cee Sunday News, January 4, 1981 QUESTION: My wife. thinks I'm: losing ny ..sense; and “the ‘feeling they | are looking sometimes I. wonder. about it at me like I was from outer myself. I'm 30 (0 and in the last space or something. All sorts foul ars’ T° of “queer: * coincidences different kind happen to me too. Little The: rking space just ‘where P've nd moving wanted to park.: Things like e the feeling that. It’s a fun thing in a way, hey. are _super .but also I am a listle bit ul, although F could: --anxious--about it. I really not tell’ ‘you what they mean. should not have said these I've also had a few ESP things are happening in the experiences. Ihesitate tosay last three or four years. It's this in ‘an anonymous letter ~ jus? that. they are happening to the paper, ‘but on. two ... more Row than before. Ever see a ink: | should _ later-on. I guess it:was ‘dumb: 't _ psychiatrist? of me to tell a ew people "easily? I have a couple of ‘just: written. ‘friends, who pave ex- 8 month plone -perlenced: “hreak-u and “about 20 minutes, later they've forgotten it: ai into a new one, Why not me? Tam still shook up terribly. De ‘'L fore. for your sake, that “her: all your “friends*and_ loved a, "plots bit: of: ones don’t read. your letter preaching isn’t it? I like. and become : ‘conyinced that receiving mach’ ‘more: than: your theory is a, good one Ain: fact,:on- the!” and that they’d-like to-adopt Q ‘ity’ too. Woops! ‘Suddenly Receiving. dandy. with: ‘me, ee but giving ts mostly done just” to. show off. Don't you agree? oe _ STEWART: It’s refreshing to. learn from you tnat you don't. want to show off through your giving. The . “ more anonymous giving . _about. it because now 1 get - ‘ STEWART: If only you could sell your ability to find parking space! If the truth were known, I. believe we would discover there are many thousands more people with your_sort — of experiences than we have | ever dreamed. (Two people’ have come to me. for counselling in the last-month who have said similar things to me.) I would suggest you be quietly grateful for any , little “extra” you may have . going for you. I would further suggest that you be.. . very selective about whom you talk to about it and that you live a full and wholesome life that will help you to refrain from being rieve lostlove . than that of those two friends of yours. If your relationship was important to you, it is natural that ending it will be a jolter for you. You have strong feelings and that is good. Perhaps you are getting near the end of your “grieving” and soon will be ready to live again. The strength of your feelings is valid. If you sense you are ded to give.... your receiving, which is so “blessed” to you, would be _out to lunch. Any theory you have that you hope others won't adopt is suspect. You want only to receive — not give. Are you ready for “everyone to go that direc- tion? Is fimess Important? Ask any body. PARTICIPAE Ton: Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart ma reached at. 261. for appointments for individual, family or roup counselli office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open: Auesdays. only) is fort convenience of North Skore residents. * “ -¥: preoccupied and -absorbed _. with something about which. , you.“seem - to have’ some = , anxiety. Don’t: “TRE; to- make | something of - your ‘gifts, but rather, patiently go about your fulfillment and day-to-day living, alert to all of your advantages and open to their offerings. wallowing a bit, and mut- tering “poor me” too often, then you will need to choose. to hurry your grieving along and enter into your time of recovery and fulfillment, Be giad it has been hard for you. You are not a cold customer who can walk ‘away from — love as though it didn’t matter. It does and it wil | again! FULL 10-YEAR WARRANTY | PLUS COMFORT GUARANTEE. Wide Selection of Colourful Covers. FREE BROCI 731-2311 FREE BROCHURE Hordic 1916 FIR STREET (at 3rd Ave. ‘Off Most Fabrics NEW “ NORTH SHORE SERVICE Shop in the Comfort : of Your Home All Work Guaranteed PARAMOUNT IN TERIORS — | Free Estimates -§239 Victoria Drive Custom: U holstering’ Vancouver, B.C. . Gustom Furniture , V5P 3V4 - Phone 321-601 1.