‘QUESTION: My wife had
the idea years ago for us te
get a little place where we
could “‘get away from it ali”.

whenever we wanted to. The
idea was fer it to be simple,
‘but big enough for our two.
kids to be with us there im the .

summers. Well, we are not

- well-to-do by any means and
so we had to plan and save .
and do a let of the work -
ourselves and we really
enjoyed. getting our big

‘project underway and, over
several yeurs, ‘getting it to
completion...
- couple of years we’ve been
able to spemd a little time

‘there ocff-and on, but it was.
not really finished until this

spring. Meanwhile, our kids

_have married and are mot

‘living mear here and so the
place is all ready for just us

two. Seunds ideal, docan’t -
it? But as far ‘as Pm
concerned there’s a great big”

‘Freeiance Gounseiter fiaycen’

“ Stewart ‘does private counsel-" ©

ting 6s well'as a great deal of
group work. He can be
contacted at 261-@242 for
information and appointments.
- Letters. “are always welcome.
‘them -HAYDEN
‘STEWART, ele. ‘the North
- Shore News, #202-1138 Lons:
dale, North Van.

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‘Light’ reply
‘saves energy

QUESTION:
disappointed by your com-
menting so lightly about the
efforts of Bernice Gerrard in -
regard to nudity. on certain
Vancouver beaches. You also
were rather snide | about |
Anita Bryant.

~~

“STEWART: Giving support

to. Bernice Gerrard’s opera- |

tion. is beyond me. (I try to
conserve my energy) Attack-
Ing her operation. seems:
senseless,
effort seems senseless to
mee I try to conserve |

. energ So, -I took the
ight” route and felt: sort of
goad about it.

“About Anita sisame 1.

didn’t TRY to be snide. It’s
just that I think her methods
are deplorable. Even though
I’m not too keen on Bernice’s
methods, I think they are
much more. commendable .
«than = Anita’s.. I merely
' expressed \the hope that’
‘Anita might get a better idea
from Bernice. Can you join
mein cuch a hope? |

‘Fer the last =
enfoy a whele menth

STEWART:

- QUESTION:
about golf that makes so

I. was ‘rather.

and when an

catch to it.

My wife—to my great
surprise, wants another
couple to come and spend.
their month of helidays with
us! They’re nice, peeple and

eee ) |
all, but Pve been feo

forward to having a real lazy
quiet time for just the two of
ux, Wife says—“‘We'd g

crazy! What would we do?”
Well darn it all, don’t need to
do anything. But we cam fish
and swim and hike and loaf |

and leaf and leaf. She says

there’s just mo way she’ll
OY af ©

nothing. So here we are after’

‘all cur work and planning
and. preparing, ‘all ready to

have our reward and imstead |

we are dangerously clese to

having a big argument. How
de. you setile that kind | of .
disagreement?

‘What is there

many women see red? I like
Gel ame i piey i when F ca

make it, but it seems my wife

~ just hates me to enjoy

myself. Ordinarily, even im
real good weather, I play
only about four times a week
but my wife acts like Pm off.

- to the golf course every time —

I cam spare an. hour. Do you
think she should nag me all
the time about this small,

paaeee GEES

harmless, ‘healthy pleasure’? ae

Sa SWART: 3

I have 2 feel-
ing this is a ‘‘come-on”’ for

~ me to write a stinky reply and.
_ then get a ‘phone call from.
--.some. friend, saying,

bit! “You answered my fool -

“You.

QUESTION:

= What's

.. WRONG with Bernice Ger-
rard trying to do something
about. pamalty ¢ on our beaches?

- STEWART: Oh golly
-don’t' suppose. there

anything terribly WRONG
about it the way it’s going
right now. Where it might |
lead scares me a bit though. I
wonder, what’s next. My .
guess about Bernice Gerrard |
is that ‘she is ‘tagainst”’ 2 lot:
of other things besides:
nudity. For example ‘she is’
probably opposed ‘to: drink-

ing. She handles her oppos<

ition by being a tee-totaller (I
am asiiuming) and by staying |
away from: pubs, etc. In that

My. mother
says I should go back : to
school in September. ‘and
keep on going. My dedi says I
should quit now and get.a job.
because fellows with dogrees
are having just as hard a time

getting jobs as ‘dropouts.
Which do you think I should
do? Pm 17. 1 don’t ~inow

which I should do.

STEWART: | Never mind
the. question, *‘which
SHOULD | do.’’ Do you

sense—in your better mom-

ents, .any real inward tug?

You see, if you want to know
which choice someone else
thinks, you ‘SHOULD’’
make, or, if you have no

My suggestion.

™

seems so simple that surely

you must have | alrezdy

discussed it. Why ‘not do ¢
both things? Your. wife may |

be right you know. You’ve so
looked forward. to having

your getaway place that now

ayrruse eA chat atime

yvu are longing to spend
your time there. But perhaps
a whole month WOULD be a
drag, even for you. So why

. don’t the two of you get up
there all alone for 10 days or

two. weeks, and get every-
thing all set for a visit from

your friends for a week or so? - |

Perhaps each of you would
be willing to— compromise

sufficiently to enjoy BOTH I
ideas. If each of you happens “|
to read this letter, you may- |

find yourselves willing to
compromise in such a. way
that neither will feel he is
giving in and: losing the
argument. Each of you couid

OFFER the compromise to.
the other. Have fun, you two!

letter about golf!”

Well anyway—I don’t

think your wife. is nagging
you because vou play goif a
lot. It’s more likely she is”

nagging because you don’t
. want to see her a lot. Four

_times a week feels like a lot
to her even if you just take a—

spare hour. (Where do. you

live, next door to a-seven |

hole Pitch-and-Putt?) Why |

don’t you write me about the
REAL thing that’s bugging.

you? ‘It ‘sure ‘isn’t your.
‘*small, harmless,
pleasure.”

fom ae on om oA

about being nagged over
your golf, you’ll miss. facing

-up to what’s going wrong in:
fact. You feel like: you ‘reina .
trap—but it sure‘isn’t a golf
trap. Where are you? — 7

healthy
If you: whine .

Ba) era |

way, she’ needs not mingle {_

that makes good sense. She

‘is not a snob. because she

makes. that choice, nor is she

‘self-righteous. Rather she is

simply making a choice for

herself with dignity (I hone) | |

about -her own way of life.
Good.: I: would suggest she
‘has that
“regard to the sort of nudity
‘that is upsetting to her.
Wreck Beach is one of the
easiest places in Greater
Vancouver to stay away
from. I’ve done it since 1939
without effort.

Know your own
goals and

QUESTION: |

needs

leaning of ‘your own, it
doesn’t matter a heck of a lot
which choice you make.

: Want a third alternative?
Get at the exciting business

of becoming more and-more.

your own person so you will

be increasingly evvare of your:

own desires. and needs and
goals. Yous mom wants one

thing, your dad wants an-—

other.. Go after your own
answer. It’s a mature route
to take when you say, “‘Help
me think this through so 1-
can come to my chuice.'’ But
it’s little kid stuff to say,
“Tell me what I should do.”’
For your own joy, make. sure
the think you do is YOUR,

”

“thing.

opportunity in|

“with people who: are doing {|
something slie dislikes, or .
considers harmful, nor does.
she have to see them do it.
She chooses to stay away and

‘

, ial &

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