32 - Wednesday, February 20, 1985 - North Shace News March 10. Right now you can save 15% on dress fabrics and ail patterns. Sale ends Expert Dressmaking & Alterations. Sewing Room 1717 Lonsdale, N. Van. 988-5822 dissatisfied with his services? Or if one of them absent- mindedly asks you at a party if your discharge has cleared up?) Miss Manners would prefer to handle this now. miss manners by Judith. Martin . EAR MISS MANNERS — This is serious: _ { just called my architect. I identified myself as Leonora Rogers. The (new) secretary said: ‘Leonora, he’s in a meeting right now. Conld I have him call you?" — Was I wrong? Should | identified yourself correctly ee have said “Mrs. Rogers’? [to the architect's secretary, ' know thatshewaswrenp,butfl but you could have then told am sure nothing will change. her, “Be sure and tell him About a year and a half that it was Mrs. Rogers who ago, I was secking mortgage — called."" The mortgage com- money. Aman fromthe com- — pany representative and the pany called me by my first bus driver should have been nume! They did not handle informed pleasantly that my sifuation. Two weeks ‘‘No, Leonora is my first ago, a bus driver practiced name. My last name is the same effontery. It was a Rogers. Mrs. Rogers.” tour, and he saw my nasie on ° the contract. DEAK MISS MANNERS I work ina government of- — When one has friends fice where use of first names © whose husbands are profes- is the practice, but J know sionals (doctors, lawyers, ’ these people! Yet it is hairdressers, etc.), just what ‘ unsettling. is one’s obligation to use oe frealize that you have writ- these services? ten about this, yet the pro- . ble is still out there. Please ! have more han once een attack again. coerced into making appoint- ments with friends’ spouses GENTLE READER ~~ with a promise that 1 will ‘Miss Manners will offer you receive discounts, etc. I feel a bargain. She will attack very uncomfortable doing again, and keep on attacking this, and prefer to continue until this dreadful problem is going to my own dentist, solved, provided you help manicurist, etc.. but do not out, at least by refraining quite know how to go about from conceding that this without iasulting my “nothing will change.’” friends. They are all more ! She knows from her mail thaw acquaintances, and I ‘that a tremendous number of have struggled along with people hate the instant use of — them: on their husbands’ rises first names. Far from making to glory. Must J now become ‘people feel comfortable, as is their customer? claimed, the phoniness of us- . ing the forms of friendship GENTLE READER — If . where no friendship exists is you are uncomfortable now, . highly offensive. how will you fect if you take Please take the care to cor- on one of these practitioners rect these people gently. You as a favor and find yourself Appliance proniem? . call 986-0080 APPLIANCE | | LONSDALE REPAIRS LTD. ‘ Day of evening service ~ 0/ OFF 0 WITH THIS : SENIORS DISCOUNT 184 Pemberton, North Vancouver te She is strongly against mix- ing business with social life for many reasons. Fortunate- ly, she is also very good at polite ways of stubbornly refusing to be coerced into doing something she doesn't want to do. The one for this occasion is, *Oh, dear, I know Judson isa genius, but I can't be dis- loyal to my Mr. Sprakling, whem I've been going to for years." e DEAR MISS MANNERS — How does one teil a guest . (politely, of course) to keep: their feet off of my sofa or chair? Even if guests remove their shoes, J still find this practice extremely rude and incon- siderate. And what about the children of guest who climb all over my furniture as if it were a Jungle Gym? GENTLE READER — The solution here is to be more hospitable to ‘your guests, not less, First you need a footstool. It can even be a theoretical footstool, if you don’t want to spend the money or have the thing around. As soon as someone puis up his feet, you shout hospitably, ‘Let me get you a footstool!” Startled, the person will reply, “No, no, don’t bother, I'm fine.’’ . Now WAREHOUSE PRICED! 3 Standing up, and frantical- ly looking around for the non-existent: footstool, you say: ‘‘No, you can't be. That chair was never meant for people's feet. You really need a footstool. Oh, dear, where is the silly thing? No, no, J in- sist. ] want you to be comfor- table.”* And so on. undid the person is so thoroughly un- comfortable that he sits up and behaves himself. Children are even easier. Just shout, “No, no, get down -- that’s not safe!’ You then flash a worried but apologetic smile to the parents, saying: “Oh, dear, | get so frightened. That sofa is really very fragile, and if i broke and one of your children got hurt, 1 would never forgive myself."’ DEAR MISS MANNERS — My friend, who returned to graduate school last year, was recently in a skiing acci- dent that caused hea to miss a week of classes and teft her with Ger leg in a cast. ‘when she got back, the DISHWASHERS ae ..the newest models Is 4 ERTISEO REFUND at at YOU FIND IT ADV FO EO WELL THE DIFFERENCE - HOME FURNISHINGS Warehouse/Showroom OPEN TO THE PUBLIC {2 blks. behind the Avalon) at 1075 Roosevelt Cres., N.Van, 225%, 986-8738 12- 24 Sun: y, PASCOUNT: , On _ oe = ‘BLINDS “SS serving the North Shore ww 12. years. ca co = lege INTRODUCTION To; ~ BOOKKEEPING f _ February’ oT to-April 22 : & Thurs. 1; :30- 3:30, Fri. 8: 30- 10: 30 ny An introductory course in bookkeeping [ for modern business. Ideal for those with little or ne knowledge who wish to B understand the double entry system and the financial cycle. Call 986-1911, local 426 to register. # EEN chairman of her graduate department saw her on erut- ches and yelled, ‘So you really did hurt your leg — 1 assumed you had a hysterectomy." How should one deal with buffoons like this = man? Please keep in mind that she hopes to get her doctorate from a department headed by this potential Thankspiving meal. GENTLE READER — [t was a grave mistake for young ladies, in the interests of vlending in with such peo- ple as you describe, to give up the weapon of being shocked. If one takes the trouble to inform this person of the ex- treine humiliation one feels in hearing a public reference from him to one’s sexuality, conceding that one thinks it possible that he is unaware how harassing this is, and suggesting that one consult with his female colleagues tosee if one’s reaction was out of line, Miss Manners Casual use of first names must stop promises you that the com- plaint will nat be considered a sign of weakness. 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