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In pursuit of romance in the '90s

TO PARAPHRASE the Roll-
ing Stones (which puts me on
the shelf), you can’t always get
what you want, but if you

want to try sometime, how

might you meet the love of
our life? ~

By Martin Millerchip
Contributing Writer -

Being single in the 90s is not.

nearly as much fun as it was in'the
‘70s.

The pursuit of romance has
never seemed so fraught with diffi-
culty. ‘

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Men are afraid of appearing
insensitive and aggressive. Women
are just plain afraid of aggression.

The television movie of the

. week is cither about date rape or

justifiable homicide, while other
insidious forms of sexual harass-
ment are constantly debated in
newspaper columns.

And is the minefield of sexual
politics worth the endeavor?

The danger of the HIV virus is

not going to diminish any time’

soon, while the chances of con-
tracting other forms of sexually
transmitted diseases such as herpes
are also increasing. .

In fact it’s this type of pes-
simism that daunts many cowardly
cocooners before they even get their
hair cut. :

But‘far more common is the
lonely person who will list the
above reasons and a myriad more
relating to pressures of work rather
than objectively examining the rea-
sons for a life that has been placed

on hold. vo
~ Emotional and psychological
counselling stitl carry an unneces-. *
sary stigma in far too many pco-

ple’s minds. Qualified help is avail-
able if you have the strength to sce
it. ; . ;

Yet the quick fix of tabloid-style
self-help books and magazines is a
multimillion dollar industry and
radio’s “agony aunts" proliferate

like mould on a shower curtain. |

It is overly simplistic to suggest

“that ‘self-love must precede true.

love, but it might be worth a long,
hard look in the mirror before
advertising for a mate in the classi-
fieds. . :
Which areas of your life are ful-
filling? Will a partner increase your
pleasure in these areas or are you

looking for someone else to take ©

responsibility for areas of weak-

~ ness?

Take courage. Nobody’s perfect
and perhaps your honesty, if con-
fessed, will impress the heck out of
the first kind heart you mect.: ~~

” So,'assuming you can look your
mirror in the eye, what next?

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TRYING TO meet someone is not always easy,-and many peo-
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* friends and potential mates.

ual cruise round the fresh produce
department at Safeway (“How do

you tell when a melon is ripe?" has.

never worked for me), there is
always the less adventurous
anonymity of voice mail and the

_initial. written contact of personal
columns. ;

The advantage of voice ads for
the hesitant and terminally shy is
the option of scanning the messages

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left by other seekers until motivated
torespond. OO ape
_. There is no charge for telephone
cruising in some newspaper sys
tems until you actually want to”
respond. 78 ae es
At that point, a credit card-and a
touch-tone phone will get you tak

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