre-registration is required. injustices recalled From page 43 “Even the water and minerals were claimed by the province and diverted to settlers,’’ she says. ‘‘It wasn’t hard to find documents that were quite candid about how the land takeovers were done.”’ Drake-Terry, whose grand- parents were West Vancouver pio- neers, says most British Colum- bians believe Indian land claims are justified and that ti'e should be returned to the natives. “1 think the average person recognizes the injustices done to the Indians and would like to see something done about it.” times even numbed. Violent out- bursts of grief are more likely to take place during the supposed return to ‘‘normal"’ life, when the mourner realizes that his loss is permanent. Except for vulgar Victorian and earlier funerals at which profes- sional ‘tmourners’’ were hired to weep and wail over the caskets of strangers, etiquette has never con- cerned itseif with whether people cry ata funeral. Miss Manners ad- vises you not to concern yourself with it, either, but to offer any bereaved friend what solace you can. Founding Meeting for the Constituency of West Vancouver, Capilano Social Credit Date of Meeting: January 24, 1990 Location: West Vancouver Secondary School Theatre 1750 Mathers Ave. West Vancouver, B.C. Time: Meeting Guest Speckels: Registration 700 pm. 8:00 p.m. Angus Ree, MLA, North Vancouver-Capilano and the Honourable John Reynolds, MLA, Minister of the Environment like linen. TREATMENT OF PHANTOM LIMB PAIN A new DRUG FREE system for the treatment of phantom limb pain is being tested by researchers at the University of British Columbia and G.F. Strong Centre. The researchers are looking for amputees with phantom limb pain to participate in the study. The pain is experienced in a limb which is not there anymore. The new treatment uses a material, FARABLOC, which is harmless. FARABLOC looks and feeis Details about the study may be obtained »y contacting: Dr. T. Conine, University of British Columbia Telephone: 278-7392 cr 263-9444 Amputees may enroll anytime in the trial during 1990-1991 for a period of several weeks... important Note to the Amputee: You will be guided throughout the study (approx. 6 weeks) by experienced and professional staff in the G.F. Strong Centre. A) All names will be kept strictly confidential and will not be released to any other person, agency or institution. B) Your name wit! not appear on your personal report of the effect of FARABLOC. C) Travel expenses from your home to the G.F. Strong Centre and back will be paid to you in full. D) This Drug Free Test Product has no side effect and you can stop the test whenever you like. E) There are absolutely no obiigations — again, your name will not be revealed and expenses will be reimbursed. Dr. C. Hershler, GF. Strong Centre Telephone: 737-6337 os. SB) The North Shore Association A for the Physically Handicapped “~ WE'LL BE CALLING YOU! The North Shore Association for the Physically Handicapped wants to let you know that we are currently conducting our annual fund raising campaign, from January 8 to February 28, 1990. We are raising money to refurnish and re-equip our group home for children with physical handicaps. Quinton Home is One of several services which NSAPH. Operates to assist children and adults who are physically handicapped. if you have not been contacted by our tele- marketing team, or would like more information please contact us at 985-5371. Ask for lan Joeck, Executive Director. CALL 985-5371 School of Rehabilitation Medicine Faculty of Medicine T106-2211 Wesbrook Mall Vancouver, B.C. Canada V6T 2B5