- Freelance reached .at- 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. His new office in the Plaza international “Hotel © (open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience. of- North Shore ° residents. — boring QUESTION: The Variety Club must be a pretty good outfit, but I sure wish they'd preserve us from still another TELETHON! That's such a boring program. Surely there’s a better way! STEWART: I agree. There must be a better way. But I have not thought of it yet and apparently you haven't either. If either of us comes up with that jewel, I’m sure the Variety Clubs would use fae A it immediately. . Meanwhile, the telethon has raised a few million dollars for very worthy causes and is ready to go again. I for one wish them the very very best results this year. If it’s just the show that is bothering you, perhaps you could get along all right without watching it. What would you do instead? Well why not get in touch with the Variety Club and offer to give your voluntary help in some manner? You might not have to watch the show at all. You might be too busy behind the scenes. You would probably enjoy it. If you get too bored, get a picture in your mind’s eye of that marvellous Children’s Hospital that is going up on Oak Street, largely due to that boring Telethon. Who me? QUESTION: What you called the Trust Princtples when you talked at the International Plaza last month are too simplistic to be taken very seriously. I hope on February 25 you'll take a shot at being a little more profound. STEWART: Me, take o shot at being more profound? You mean right smack in the middie of my dedicated shot at being more simple? You ask too much of me. But it’s real good of you to plan on coming on the 25th even though you’ were disappointed last time. Come without any specific expectations of me and we'll see how it goes, Seontent, “arrangement, I am. rather aa | ‘ Counsellor | Hayden Stewart’ may be o , : Cd) _. QUESTION: I have a fob | lat. alt “me -to be. ‘ dependable and responsible “that. allows: in helping our ‘family to eat d have a roof over. our my ‘job. It is simply for the purpose of allowing me to do what I enjoy doing most — paying our bills and ex- Bloring the joys of painting, and sculpting. lam __ feeling guilty about it. ‘with = this - ‘activity, although I can quite readily enjoy a fun evening. _ My wife, on the other hand fs a whirling dervish. She has a part-time job (about 3/4 of being full-time) she is active. in politics, a real “worker” at our church, somehow finds the time to. serve on the boards of two splendidly useful ‘ organizations, spends one night a week in Cap College , studies, and even keeps alive - @ rather thin social life. She . is as happy as a lark and dynamically energetic. I am afraid that our will one day tear us apart. She enjoys so much, being on the go and I -enjoy so much being quiet and alone. Do you have the feeling that we are so different that perhaps we should not be together? I love my wife and am sure she loves me and the thought of pulling “apart _depresses and frightens me. I enjoy being with her, but she is so busy in her way and I in mine. I suppose we should be together more. What do -youthink? = STEWART: Where does it Wants to heads. I do not dislike or like. erent? | say “we: SHOULD be. together more”? I. get the - _ feeling that you enjoy. the set-up, and, moreover, that SHE enjoys it too. If you both enjoy what you are doing, the danger to you is not in following. your own . -bents, but in feeling . that there is something wrong with your doing so and then She is happy and you are happy. Why not give each other full reckless per- mission to each do the thing you enjoy and live in the manner that contributes to your happiness? You are ‘close to making that work: well right now. You will - ‘come even closer to making it work well if you trust each other in this area of your relationship. ~ There is another thing that will help make it work well for you,. and that is — to respect and appreciate the experiences that you mutually cherish. It is not a matter of arriving at some complex schedule that allows for your. times - together and yet lets you be alone and lets her do her thing.-It is more a matter of so enjoying each other. that your times together are a delight to both of you.. You apparently do not need as much togetherness as some couples do. So, your op- ‘portunity is. to be found in ‘making the times you ARE together delightfully loving and sharing and then getting on with your separate en- joyments. If the quality of your togetherness is rich, then you are qualified for a rich solitariness as well. And — “that can be beautiful. | . change direction QUESTION: Perhaps I'm a little “teched”, but at the ripe old age of 46 I am deterniined to change my work and my style of living. I've worked with the same company since I was 21 and those 25 years have been good to me, but I just don’t see doing the same thing for another 20 years or so. It’s not that I'm tired of my work or that I think ft fs pointless, It's just that I want to move into a field of work Ive always wanted to do, but have done only as a hobby that I love. Our financial status Is not too healthy. By that I mean we've only got cnough money to last us a little less than a year. Do you think I am crary, or even just unwise, to consider a big change like this? My wile is supporting me in my considerations, but I think she’s scared. Two of our children are on their own and one fs still with us. I guess I'm scared too, but should that stop me? STEWART: Be grateful for your fear of the change. That fear may help you do what you hunger to do without doing it in a foolhardy way. | would hope you will not just throw up your job and wish for the best. Why not give yourself a year or so to do everything in your power to plan and make arrangements and consider the best ways that are open fo you? Consult with everyone that is in a position to help you shift gears as smoothly as possible. Explore your own thinking to see if you are day-dreaming about your day-dreaming. Are you satisfied that you are BEING the sort of person who can pull off this big change? You'll have a year or so to BE the person you need to be in order to do what you want to do. So, BE first, then do} Make your choice and then announce to your sub- conscious that you want it to get busy helping you bring it off. Visualize the end results you want and move toward them with abundant ex- pectancy. I nearly ended up y saying “smooth sailing’! But that's not good enough. How's this? Plan for your new work and work for your new plan! because every child has the right to smile wae faibom ii ice teal Yor ca thee Chiles Unicef Canada © . eS ‘ em ER mR OO a g Page 49, February 21, 1979 - North Shore Nes: 14 Point Tune-up 4 CYLINDER 3 6 CYLINDER ‘OR LESS. 8 CYLINDER 88 : ORLESS : ae Prices quoted are for parts and labour, most cars. Air conditioned cars extra. Here's what we do: ~ 1 Initial ignition system 5 Perform cylinder balance - 10 Check and lubricate heat analysis. test. riser valve, 11. Check & adjust idle mixture 12 Check fuel pump and filter for proper operation. 13 Check air cleaner element. 14 Final ignition system. analysis. Uniflo Oil Change and Atlas High Mileage Filter Special ws Contains friction reducers for fuel - economy. m Up to 15,000 miles between changes. # ATLAS High Mileage filter 2 Test & clean battery. cables and nold down. 3 Supply & install new spark plugs. 4 Supply & install new points and condenser. 6 Check rotor. 7 Check H. 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