et commitment out of mama's boy Q..-1 AM OLDER than my boyfriend; which has net Been ' bad-for us antil lately. If anything, the age difference. had helped. Surprisingly, | his mother was all for our affair in the ee _— acme he got serious about me. , grotesquely" pésseaniva ‘and a interfeing, and now. ke says ke is afraid. of ccom- mitment, He was. not efraid of. it. when Mom was permissive. I can’t give this man up withont a strug- _ gle? Is he 2 lost cause? A. There. should not be three people in your relationship. His mother.has to be eased out of it somehow, ideally so that you end up with diplomatic rélations with her, or at least a truve. Who. knows why his ‘mother began to interfere? “You jump to ‘the conclusion that .it is your ‘age. it might" be. Maybe. she accepted ‘you. because she thought he would * not-think of you seriously, then as it turned out, he did. But your age might not be the ‘trouble at all. . MAKE YOURSELF some fancy : in Penorama Park on Saturday, July 29 when the Imagi- nation Market sets up its bins and barrels of recycled materials. The public is invited to visit the Deep Cove park from noon to 4 p.m. for a free afternoon of cre- ative hat-making. . The. Imagination Market is a non-profit arts and recycling organization that collects a variety of safe, industrial off-casts and makes them available for creative re-use through workshops, zetaii sales and mail order. Its goals are to increase both creativity and environmental awareness. For further information gall the Imagination Market at 253-1033. WHERE YOUR WILDEST DREAMS COME TRUE! 2 Two Bi BIG SHOWS |j ONE HOUR BEFORE AUG. 2 &3 at the m Lonsdale © Recreation Centre © 2pm & 7pm both days. Maybe nobody i is good enough for her bey; maybe she wants to keep him to herself... These things, are beyond your power to change. The man has to make up his mind to have you in spite of Mom. If ke can’t, if you have good reason to think he will go under in this struggle with her, then you must make the decision to end the affair. If you end it, that will be your decision, which will-be good for you thereafter. Then you will not have been dumped by him and his mcther. Telling nim it is over may cause him to grow some independence and plead his cause with you — in which case, you would have to use your best judgment. { could not prejudge that. LONSDALE Dr. Ruth Westheimer @. My husband ts very loving ly by and will do whatever he canto br- QUAY ing me to orgasm, but in six years of marriage he fas succeeded only four times. I don’t mean that he falls to ackieve ‘his during inter- course — that seems to be 2 lost cavse and I do not expect it. I mean there is no orgesm for me dering chared marital sex of any kind. His effortz to stimulate me to orgasm.are fatiie. ‘I want to keep this marriage. He is a good father and husband and is lovable and livable. We are ox different backgrounds, but the one. really bad thing in our marriage fs the sexuz! disappointment. I do find myself thinking more fre- quently of late about sexual affairs with othe Gistarb! d.. come thougt me (ona them, no*: matter’: what _ unwelcome thoughts. A. We can control! our thoughts. Thoughts like that can be sent_on their way briskly. Maybe they - show up iike flies in summer, but... they need not dominate our minds. ‘There is, however, a more” serious line of thought you seem to indulge that may be more harmful to your marriage, and to the sexual part of it, than any failure of your husband in sexual technique. You may uot be accepting. him fully because of that . background dif- ference you mention. . It would be good for you te explore‘this issue with a marital counselor -- by - which I mean a sex therapist with ‘training in marital counseling. Nowadays almost all Sex. therapists, Hf your hasband - chas “ prougia : you to orgasm four times, he can do it more regularly if: you permit it to happen... No: women has orgasms unless she, permits | herself per-Caganova she is in bed with. : ‘Exramarital affairs wiil only: make your. marital diffi ficulties: more troublesome. Avoid them like the ‘plague. Which, in’ this’ ‘infectious era, they are = Hkety to bring y you. MARKET. SUm@l F festaval! FREE Come jig, reel, come listen with to come your heart NATURAL ELEMENTS on the Harbour Deck this Sunday, and celebrate SUNDAY. something CONCERTS. Come, bask - ins ‘the:- harbour. - breeze. Sip, Slurp or. munch woe tasty. : and cool. Grab-the kids, tell. “your. “ a Celtic summer feast for the ears! This Sun- day. ’til Labour Day, we're serving up jazz, _biues, folk, ‘fiddles, marim- ‘bas and rock ’n’ roll. Rain or shine, it’s a smorgasb@rd of good listening with something for everggne under the sun. @ friends, bring” your eel s@nmer - let the. sun” shine “in - this . Sunday, “with ” NATURAL ELEMENTS! - ‘Be with | us next week. for Brassroots. Info” Op en 7 Days a Week 9: 30 a.m. t0°6:30 pm. Thurs ScFri ‘cil 9:00 p.m. Restaurants: open lates 985-6261... Produced by Street. Access.