C10 - Sunday, February 28, 1982 - North Shore News Waiting for the jeers and scolding QUESTION: At the risk of getting a scolding retort out of you and a lot of jeering and hooting from your QUESTION: I work at a place where the boss is the owner of the business, the supt., the foreman and the big cheese. He is the kind of guy who brags about how well the business is going and five minutes later moans about his debts and the bad times. He likes to make big pronouncements of policy and then the following week he will forget what he said or ignore ft and work on the basis of a different policy all together. He allots re- sponsibilities and then criticizes because some guy does what he told him to do, or because he did not do it. He ts cruelly sarcastic about our work. At times I admire him a lot and the next day | hate his guts. 've tried once or twice to talk with him about these things, but did not make the slightest dint. What can I do? What can all of us da? readers, I want to ask you to discuss a question that is on my mind. First though, I want you STEWART: Three more or less traditional procedures offer themselves for your consideration. 1. Quit. 2. Accept the way it is. keep your trap shut and make the best of it. 3. On your own, or with two or three others, try to arrive at some con- structive strategy for im- proving the situation. You may see, along with me that there is some sense in ex- ploring the third alternative first. If it fails, you can still fall back on the other two - if you are not fired. If you choose number three, decide that you will move slowly and with great patience. Select one or two others who work with you who are most likely to have good ideas and are not so belligerent that they would blow it. Get together in one of your homes and talk talk talk. 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You might even invite someone who does not work with you, to sit in on the’ con- versations, if you can find someone you think will be objective and fair and is “a good idea man.” It need hardly be said that if you spend your time trying to figure out how to show the women and that I am delighted with the laudable progress women have made in their move toward freedom and independence. lam happy to be alive in this age when the rights of human beings have been given a lot more attention (especially for women). Such attention is long overdue and 1 applaud it’s long-postponed bot warmly welcomed arrival on the scene. | am aware of and have deplored the traditionally male- dominated social pattern to understand the boss boss all the mistakes he is making, almost certainly you will not get to first base. Rather, you should work at coming up with ideas that you honestly feel will make a worthwhile contribution to his business. 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Why, Pll never know. I feel sure that, along with me, you will have seen the natural good sense and appropriateness of the wife in a family being responsible for handling the disposal of the family garbage. That seems so right to me that when it ts questioned I can understand why some people are critical of the feminist Adevanden movement as going to ex- cess. I don't want to press my point, but only to request your candid rejoinder. STEWART: Here's my “candid rejoinder,” but you won't get a “scolding retort” out of me. And it is my guess that you will not get ‘a lot of jeering and hooting” from our readers. Sorry, about that old man, because | think that’s what you really wanted. You see. hardly anyone will want to waste time on scolding or jeering or hooting when they feel that the fellow who is asking for it is just out for an argument. Your letter does not find me receptive to giving it consideraton. | think our readers will feel likewise, but I might be wrong. 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