46 ~ Wednesday, July 31, 1991 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Get the hair fetishist to a therapist Q. MY WIFE and [ have been happily married for 49 years, but Pm not sure if we're going to make the £0th without a divorce. Dr. Ruth Westheimer RUTH ASK DR. Me and my big mouth! | made the mistake of telling ber how much I admired the littl filly my grandson is dating. ‘*She looks just like the woman of my fan- tasies,’’ | said. My wife asked me about those fantasies. I told her. She hit the roof. It doesn’t bother her that | ad- mire my grandson’s girlfriend. She knows I'm no dirty old man. But she is furious to know I’ve had fantasies about another woman all my life. This has ended our sex life. She won't have anything to do with Cycling event set for September From page 45 and Vancouver where they were raised and the fish later released into local streams as part of an education conservation-nature program. The Seymour Salmonid Society rises all of its own capital funds from open houses, membership fees and clothing sales and through donations to its annual Dogfish Derby. As part of its fundraising drive, the society will hold a Seymour Salmon Cycle on Sept. 29 at the Seymour Demonstration Forest in North Vancouver, Registration forms for the event can be picked up from the Seymour Salmonid Society, P.O. Box 52060, North Vancouver, V7J 3T2. The registration deadline is Sept. 13. For more information about the cycling event or the hatchery, call the society at 980-9893, ab only in am | Me nord. stupid? AN. Onds stupid? Youre not ab. normal Eversene has fantiastes. but few peonie have pirtners who really want to hear about their fantasies, Most peaple feel threat. ened to hear that their spouse fan- tasizes about another lover. If you had only written to ame first. | would have told sou: Keep your mouth shut! Now as too late for that. You will have to woo her back if you want to have a SOth wedding anniversac. Pull out all the ramantic stops. Tell her, “Honey. Toswant the reat thing, not a fantasy!" Q. My boyfriend is strongly at. tached to omy hair, We've been dating for five years, During thal time, | haven't cut my hair. at his insistence. 1am getting very tired of having so niuch hair. In the summer, it) is anymore She says Am oT?) Or hot. 1 We've put a selection 0 Buy Oil or Acrylic EXTERIOR EXTERIOR WO EMIUM PTERIOR Cloverdale Paint PRIMERS AND f our best outsi Now EXTERIOR WOOD STAINS spend too much time washing ane desing at all year long. fowant at short, chic hintdao. Phe says it four my ham, he won't hase sex with me anymore. Peeonesver heard of a man whe would give up sex over a hutrene. Do you think be means it? My girttiends think the hair thing is a controb issue with him. bodo know he finds my hati sexy, When we make love. he rubs i over his venitals and back and forth across his nipples. b like thir, Bat Um tied of the baie. AU this hair is making me miserable. What should [do? Would he reat- Ih stop having sex with me iff cut my hair? A. Height! [suspect be has a hair oftetish, not a hair control issue. A fetishist is dependent: on the fetish for his sexual areusal and orgasm, If he has this fetish, he might Save! SALE ENDS AU See Our Flyer For 16° HOUSE PAINTS *9Q9S Flat Alkyd or Semi Gioss op PRIMER FENCE STAI , 1 GUST 11, 199 More Great Buys! not beable fo hase sex with yeu ater a hamweut. But sou can't asalk Chroush life under pounds of Uap fOosatisty aman’ s fetish! Cur sour hair, begause ios making son oiseratbte, feohe can’t make love ta vou, get hbn to a therapist. Or buy a win! Q. Several sear aga J bad an altair, and omy wile found out about it. She said (| would have to give the woman up or she'd leave me. Powas really glad to have an excuse to end the thing. bur my sife has neser quite believed thar. Recently, | bevan to suspect she is having an attain of her own, Vin really seared. f doen't want to lose her, My own affair was just a stupid lite fling. | wanted to see if sex would be different with someone other chan omy wife. Tt really Masp't. Bar different for affairs are 05250 03360 01120 13210 PREMIUM INTERIOR ACRYLIC Reg. $34.99 INTERIOR PA IN CASE ean PREMIUM LATEX SEALER LATEX CEILING PAINT LATEX SEMi GLOSS SEMI GLOSS ENAMEL $ 1 SATIN aaa seamen, arent they! My bie fear hy that she’san dove with someone che. ff Ptell her PE khnow, PU have to do the same thing she did, issue anooultimatum. Im afraid to do that, hecause she might leave. Help! Noo dUs true that men and women have affairs for different reasons. Some women say they are looking for ramance or proof they ure still attracnve foo men. 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